Ragebait. It's boring and pointless, and it brings out the worst in everyone. I never understood the appeal of being a "troll" though, so idk.

Something else I don't miss, and maybe this is a little more personal, but often when I would try to participate in a conversation, my comment would get auto-removed for some rule/etiquette based reason I could never really wrap my head around. Like, derailing? I thought I knew what that meant, but had comments removed when I was like, "yeah that answer really resonates with me too! My 123 is xyz."

Lemmy so far has been much more welcoming to the neurodiverse and I appreciate the organic, freeflowing nature of conversation here.

Obviously, if someone's being provocatively hateful / an obvious troll, then nuke 'em.

But if people are just trying to join in on the conversation, don't be a pedantic dick about exactly what kind of conversation is allowed. It had gotten to the point where I was afraid to comment at all for fear I'd be doing it wrong.

Dude you are absolutely killing it.

Do you sleep??

Memmy just keeps getting better. Thank you for all your hard work.

I’ve been hearing good things about peertube and pixelfed, but have yet to really dive into either. Both are free and decentralized like lemmy though :)

https://joinpeertube.org (positioned to replace youtube)

https://pixelfed.org (more like instagram?)

I can’t believe I’m only now looking into the decentralized side of the social internet - I’m usually an early adopter lol. Been a boiling frog in corporate for too long.

My go-to is to ask what they like to do in their spare time.

A lot of the time you’ll get answers about how they have none or how it’s filled with chores, but you can always redirect and say, if you suddenly had a bunch of free time just for yourself, and you couldn’t use it to work, what would you fill it with?

In my mind the latter gets you down to what brings them joy, and in some cases how they want to see themselves, which can tell you a lot about a person.

lemmy.ca has blocked it too.

good eggs, those admins.

I love this.

It’s one of my passing hobbies to look up word lists like this - some of them are beautiful, and there’s something really satisfying about knowing this obscure and weird thing you’re experiencing is at least “normal” enough to have its own name.

Then I promptly forget, which is annoying, bit also means I get to discover them all over again a few months later.

On this list I can easily identify with 7/8 too

Other words you might appreciate:

Routineer: one that adheres to or insists on routine

Fika: a moment to slow down and appreciate the little things in life

Philocalist: lover of beauty; someone who finds beauty in all things

Querencia: a sanctuary where you feel safe …or even better, Snuggery: a cozy room

Fleshment: excitement associated with a successful beginning (we won’t talk about finishing the project)

Acatalepsy: the idea that it is impossible to truly comprehend anything

Of all the places to come and spew garbage. It’s a room for discussing an app… like get a hobby, damn.

I mean… you don’t.

It’s like the old “pick two” saying

You can have cheap and nice, but it’ll be really far (from any city these days, not just the gta)

Or you can have cheap and not far, but absolutely not nice. Lucky if it’s not condemned, honestly.

You cannot have all three. Genuinely sorry :/

I get it.

I’m not a dude or a parent… but these jokes are so stupid and clever and wholesome, they’re a simple breath of fresh air in a complicated, smoggy world.

Never understood why they’re referred to as “dad jokes” but then again I never had one, so w/e. They’re great and I’m here for them.

Memmy was easily my app of choice, but these are some big improvements so it’s between these two for sure now.

Each has important features the other doesn’t, but both are steaming ahead at a record pace. I know all about how the tiniest feature can take ages to code properly, so I’m really appreciative of all the work being poured into making lemmy more friendly.

Especially for us who had apollo set up just right for all our own personal idiosyncrasies lol

Thunder is too far behind to compete right now, but damn if the front runners aren’t setting the bar high

Yeah I think a lot of people equate education with overall intelligence, and that’s just not how it works.

I’ve personally known an anti-vaxxer with a PhD, MDs who wrote at a middling grade 8 level, and a literal rocket scientist who never could figure out his email lol

Highly educated people can be brilliant in their specific fields of study, while being absolute morons in other areas. They just had all the right opportunities, money, and the time/skills/ability to study, memorize, and pass tests.

I actually know at least a couple high school grads whom I’d consider more broadly intelligent than some of the MD & PhD holders I’ve worked with over the years.

The irony in this statement, talking about a known depressant lol

Drinking for me is increasingly borrowing happiness from tomorrow, and the older I get, the higher the interest rate climbs.

I’ll still enjoy a drink, but have definitely become more choosy about when and whether it’s worth it.

Someone did make goblincore, but it’s still mostly empty and I’m not talented enough to contribute lol

I loved looking through all the mossy green nature pics, tiny ecoscapes, mushrooms, frogs, and forest-witch style craftsmanship from people much more creative than myself

Yeah for me, the only draw back to reddit is in its history. There is a wealth of knowledge in those archives, and when I’m looking for balanced and useful answers from actual people (without affiliate links or bot-generated seo bs, or being “marked as duplicate” of another post with 13yr out of date answers lol) it was the best source for the longest time.

Used to be, anyway.

We’ll get there, we just haven’t had the time yet.

When I do open an r/ link that answers my question now, I’m doing it with their tracking, “features” & ads fully locked & blocked, then dipping right back out again. They really ruined a good thing.

easy enough!

The lemmit or whatever bot was the first “user” I blocked here.

It might not have been bad if they’d stuck to news articles, but so much content is more personal in nature and it feels gross to see it botted.

I’m not going to give advice or empathize with a bot who basically just stole someone’s question or story. OP isn’t even here, they aren’t going to see our comments. Just feels like talking about someone behind their back.

One of the things I love about lemmy is how much of the content and conversation is actually authentic.

Those bot posts are spam and need to go away.

Someone did make goblincore, but it’s still pretty empty and I’m not creative enough to meaningfully contribute.

I loved looking through all the happily amateur mossy green nature pics, tiny ecoscapes & terrariums, all the mushrooms, frogs, and foresty crafts & creations from people much more talented than myself.

The issue isn’t that the rooms don’t exist in this house, but more that the smaller niche ones are still just a couple shy people early to the party, waiting for the extroverts to show up lol

/running /bikewrench & /cycling /askscience & /science /autisticwithadhd /onguardforthee /ontario /kingstonontario /ontariogardeners /canadianinvestor /cozyplaces /ifyoulikeblank /notthebeaverton /oddlysatisfying /plantclinic /renovations

Also Select a Set was a very cool little music themed sub that I enjoyed participating in.

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/scrungycats!

That’s an overly simplistic take.

Over the years, ads have become louder, bigger, more intrusive, more voluminous, and alarmingly much more “personal”

I value my peace and my privacy.

I support creators with donations, subscriptions and purchases. If it’s an exclusively ad-supported service that does so respectfully and reasonably, I might whitelist it.

Everything else gets blocked. I use AdGuard and their extensions, and a VPN set to a Swiss geo helps with the rest.

You can buy Gavin a coffee via the project github page ☕️

https://github.com/gkasdorf/memmy

This should be a wake up call, but I’m too far gone.