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Most Dangerous Jobs

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You'd think it's from dangerous assignment-based activities but it's not. It's from doing stupid shit in traffic stops and getting hit by innocent drivers. It's what happens when superficial authority meets 3 tons of metal at a mile a minute.

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How is love even possible under traditional gender roles if men aren't allowed to be vulnerable?

Love does not require vulnerability in any shared sense. It can absolutely exist without it. I would argue that a relationship isn't very healthy without some concept of shared vulnerability but love isn't a relationship and a relationship isn't love.

Many relationships are purely based on a concept of "I know what my partner is thinking/feeling" when nothing is shared. There are many connections that just work, for various reasons.

I'm nearing 50 and didn't even know what vulnerability actually was (I had a concept but not an experience. I didn't know what I didn't know) until my early 40's. And I'm still shit at vulnerability and have roughly as much experience with using a Bat'leth in combat as I do being vulnerable. But believe me, I've been in love many times.

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Why is everyone obsessed with therapy

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Healthy emotional response means you react to your environment in an appropriate way given the environment. Unhealthy emotional response means you pass out when you hear a helicopter or you can't have healthy relationships or hold down jobs or feel good or feel anything. Emotions just are until they're an impediment to living.