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I've had the same username on other platforms from the Xbox and 360 halo days. Halo rules. Tragic that they stopped after Reach though. Glad we never had any terrible sequels (to be honest, Infinite multiplayer is actually really good now, but they campaign sucks and they totally screwed up launch with a massive content deficit).

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Not Our Gains

Not directly related to the post, but what is it with people getting all pissy when they find out you're vegetarian/vegan? More than once I've had someone act like I told them I punch babies for fun when they find out I don't eat meat. I don't bring it up unprompted, it's always in relation to a dietary concern. For example, I ordered a veggie dish at a restaurant, and they brought me the meat equivalent. I politely let the server know I ordered something else (apologetically I might add, because I feel like I'm being difficult to a service worker even though it's about a dietary restriction), and she acted like I was out of line. Rolling eyes, huffy, and asked me if I wanted her to take it back (um, obviously?).

This has happened to me or friends in various social settings, and I just don't get it. I even attended a cookout once where the host got mad at me for not eating his burgers. After I responded to the dietary restriction email. And brought my own dish. People act like you're being a bitch for not eating meat! I've never once pushed my diet on anyone or brought it up out of necessary contexts, but people still talk behind my back like I'm being dramatic for not eating things I don't want to.

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TW: sexual assault and rape [PizzaCake]

Some of the things I've seen people saying about Jane Doe are truly vile. The mental gymnastics people will go through in order to victim blame are disgusting. I especially cannot stand it when I see other women putting down survivors. I hope Jane Doe gets justice and the coverup has consequences.

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I'm sorry you've never had a good blowjob. There should be no scraping, it doesn't require jaw width as much as technique. Also the being unable to breathe is part of the turn on, if you're into BDSM. I love it when my partner holds my head down to prevent me from coming up for air, and she loves that gesture of domination. It's less about the sensation for us, and more about an act of service and submission. To each their own.

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Literal Hostage Situation

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I don't know if the format really applies. Complaining about one corporation stealing your data while using another's product that does the same seems a bit pointless, especially when there are cheaper, better alternatives. The putting a stick through your own bike tire format seems more appropriate.

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Box Office: 'Backrooms' Becoming A24's Highest Ever At Global Box Office

I liked it. I saw a lot of negative audience reviews, and I think they're from children that were excited by the pop culture backrooms craze. It isn't fast paced Hollywood horror, they didn't use jump scares, and you need to have some amount of media literacy to understand what the backrooms represent and how each of the characters interface with it. A bunch of kids showed up just wanting spooky scary liminal spaces and monsters, and while the movie is suspenseful, it isn't Hollywood blockbuster horror. I think the movie is much better for it. I highly recommend watching it. It takes a while to reveal the real themes at play and what the backrooms is a metaphor for, but I found it very rewarding. 9/10 for me.

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TW: sexual assault and rape [PizzaCake]

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Even years later, when I tell my story I get victim blaming comments, even from people I otherwise trusted. I no longer bring it up outside of with other women I feel safe with.

::: spoiler CW: SA "You can't just take back your consent."

I didn't. I said stop, they didn't, because finishing was more important than my comfort. Consent can be retracted at any time. Stop means stop, and no means no.

"Did you even defend yourself?"

He was bigger, stronger, and had already ignored my "stop" and my "no." I was scared and I shut down.

The person who assaulted me never faced any consequences. I still freeze up during intimacy. I hope Jane Doe gets justice and closure. :::

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Trans people often suffer from voice dysphoria. The right kind of coaching can change everything.

I did vocal training for a few months, and my voice is very feminine. I haven't been misgendered in years, in no small part thanks to the voice training. I cannot recommend it enough to anyone with voice dysphoria (or anyone that wants to sing well too!). It also taught me the tools to modify my voice to sound however I want, which has lent me a lot of versatility in running ttrpg games. I can play several characters in the same scene, masculine and feminine, and it's immediately obvious who is speaking. 10/10

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I've honestly never quite realized up until now how utterly ridiculous it is that people (especially in the US) regularly demand that their food be chauffeured to them.

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I drove down doordash for a while. Trust me, every driver knows how much they're getting screwed. You'll never be more class-conscious than having 30+ interactions with people as broke as you every day, and seeing every possible angle of fellow working class jobs. You do it for one of several reasons: you want some tiny modicum of control in your life through your schedule, you desperately need the money and it's easy as fuck to get a delivery job, or you started it for one of those reasons or something similar, got good enough to be ahead of the curve, and it's now more appealing than finding something else. The last one was where I was at.

I had done the job enough that I was making $18 an hour, well above the average in my area, and despite needing to pay for gas and taxes on a 1099a, it was still more appealing to keep control and flexibility over my life than to do something else. I could take days off whenever I wanted, see friends during the week, and coordinate my schedule with my fiancee easily. You're very aware that you're getting screwed, but you choose the devil you know, as they say.

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Star Wars is an ode to the stupidest use of battle lasers

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SW is for children is not a great take. It's just not sci-fi, and shouldn't be judged as such. It's a space fantasy, and it leans into the camp and the suspension of disbelief. They use wings and aerodynamics in space. Destroyed ships "sink." The good guys never get hit and the bad guys die in one shot. Now, the new movies were absolutely disappointing, but Star Wars was never sci-fi, at least not in the ways this discussion is defining the genre.

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Unified Theory of American Reality

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Intelligent, compassionate, and a vessel for the author's racist worldview.

Don't mind me. I hate that book, and I hate that it's taught in every school as if it has anything important to say. We've run the Lord of the Flies experiment, both accidentally and very intentionally. Every time, we've demonstrated that humans are better than that, and the author's beliefs about human nature were both very incorrect and very racist.

I still resent being forced to debate my classmates about whether human nature was intrinsically "good" or "evil," directly after reading that book, even though it was 25 years ago. I was the lone voice on the side of "good," for lack of a "good and evil are subjective terms, but nonetheless humans are empathetic and this book is horseshit" team. I got dogpiled by 20 some other students for about 45 minutes. Fuck you Ms. Brown, and fuck you William Golding. That book has nothing important to say other than exposing its author's racist insecurities.