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Can Apps Share Data Back n Forth on GrapheneOS?

I don't know if Google Camera would share the information with Sandboxed Google Play. However, something to be careful of, is if you have two apps by the same developer (Google in this case), and you have network permissions for only one of them. The developer could share those permissions with their other app. TheHatedOne did a podcast episode on this. He checked with a GrapheneOS developer beforehand, and found, that this is possible.

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Be yourself and be true to who you are. Don't let neurotypical conditioning define your identity.

Why can't we just be ourselves, without NTs imposing judgement on us? Sometimes I feel like I'm expected to act NT, when I feel like it shouldn't be a big deal. It's very frustrating for me. So what if I don't know how to add to a conversation, or if I avoid eye contact, or if I don't like people trying to make eye contact with me for too long? Can't I just share that I'm autistic, and be given my own autonomy? I really don't like when NT standards are imposed on me. It makes me angry.

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What is bothering you right now?

Well, since you asked, I will mention some things.

Firstly, I am tired of being infantilized. So many people have done this to me in my own life. People who call themselves friends and family who want me to succeed and do well. It's makes me extremely enraged. I am very sick of people belittling me in this fashion. I absolutely hate it. Can't people just give me some respect and autonomy as my own self? I don't understand the obsession with wanting to control other people. In fact I am very tired of it. I feel people do not respect me.

Secondly, I feel very lonely, and have very few genuine friends. I have some online friends who are good. But very few irl. In fact, I am wanting more autistic friends. I am planning on going to social groups for autistic people. I am hoping this works out for me. I won't lie, I am nervous about it.

Thirdly, why is finding a job that is suitable to my sensory needs so difficult for me? I am tired of it. I listened to people for too long on what I should do with my life. I bitterly regret doing this. I made a lot of decisions based on what people thought I should do. This was all infantilization, and it was more what these people wanted me to do. I'm really fed up, people suck.

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Do you do any mindfulness practices?

Honestly, sometimes I lie down on my back when doing mindfulness. I've only just started trying to make it a regular practice, but I've been using an app called Medito. It's an app developed by a nonprofit organisation, that you can donate to. I really like the daily meditations on there. You can start doing daily meditations for as short as 3 minutes, as you can select different time lengths that you would like to use that day. With starting a new habit, its always good to start small and build up, to make it more achievable to do on a consistent basis. I am also in a position where I really need this, as my attention has been so bad lately.

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I feel like I sometimes stim mainly to communicate "I am autistic and feeling overwhelmed right now" to onlookers when I can't easily talk. Can anyone else relate?

I was doing this subconsciously, all the time. People would tell me, I noticed you rocking back and forth, you must have been stressed. I didn't realise I was doing this. But I think being aware of it, puts you in a weird position of choosing to do it, to try to communicate something. If the impulse to do it is there, I'll do it. But I try not to do so, for the sake of it. Not unless I need to.

Your everyday neurotypical, may not interpret it correctly. Especially if they're unaware of what autism is. If you want to avoid misinterpretation, you could just communicate with them clearly, that you're overwhelmed, etc. That's assuming the people you are communicating with, are willing to try to understand you. Ultimately, you will need to decide if that will be beneficial for you.

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Opinion: Distributions that only change non-system pre-installed software or desktop environment should instead be packages or scripts

If what you proposed was put into practice, we wouldn't have hundreds of distributions. I think the amount of distributions that exist may actually be overwhelming to a new user. If there were only a few distributions to choose from, you wouldn't have so many people distro hopping, which is a waste of time (in most cases). You don't like the desktop environment? Install something else. You don't like floating windows? Use a tiling window manager.

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My ADHD is not improving as i age :(

Something that was suggested to me, by my therapist, is a book called Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Máte. It is well researched, and ultimately it provides long term solutions. Getting through a book in your current state, may not be ideal. But you may find an audio book version easier.

For now, you need to do things that will help you now. Firstly, make sure you are doing things you enjoy, and getting time to rest, and relax. If not, you will default to instant gratification. I know, because I am the same. When I am tired, overworked and overwhelmed, my ADHD gets very bad. A week ago, I was in a terrible state. I made so many mistakes at work, I was worried it was going to cause me to lose my job. After this week finished, taking time to recover really helped me.

Also, maybe try doing some exercise. For now, just start small. Maybe limit the time you spend doing the activity, to avoid overdoing it. For any new habit, starting small is very important.

You may also benefit from this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fH7N9YRxMYc

Go for walks, take breaks from your study, when you have time, and just take a walk around your neighbourhood. If you need stimulation, you could listen to music, or a podcast you enjoy. Personally, I sometimes find it very helpful to take myself away from anything that will trigger an instant gratification loop. But ultimately, going cold turkey isn't the answer.

Right now, don't focus on huge strides, like not watching YouTube, or not listening to podcasts. Focus on taking time out in small amounts to just be present with yourself, how you feel and just trying to be aware. Honestly, even doing this for 2-3 minutes is really good for you. If you need something to guide you through doing something like this, you could try Medito. It's a meditation app by a nonprofit. The daily meditations can be done in whatever time period suits. I think the lowest is 3 minutes. But 3 minutes is still a good effort. You need to reward yourself for every small win. Going for a new habit that is monumental, and will only discourage you, and take away what motivation you have.

I can suggest more, but I am hesitant to do so, because too many things at once, when you're already struggling might overwhelm you. I hope you get something from my suggestions, and that you feel better soon. I know how hard and difficult it can be sometimes. You can do this. : )

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Noticing a pattern.

This happens to me a lot. It is so frustrating. People either don't care to elaborate, or, they can't be bothered or don't know how to explain the question they are asking, because it makes sense to them. sigh This definitely has an impact in some of my social circles, and I feel left out when it happens.