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relationship_advice·Relationship Advicebychrischryse

Dating someone more sensitive than I am

I’ve been dating this amazing women for a few months then recently got into a relationship a few weeks ago, but she’s more sensitive than I am. I’m more laid back and don’t let things bother me and love dark offensive humor for shock value…she’s the opposite doesn’t like certain things said and say gets offended if I jokingly flip off (which I do to people I’m close to as a sogn of ironic love) for example. However our core beliefs like politics, religion, and personalities align for most part.

I’m not sure if this type of incompatibility is bad though and worried things might not last or how I can keep it. She did say she’s fine with me still being my full self around others I’m friends with just not her. Am I walking on egg shells?

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relationship_advice·Relationship Advicebychrischryse

I (white) and dating a girl who is black what are some things I should know to grow the relationship?

So basically I understand that dating a black woman is different than a white woman. She mentioned she feels comfortable when someone is open to learn and takes initiative to learn the societal and cultural things that affect her as a black woman. I don’t know what this means. And the take initiative part confuses me. And I’m not sure how to go about it I’m very open minded to learn but should I probe with questions or more so reading about it myself?

I’d like this relationship to go somewhere (so far had 4 dates) but her telling me that felt deep and I want to make sure I take right steps

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Fifth date questions cuz I'm pretty new to it

So I’m going on a fifth date with a girl I met. We’ve been talking for about 1.5 months now. I asked her if she was free Thursday night but she said no but is free Saturday night. We plan to go to a group event that is valentine theme. This is my first time ever having a date too 🫣

Anyway my questions are:

  1. So she got me a lovely gift on our fourth date because she loves gifting. I know she loves flowers especially tulips because they make her days better. Now I know tulips are “more serious” but would it be a bad idea to get her some (especially since it’s Valentine’s Day and the group event she’ll also get to take the item we make home) I don’t want her to get the wrong message with the tulips

  2. Along with texting and dating for a bout a month we’ve also had phone calls….ik it’s the fifth date but with all this time frame a good time just to inquire about where we stand? Like I’m fine if she wants to take it slow but I want to show her I’m interested in something more — Not sure if it helps but during 4th date is when she got comfortable with hugging and me picking her up

  3. After dropping her off after hugging can I mention how much fun I had and would like to see her again and say something like are you free Wednesday night? Or wait a few hours

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programming·Programmingbychrischryse

How exactly does one get better at programming?

So I’m an on/off noobie but have been focusing on actually sticking with programming what I’ve been working on is Python but this question is for programming in general. For me it’s hard but I want to see how I can get better

Like are these good ways to get good:

Follow tutorials, then work on ways of adding your own twists or changes? Or trying to code it in something else?

Work on assignments from a resource you’re using like in my case Python Crash Course and attempt to redo the assignments without looking back?

Experiment with multiple libraries and library methods or built in methods?

Please share any other ways especially ones that helped you

Also when would be good to start a new language after learning one

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Looking for purchase advice as a beginner

So I’ve been reading that the Callaway Edge sets at Costco are the best bang for your buck but I also am not sure if it would be worth it since apparently they don’t have resale value

I’ve found some preowned deals on FB marketplace wondering if these might be better:

$125 for Strata: Driver 3wood 4 hybrid 5 hybrid

$350 for Hawkeye and Fairway woods set

$350 strata 9 club set

I can send pics too if needed

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nostupidquestions·No Stupid Questionsbychrischryse

Is this picture idea immature?

A friend and I (both 30yo males) are thinking of getting our pictures taken with the Easter bunny while wearing overalls and a propeller hat. my sister says it’ll be immature and that if I were to show a girl they would immediately be turned off.

We feel it’ll be funny and a good ice breaker with girls or anyone else for that matter. But now I’m kinda questioning it.

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nostupidquestions·No Stupid Questionsbychrischryse

Why do I tend to reply in the same amount of time it took my friends to?

Fro some reason without paying much attention to the time duration it took a friend to reply I always end up replying within the same amount of time as my friends without thinking much of it, then I’ll see the time they sent the message.

If a friend replies in an hour I typically respond probably subconsciously in an hour (plus or minus 10 minutes), then realize it took them an hour after I respond. Idk why.

Is this something "normal"? Does anyone else do this?

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nostupidquestions·No Stupid Questionsbychrischryse

How exactly does one eat 1500 calories a day?

I'm trying to lose weight and was told that hwo I eat about 800-1000 calories a day is too low and lowers my metobolism which will prevent weight loss. I've looked up some meal plans and can't really afford stuff like chicken breast, steak, or salmon every week. So that is why I'm wondering how I can eat 1500 calories a day. Are there some alternatives that I can do?

Also I'd like to ask, say I exercise and burn say 500 calories would I have to eat those calories back or no? I ask cuz I've been told yes and told no.

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