When I go on Bumble or Tinder I'm surprised by how unattractive the guys are there compared to Hinge, why are all hot guys going to Hinge?

Online dating could probably be implemented with federated technolgies.

Are there any projects that are already working on this?
There are some open source dating apps, but they are mostly Tinder clones. It would probably make more sense to reimplement something like old OkCupid, where it's mechanics and systems worked more for the benefit of the userbase.

I’m new to online dating, for those with experience in the field, What is the most important advice you would give a newbie.

Everyone talks about red flags, but what’s a tiny thing someone does on a first date that makes you instantly like them? For me, it’s how they treat the staff or if they have a funny story about their dog.

Seeing this a lot on profiles. No idea what it means? It's suppose to mean they are more laid back or something? Or is it like they are anti-reservation?

I just sit wherever is free at a restaurant, I don't really see any distinction between sitting at a bar, a high top, or a table.

@dating Hi guys

I met a girl on hinge, we hit it off, the conversation was great and we were both really into it. We planned a first date. The date honestly felt magical. It was as if time flew by. We then plan a second date, we meet. At the end of the night we kissed. We continue to text, I plan a third date for this weekend. She agrees, were supposed to go to a light festival.

The next day she sends me a text where she says she's not interested in anything romantic and if I'm ok with that, she'll still go on the date with me. I text her back that it's a bit weird for me to suddenly switch so I want to cancel the date because I'd need some time if we were to be just friends. She then tells me that's she's there if I ever want to talk.

Honestly, I'll probably never reach out again but I do wonder if I did the right thing.

So I’m going on a fifth date with a girl I met. We’ve been talking for about 1.5 months now. I asked her if she was free Thursday night but she said no but is free Saturday night. We plan to go to a group event that is valentine theme. This is my first time ever having a date too 🫣

Anyway my questions are:

1. So she got me a lovely gift on our fourth date because she loves gifting. I know she loves flowers especially tulips because they make her days better. Now I know tulips are “more serious” but would it be a bad idea to get her some (especially since it’s Valentine’s Day and the group event she’ll also get to take the item we make home) I don’t want her to get the wrong message with the tulips

2. Along with texting and dating for a bout a month we’ve also had phone calls….ik it’s the fifth date but with all this time frame a good time just to inquire about where we stand? Like I’m fine if she wants to take it slow but I want to show her I’m interested in something more — Not sure if it helps but during 4th date is when she got comfortable with hugging and me picking her up

3. After dropping her off after hugging can I mention how much fun I had and would like to see her again and say something like are you free Wednesday night? Or wait a few hours

Third date went great (thanks to everyones advice in my previous post) however I offered a fourth date to a jazz bar Saturday however forgot valentines day can make reservations hard (didn't know the palce did reservations). And I told her I was thinking that place before i found out about reservations. Or try finding another live music place since she loves all live music not just jazz.

Should I resort to something like a paintwork shop (even though the theme is valentines and we aren't a couple yet)?

I'm still learning the ropes here and any advice would be very helpfu.

This is what the least subtle painting I could find would be

I’ve [28M] never been pass the first date, but some how made it to date three. I really want this to go well

I offered to pick her up and she said yes but I’m not sure what the etiquette is

When I pick her up do I open car door from inside, let her open it, or get out when I see her (give her a hug too? Not sure cuz first date we shook hands and second held hands for a little bit but didn’t hug or shake hands after that date) then open the door?

What about when I drop her off? Do I walk up with her and possibly give a hug? And can instead of that wait within 24 hours thing if things went well can I tell her I’d like to see her again then?

Also would new balance gym shoes be fine for an art gallery date? What about jeans and a flannel shirt?