As a complete outsider, being a woman in a country where half the men are Trump supporters sounds fucking terrifying.

Ugh.

If you consciously change your behaviour once there's no women around... Yeah, chances are you won't see me again unless I'm absolutely forced to.

It's like some people think they're contractually obliged to make a sexist joke or some shit. Thankfully I don't meet these people often.

Had young Morrissey known how pathetic old Morrissey would end up, he would no doubt have written an incredible soul searching song about it.

This is why I think weaponized incompetence is a better term than willful incompetence.

I don't think it's even always intentional, conscious, or willful. It's just, well, "not giving a fuck", and getting away with it because women are always around to deal with their shit.

Yeah, I kind of agree. Toxic masculinity is a thing, but it doesn't mean all masculinity is automatically toxic.

Then again, usually when I'm hanging out with guys and the testosterone level runs a bit high, someone will crack a joke about it and we'll laugh at ourselves.

I think having a fragile ego and not being able to joke about yourself and/or your masculinity probably does make it on in the toxic list.

Yeah, I think that's a very valid point that I didn't immediately give enough consideration.

A friend of mine keeps doing this. He'll pretend to be an expert of fucking anything, and you can generally tell immediately that he doesn't know shit. When he goes on about things that I actually do know things about it's unbearable, and of course his ego is too fragile to handle being told he's wrong.

We have a lot of impressive common friends with awesome general knowledge, and I frequently wonder how the hell we have the patience to keep him around. My general knowledge is shite, but at least I'm quite open about being ignorant.

He's hyper sensitive about social situations, yet introducing him to new people is almost always embarrassing.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, he is a professional psychologist.

This is how it is in mbin. Well, over at the instance I'm using at least.

I find it amusing sometimes, because I can see whether posts have been liked from Mastodon or other services. Gives some insight into how interconnected we really are.

I guess over at Lemmy you can't currently tell if your post is boosted by a Mastodon user. Sometimes they are, and in theory they can kind of live a life of their own from there on. It's fun to be able to see when it happens.

Well, men do it better

Herlig! Vi trenger absolutt mer politisk press for å få Norge til å hoppe etter Sveits på dette området.

Forbrukerrådet drukner i viktige arbeidsoppgaver, men de har noen veldig flinke folk. Minst to av dem, @[email protected] og @[email protected], er på Mastodon. Det er mulig det er der det ligger mest håp.

When we have female friends in common and suddenly it turns out they want to fuck her and they assume I'm only hanging out with her because I want to as well.

I have never had any men brag to me about their sexual encounters; generally the people I end up hanging out with don't make sexist comments about women in public or anything like that. But this bullshit I've experienced on numerous occasions.

I guess it's not really a "toxic trait" as much as "being toxic as fuck".

There's a bunch of really badass people doing interesting things and discovering new things well into their 70s. The grandfather of a friend of mine picked up orientation running in his 80s - he's now the national champion of his age group.

I think more than age, what one has to overcome is the reluctancy to try new things. I think this is natural to humans at any age; the difference is that when we're young we're forced to try new things as few things are now new. The more experienced we get the easier it is to fall into old habits, and he who's not busy being born is busy dying, as Dylan said.

I think you have a point, and it is indeed something different - if two people live together and simply have different preferences or care about different things, it'll of course lead to some friction.

I think this goes both ways in most relationships. I keep bothering my girlfriend about the bathroom sink and the office desk we share; she complains about me keeping half dirty (half clean) clothes in a pile in the bedroom. That's not what it's about, though I think it can get easily confused.

It's more about the "I don't know how to use the washing machine/book bus tickets/change bags in the vacuum cleaner/cook a pie/change bedsheets/clean the toilet/make a vinegrette/change diapers/whatever", where instead of an emphasis on learning the skill it's only left to the other person.

It's not all men, but it is common. I think it's a systematic issue that men don't carry the full responsibility for. They're raised by mothers who do everything for them, and while their sisters are taught how to take care of themselves they are simply left to "be boys". And then they go out in the world and find a woman who can effectively replace their mothers.

It's the kind of guys who move away from home but keep going back to their mothers whenever they need laundry done.

Yeah. It's the repost functionality common on Mastodon.

Back on Kbin.social I would have some followers from Mastodon, and when I saw a neat comment I would sometimes boost it and thereby push it straight to their feeds.

Same thing would work on Mbin, except that i don't have followers. Oh well, I still boost posts I find neat.

I suspect a 2012 ThinkPad is more likely to still be operative than a 2019 one, sadly. My experiences with recent models has not been good.

I used to think ThinkPads were good because they make conservative decisions in product development and assure quality every step of the way.

Turns out that's bullshit. I am on my second ThinkPad since 2019. The first one stopped receiving charges, and I got it fixed with a new motherboard. Now it kernel panicks every 15 minutes for no good reason, so it basically came back from repair effectively bricked. The second one one of two charging ports are not working reliably, and the physical mouse buttons and the nipple joystick don't work at all. I'm just waiting for the day the remaining charging port breaks.

I've been careful with both, always carrying them in a solid sleeve and treating them well. My Fairphone goes through a lot worse and never has any problems.

I really would not recommend ThinkPad any more.

I generally downvote in two scenarios. One is if someone is being a jerk, which is not necessarily enough for a report but always annoying. The other is if they are sharing misinformation, even if I believe they mean nothing bad with it.

I think it has it's place as a way to reduce visibility.

And sometimes I enjoy getting downvotes - there are times I knowingly rub a group of people (generally authoritarians) the wrong way, and I'm happy to see the message is well received. ;)

I guess it's bordering on being literal poison. Chilli peppers have evolved specifically to be inedible by mammals. So I guess being obsessed with hot sauce is not a toxic trait per se, but it's in the neighborhood.

More seriously though, I love spicy food, but not all food is supposed to be spicy. Leave other favours room to breathe as well.

Yeah, time and energy is key. But I do notice quite a bit of these types of quality interactions here - it's very much appreciated! :)

I guess the corruption of the IOC is just business as usual seen from the eyes of Russia or whatever. I don't wish the corruption on countries I like, and I don't want the countries I dislike to have the propaganda victory.

That said, Pyongyang Olympics would be interesting.