My family are like the very last people I need to come out to, and then I’ll be done with my social transition. I’ve talked about how afraid I am to come out to them so often in comments here that you all probably already know that they’re conservative Catholics.

I am so over hiding myself from them, I’m just ready for it to be over, and even if they respond poorly, at least then it’s something real and not just fear of the uncertainty

I don’t think I can do it in person though. It would be too uncomfortable, there would be too many people (I have a lot of siblings), and I don’t think I’d even be able to get the words out. But I still feel weirdly obligated, like I owe them the respect of coming out in person?

Please please tell me it’s okay to send them an email instead

EDIT: Oops, didn’t realize this was AI when I posted it! Sorry about that!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Non-Binary_People's_Day

I’ve been slowly coming out to people for a while, but always like one person at a time. But now that I’ve been on HRT for a while (and my boobs are starting to get noticeable) I want to get this all over with and just be out to everyone.

So the other day, I texted my friend who organizes a group that we’re part of, and she was so supportive! And then I put a message in the Discord server for the group and everyone was so kind and supportive and just welcomed me with no hesitation!!! 🥰 It really made my whole week

Now it’s just the hard ones left (work and family), but at least I know I have my communities of support if I need them ❤️

This is something I’ve noticed a lot among well-intentioned people who aren’t trans themselves. When talking about a trans person, especially in the context of talking about them before and after transitioning, they’ll use they/them instead of she/her or he/him, as the trans person in question goes by.

It always kind of rubs me the wrong way, because like, unless they want to go by they/them, it’s still misgendering, right?

But I also always kinda feel awkward correcting the speaker on someone else’s behalf, because maybe they do go by she/they or they/he, and I just don’t know. But it feels way more common that it’s someone who doesn’t feel comfortable using she/her for a trans woman, for example.

I don’t know. Am I overthinking this? How do y’all handle situations like that?

My brother is coming to visit in a few days, and I want to come out to him, but I am also absolutely terrified. How did y’all handle coming out to your families?