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Hotel > AirBNB

The last time I used Airbnb, we rented 2 rooms in a guy's house for a few days. At first, the guy seemed okay, only a minor reminder about leaving dishes out. I left a fairly positive review, but when it came time for his review of us he implied we were racist for not keeping eye contact and conversation with his roommate. I never saw the roommate, and my husband is the kind of introvert who doesn't initiate conversations, especially when alone. It was ridiculous. We were also told that we had access to the rooms, bathroom, and kitchen and not to go into any other part of the house.

I'll stick with hotels.

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When Y2K happened were there people burning their passports and walking barefoot to Jerusalem or something along those lines?

I was in high school, and I remember babysitting my brother's kids for new years. I'd invited a friend to hang out with me while I watched them, but her parents were very freaked out about Y2K and insisted she stay home with them. They did do some prepping on water and canned goods, but not quite to the "bunker under their floorboards" level. As for me and my family, we carried on as if life would continue as normal, and thanks to countless people working tirelessly, it did just that.

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miscarriage

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks about 5 years ago and it was very difficult. For me, I had a lot of physical pain from an incomplete D&C, which despite helping me keep my mind occupied I wouldn't wish on anyone. To help with the emotional pain, it helped to have cathartic cries. I listened to the saddest musicals I liked and just let myself cry. It was useful for me to cry for a different reason than the loss, but everyone is different.

For Christmas, I bought an angel ornament to remember the baby had lost. There are other ways to memorialize the baby, such as having a burial, or setting aside an object in honor of the baby. It all depends on what works best for you and your wife. Some people don't want to remember and would rather move on while others keep it as a permanent reminder.

For you and your wife, try to give each other other space to grieve while making sure you still check in on each other and support one another. Miscarriages are a lot more frequent than you may think unless you have one (about 25% of pregnancies) but they are still difficult. As with most grief, just take one day at a time.