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We've been together for 20 years and married for 15. We're a great couple, the kind our friends think of as "couple goals". We rarely fight and when we do it's normally over something trivial. And almost never about money.

We tend to be frugal and usually discuss things before making any large purchases. I became disabled about a decade ago and she's been the "bread-winner" of the family. She works hard and I'm proud of her. With the sudden contraction in income we had to file bankruptcy about 7 yrs ago and we've been good about staying out of debt since.

I handle the finances of the house, which really just means I file our taxes and check our bank statements. Yesterday, I was trying to reconcile our bank statement and trying to build a budget using our banks new software. This required me to categorize these transactions, which is a pain when a lot of them just say Amazon or PayPal. So I go digging into this only to discover she has two PayPal accounts and one is carrying $2500 in debt! We're not well-off people and that's a lot of money.

I was heart-broken. It was like my soul was just sucked out of my body. I felt something between anger and disappointment. I couldn't believe it. She must have noticed my sudden shock and saw what I was looking at because she began to reassure me that she's about to pay $600 towards it. I didn't reply. I went for a long walk to clear my head.

We still haven't spoken about it yet. I don't know what to do. I'm not mad anymore but I'm so deflated. We were supposed to be partners in all things. We don't even buy each other gifts without conferring usually it's just a joint anniversary gift.

To make matters worse, I can understand how she'd do it. She's got impulse control problems because of her untreated ADHD. She tends to self-medicate with alcohol to unwind and likes "retail-therapy" for self-soothing. She also has rejection sensitivity and is aggressively defensive. So even asking her about this may cause an involuntary lashing-out. But I must. I just don't want to.

Is it possible to block a specific instance (e.g. lemmynsfw.com) not just a community on an instance (e.g. [email protected])? I'm looking in the settings, but don't see that option. The goal isn't to block all NSFW posts, just filter out the majority of them coming from specific instances. Yes, I know I can just blur them and I do.

I'm so used to RES that this is mildly infuriating. I click on a link expecting is to open in the background for review later and instead it opens in the current tab obliterating my current position. Hitting back will get me to approximately the same place I was but it's usually a whole page behind.

This is driving me nutty. I've got a Netgear Nighthawk router. It is set up with two WiFi SSIDs one for 2.4 and 5 GHz. Both are set to DHCP. I've got about 30 devices connected at any given time. Most of those are my smart bulbs, which are all connected on the 2.4 GHz channel. Occasionally, and seemingly randomly, my phones will drop connection and will not be able to reconnect. The phone can see the SSID broadcast for my network, it will attempt a connection, but the connection will be refused. I've tried forgetting and reconnecting to the network on my phone but that does nothing. I've tried a static IP, nope. The only thing that resolves it is restarting the router.

Whenever the routers reboots, it will deny all attempted connections unless I turn off all my smart bulbs and reconnect one at a time. If I do this I can get everything connected. But eventually my phone will get disconnected, usually from leaving the network range, and then won't be able to reconnect.

To make matters worse, I can't connect to the router via the gateway address, which I'm certain is correct. Neither the IP nor the netgear RouterLogin.net connect to the router's maintenance portal. I've been using the Nighthawk app to manage my network, which is limited to say the least.

I could use some helpful advice here. I'm about to just chuck the thing and get a new router.

I've tried setting this option in account settings but I still get asked for every post and comment. The drop-down defaults to "Select Language" with "Undetermined" and "English" as the options within.