Renegotiating consent when spaced and horny.

We planned and negotiated for a session, strictly no genital involvement agreed. When shit got intense, hot and heavy, they were very very angry with me not penising them.

Good discussions on informed enthusiastic consent were had.

That's not a very charitable way to interpret their statement.

It might be true, which indeed would be problematic, but it could also be the clearest example/stereotype/cultural signalling.

Something like not all sluts present that way, but people presenting that way might want to be interpreted as sluts.

Nuance in text is hard, we don't have to make it harder by assuming the worse interpretation.

This is surprisingly common among D-types, and actually mostly takes a little practice to find your entry into it.

First of all: What you say matters much less than how you say it. I have been spouting nonsense, trivia, lecturing popscience with great effect.

How you say it will have to be tailored to you. Use mannerisms, modes and phrases as you please, it is partly conveying your dominance that you choose (power of agency), and also the simplest way to keep communicating clearly.

Also, you'll want to find how the words complement your actions. I'm thinking that you're used to using words in tandem with your other implements, and just need to broaden your repertoire. Start easy: use one thing less, introduce one new thing, or do it with grabbing/slapping/spanking interweaved between your comfortable combos.

For me, dominance is about keeping the initiative, supporting submissive behaviors, and rewarding good behaviour. One favorite game is thus to create a setting where it's easy for my sub to service, like with some posture training, certain rope play, showing off, etc. I then make sure to keep them off balance enough that I still get to call the shots. "Arms higher, eyes down, chest out and breathe deeply for me, let me see that body move, dance, for me. What a lovely little body, and capable of so much pleasure as well. Arms higher! Don't make me correct you again, it will be far less pleasant...", and of course when they behave they get "good pet", strokes and orgasms as appropriate.

As they surrender/space, they won't be paying much attention to the actual words, and I can modulate my voice to say almost anything, and then just change it when I want them to pay attention.

This is loads of fun with brats, they often come up with rebellious ideas, and when talking like it's easy to have them lose track, and eventually agree to the opposite of their point, or for even more fun, to agree that I pervert it into something they didn't actually want. "Oh you want to escape from the ropes now? wWell, you should really have said so earlier, so that I could plan a proper rope session safe enough for you to struggle in, now I have to do all this extra work to make sure nothing risks slipping in a dangerous way, taking me out of my flow, and also not giving me a proper chance to RACK the session. I think the only way we're going to have this work is if I get to watch very closely, so that I can interrupt if something dangerous happens. Now, how would we go about making sure you notice me while you're struggling? I'm thinking we're gonna need something that makes a noise, and physical sensation enough for you to notice, don't you agree? Good thing I have this cane handy here, I'll also need to make sure nothing is too tight or has restricted blood flow, so I'll also be poking you with the cane from time to time to make sure. And as I'm going through all this trouble for you, you'll have to do something for me as well, that's only fair no? How about you show me some appreciation for all this extra work, how about you continuously praise me for being such a generous, caring and nice dom? At least until you've broken free."

In that barrage of semiplausible phrases, you can easily substitute any activity (maybe you get to spit in their mouth to gauge if they're still OK? Or get to tickle them? Or use a rolled up newspaper? Or have appreciation breaks with praise and/or oral pleasure?)

There are countless ways to communicate, so what works for you may differ, and that is as should be.

Why not do both?

Essential tip #1. No customer cares what you do, only what they get. They're not buying the reverse engineering, they're buying the copy. Let that inform your choices, your marketing and interactions with the customer.

Tip for B2B especially. Listen to the person and treat them as a professional, find ways to explain limitations and options in a way that makes them feel understood and that helps them look good in their own organisation. In another phrasing: Make them the Hero of their company, and you'll be theirs.

Word of advice: Enjoy the ride! Business isn't difficult, but it's tough, there's so very very very many things you now have to get done there's no reasonable chance at foreseeing even most of them. You will get surprises, you will get crises. Get as much help and mentorship from experienced entrepreneurs as you can (we're typically a very helpful bunch), but prepare for even that not being enough.

Perseverance, responsiveness, and resourcefulness is what separates you from the 80% failed businesses within 5 years.

Oh gods of dusk, a man needs a name!

This is so cute! Yay relationship goals!

It looks great from here, but maybe try it a few times more just to be sure?

You other people are delirious, the right one has the rhythm, the coordination, the gorgeous smile, knows how to have fun. And Got Dam that body is in great shape.

What do you mean? They constantly adjust the female talent's hair, even in shot.

Also, at every cut there's plenty of time to take a break to fix the hair.

A lot of talents that don't have straight and well conditioned hair often have their hair braided or pony tail style, if not going for frizzy 80-90's style, afro or similar.

Stick 'em in?

Question, as this is happening this very minute, how do we best go about handling this?

Should private lemmings (respectfully) contact the spammer, or should this handled by mods?

Mostly I'm thinking what is less intimidating, and/or lowers the risk of people coming off as rude. We do want the posts, just not all at once

Ooh, a couple of sophisticated tastes, love to see it!

I would suggest they go to a play party, or just read more.

Loads of things inspire lust! Find that kernel, explore it in fantasy and use that openness/non-taboo to express what it is and/or how you'd like to explore it.

Anything can be a fun kink: silk ties, mirrors, feeding/getting fed, anonymous sex, fucking on the bonnet/hood of a vintage car on a countryside drive just before rain in early autumn, vanilla-as-kink, etc.

That's the lovely thing about kinks, it's just about being curious and open to explore what fancy comes to you. Some are keepers, some are best as fantasies, some aren't logistically feasible, some aren't timed right and some you just get bored of after a while.

Depending on how far the noncon rule applies, I foresee an issue with media sharing.

Very little media will have explicit consent to be shared in our communities, or even social media in general. If we interpret the sharing as part of what you consent to (as is the case with OC but not revenge porn), no found media can be allowed.

If we allow the commonly used fair/similar use principle (found media may typically be shared in the same type of setting it was found) - how do we differentiate between found porn and found revenge porn?

If we mod as a response to reports, as in: we allow it until someone reports this being wrongful content, the rules will be fine, but obscure or poorly modded communities risk becoming seedy and drag the whole instance reputation down.

But these thoughts can't be novel, has anyone checked if there's a well tested out best practice to keep mods, community and admin safe?

I don't think it's likely to lead to human extinction even if unfettered, but like ice ages and the fabled meteor, we will probably have a bottleneck event where most people, if not most species, will die.

Currently we're only on track for something like 2-3 billion people dying, and most of the danger comes from the migrations and unrest, which isn't really a threat to humanity as species, just society as we know it.

This is so weird to me, but sure, customs differ.

Around here kids today have penetrative sex from 12-13 years of age, would you rather they do in school bathrooms, back alleys, bushes, or somewhere clean and safe where they can also get help from a trusted adult if something goes wrong?

Oh wow, this is completely my jam.