We planned and negotiated for a session, strictly no genital involvement agreed. When shit got intense, hot and heavy, they were very very angry with me not penising them.
Good discussions on informed enthusiastic consent were had.
Yep, been there. I go to her place, first time we ever met. Within a few minutes she makes me promise I will not be penising her. I agree because I'm only a part time dbag, not 100% a dick.
The night gets interesting, we both drink way more than we should on a first meet, lots of handsy action and everything but the agreed upon limits of consent.
"Why won't you?"
"You made me promise I wouldn't."
"Please?"
"No, but I'll do anything else you'd like."
"Whhhhyyyyyy"
This went on for hours. Never saw her again because she was apparently so upset I kept my promise, she didn't want to see me again. It's a weird sometimes-regret where I know I did exactly what I should have done, but had I not we both would have had more fun and maybe have had a repeat encounter.
Thanks, truly appreciate that. I know it can be difficult in the heat of the moment to stick to a promise like that, and I could easily have had a moment of weakness.
You: Sorry, Sir. As per our contract dated 14th August, 2023, paragraph 3, section 2 (b) and I quote "...no Penising, not even the tip, shall be allowed after 19.99 minutes of vigorous sex acts". The time is now 19.995 minutes. I must advise you of the penalty clauses as listed in the Appendices I, II and IV should you persist in breaking our prior agreement. Good day, Sir!
Guy wanted me to burn him with cigarettes, but he didn't smoke and neither do I. After spending 20 minutes looking for a convenience store that was open, the mood was kinda gone.
The question addressed "kinky fucks", it never said "talk about a time you were in the process of being kinky". That's what I was going by, that and the interpretation that "kinky fucks" referred to people who got out of a situation that involved a sexual encounter. You know, like how on AskReddit people often stylize who they're addressing.
Jesus, did people just think the "remember the human" rule from Reddit was worth doing away with when migrating to Lemmy?
Forget it, I'm removing what I said here if peoples' norms are so needy that they can't be sensitive to an anecdote about violation on a post that clearly asks people what they did not consent to. I screenshotted the answer and will give the screenshot to anyone who asks. This place is like the new Imgur.
Basically the middle part of the anecdote I explained here, as I had no way of knowing OP here (who hasn’t stepped in) was talking only about things we noped to in the context of seeking out kinky activities (despite not fully specifying that) and/or exclusively by people who are kinky in the specific sense that they do that for a living. When I read the title, I read it in the stylized way you might on AskReddit (maybe don’t start off a question with “kinky fucks”) which I also had come from and didn’t expect so much sidestepping for such a thing opened up about (Rectalingus? Really?).
She asked me to cut her with a razor, hard no from me
I had this same experience on a second date with someone I met on Tinder. Seemed like a real fucking quick way to get myself locked up.
Punch her in the face. Like slapping I could work up to, but she wanted me to punch her. Give her a black eye.
Asked me to drug her at a bar and then take her home. I'm fine with CNC, but not out in public where no one else knows that first C is there.
I have no problems with CNC, but I don't want to see your five axis mill in public
Watching a CNC mill grind away excess material is like porn to me. Very satisfying stuff to watch.
Mmmmm, throw those hot chips.
Why not? Assuming we'd have proper dust-catching, that is...
Renegotiating consent when spaced and horny.
We planned and negotiated for a session, strictly no genital involvement agreed. When shit got intense, hot and heavy, they were very very angry with me not penising them.
Good discussions on informed enthusiastic consent were had.
Penising someone is now my new favorite euphemism for sex.
A euphemism usually is less explicit
Yep, been there. I go to her place, first time we ever met. Within a few minutes she makes me promise I will not be penising her. I agree because I'm only a part time dbag, not 100% a dick.
The night gets interesting, we both drink way more than we should on a first meet, lots of handsy action and everything but the agreed upon limits of consent.
"Why won't you?"
"You made me promise I wouldn't."
"Please?"
"No, but I'll do anything else you'd like."
"Whhhhyyyyyy"
This went on for hours. Never saw her again because she was apparently so upset I kept my promise, she didn't want to see me again. It's a weird sometimes-regret where I know I did exactly what I should have done, but had I not we both would have had more fun and maybe have had a repeat encounter.
Regarding your regret, I know it's not much, but this internet stranger is proud of you for sticking to your promise.
Thanks, truly appreciate that. I know it can be difficult in the heat of the moment to stick to a promise like that, and I could easily have had a moment of weakness.
Bro, you are a man of your word. That shit is fucking rare these days.
You: Sorry, Sir. As per our contract dated 14th August, 2023, paragraph 3, section 2 (b) and I quote "...no Penising, not even the tip, shall be allowed after 19.99 minutes of vigorous sex acts". The time is now 19.995 minutes. I must advise you of the penalty clauses as listed in the Appendices I, II and IV should you persist in breaking our prior agreement. Good day, Sir!
I had a parallel experience, renegotiating consent using their dominant position to define boundaries.
Nope nope nope, not how this is supposed to work.
Great. The horny virgins of Reddit have made their way over.
Don’t worry. School should be starting up any day now.
Guy wanted me to burn him with cigarettes, but he didn't smoke and neither do I. After spending 20 minutes looking for a convenience store that was open, the mood was kinda gone.
This is such a memory... I can imagine a nice and chaotic friendship after this.
Meaningful human connection
Enough internet for the day. That's gross.
Dude was doing meth before a fisting session. Fuck no to that.
I've read this three times and still honestly have no idea what you're saying and how it applies to the question.
The question asks what kinky stuff we did not consent to. I'm positive being violated applies.
No, that wasn't the question at all... And your post had no kinks in it
The question addressed "kinky fucks", it never said "talk about a time you were in the process of being kinky". That's what I was going by, that and the interpretation that "kinky fucks" referred to people who got out of a situation that involved a sexual encounter. You know, like how on AskReddit people often stylize who they're addressing.
Jesus, did people just think the "remember the human" rule from Reddit was worth doing away with when migrating to Lemmy?
No one was being uncivil...
To be so finicky over unspoken conditions of a question isn’t exactly what I’d call civil.
Exactly.
Is the R word Rectalingus?
Don't I wish.
What's the R word?
Carnal knowledge of another person's body by force or without consent
Thanks
Oh shit! Hello fellow Rochesterian
Hello. I'm not in Rochester currently but I do visit a lot. How was the Avon corn festival?
Forget it, I'm removing what I said here if peoples' norms are so needy that they can't be sensitive to an anecdote about violation on a post that clearly asks people what they did not consent to. I screenshotted the answer and will give the screenshot to anyone who asks. This place is like the new Imgur.
What did you post to begin with? No judgements, just curious
Basically the middle part of the anecdote I explained here, as I had no way of knowing OP here (who hasn’t stepped in) was talking only about things we noped to in the context of seeking out kinky activities (despite not fully specifying that) and/or exclusively by people who are kinky in the specific sense that they do that for a living. When I read the title, I read it in the stylized way you might on AskReddit (maybe don’t start off a question with “kinky fucks”) which I also had come from and didn’t expect so much sidestepping for such a thing opened up about (Rectalingus? Really?).
Eh, I read it with the same meaning that you did, so it's not just you. Hope you're doing better nowadays!
Thanks
I did a couple of scenes with a friend. Turns out he wasn’t really into the sex part. Just wanted to torture someone.
It was a few minutes into our second one when I realized I was just in for a few hours of pain again, so I called it.
Wow, I didn’t know I was in r/AskReddit
Female sex havers of lemmy, what's something a sweaty, overweight sysadmin could do to make you date him?
Sex sexers of reddit what is the sexest sex you have ever sexed
So much sexy sex! I have sexed in numerous ways and locations, I swear it!
Oh wow a community specifically designed to be an exact copy of a specific subreddit has similar things posted to it? This is blowing my mind.
When you see a thread that you don't want to participate in, move the right thumb upward in a flicking motion
You can take the redditor out of reddit but you can't take the reddit out of a redditor