Kbin does a better job of putting new posts in front of you even before you have subscribed to anything, so I think it is easier to find interesting things to read. Kbin is newer than Lemmy, so Lemmy had the advantage in familiarity for people. More people had heard of it when Reddit's API drama blew up and that gave Lemmy a distinct advantage when people picked a new platform. Kbin also has some annoyances like not being able to collapse comments and vote buttons being at the top instead of the bottom of posts and comments. If someone has written a lengthy comment, I want to read through the whole thing before I decide how to vote and I don't want to scroll back up to get to a vote button. To reply to a post you also have to scroll through the comment section. In some cases it's good to see if someone else has already said what you are going to say, but in other cases if someone is looking for personal stories, you don't necessarily need to read everyone else's story before submitting your own.

Personally I have this kbin account and a lemmy account as well. My Lemmy server seems to go down more often and the default sort always shows the same days old pinned posts from my server admin that I can't seem to hide after reading. On Reddit, I didn't have to switch sort to see newer stuff so Lemmy comes across as pretty stale sometimes even though there is a fair amount of posting going on.

There is a great Practical Engineering video that explains this risk for anyone who is curious.

Crossing that dam was definitely a bad move.

It was really disappointing and cringy. I thought the show came out after the Thailand cave incident where he said people who were helping rescue trapped children were only in the country because they were pedophiles, but I just looked up the dates and the first season of Discovery came out a year before that incident. I waited a while to get Paramount+ because I didn't want yet another streaming service on top of Netflix and Hulu.

The Musk references aged very quickly. It's not great to name off living people as future historic figures when they are still alive and able to wreck their legacies.

The copyright on that page is 2021, did they keep working on that after all the criticism from the NFT avatars?

I looked it up and this wait list came out in December 2021 it seems: https://cointelegraph.com/news/reddit-launches-waitlist-for-site-wide-expansion-of-community-points

This is a news community, not a lousy impersonationators community. It's the wrong audience for this joke. I don't want news posts filled with bad comedians, so of course I'm going to vote against this. Trump gets too much attention as is, why would I want him to get even more attention on articles that don't even have anything to do with him?

Lemmy is the software a lot of the Reddit style fediverse websites run on. Many of them include Lemmy in the name such as Lemmy.ml and Lemmy.world, but others don't include Lemmy in the name. Beehaw.org is another website that runs the Lemmy software, it just didn't put Lemmy in its name. Beehaw does have an uncommon configuration since the down vote ability is disabled there, but it still is Lemmy at its core. Beehaw did defederate from some of the other big Lemmy servers because they were overwhelmed with trying to moderate that much content and those servers reportedly had open sign ups which led to a big influx of spammy bots, so Lemmy.world and beehaw.org are invisible to each other right now, but the admins of Beehaw have expressed a desire for more granular moderation tools in order not to have to defederate from such large servers as a whole in the future.

Kbin is a different software altogether so the kbin servers such as kbin.social and fedia.io have a different layout, terminology, and some different features than the Lemmy based servers, but Lemmy and Kbin both use the ActivityPub protocol to send and fetch data, so you can post between the two platforms as if they were on the same server. I am browsing this post and writing this reply from kbin.social.

Woke started out being used in a positive manner by people of color to describe social awareness, then conservatives decided to use it as a mockery of those who dare to ask for a more caring and supportive society. The right didn't come up with that term.

They already did NFT avatars, but they came out after the big backlash against NFTs so they called them by another name and left the NFT part out of the description.

Beehaw is still federated with most servers, they're not isolated. There are a few that are defederated from for differences like allowing hate speech, but the two big ones were to ease up the moderation demands as they had open sign ups without captcha from what I recall. They were the source of a lot of spam and making moderation a headache. The admins plan to revisit the issue if better mod tools are developed, it's still a young platform and better tools could make it easier to moderate without cutting off whole servers.

Well you certainly went out on a high note!

Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's ethical. Lots of reprehensible things have been legal at different times including the present.

If Reddit leadership was oblivious, their heads were under a rock. Various GPT iterations have been training on different subreddits and posting to places like r/SubredditSimulator for years and have even been reported on in the media well before ChatGPT came out. Here is one report on it from 4 years ago:

https://www.engadget.com/2019-06-05-subreddit-simulator-gpt-2-bots.html

According to the article, r/SubredditSimulator is 7 years old. The cat is way out of the bag here.

My family pays $160/month for a 4Mbps up/ 1 Mbps down internet and landline phone combo that usually tops out at half that speed in practice. It's amazing much of anything loads out here.

Beehaw markets themselves as a heavily moderated space and they caught a lot of flack for defederating from Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, but even they are still federated with a bunch of different instances. There will probably be a pool of instances that share a fairly hands-off approach and remain connected to all the other instances that have a "we'll federate with anyone" policy. There will likely be a collection of middle-ground instances who defederate with instances that are the source a lot of harassment or certain NSFW material but otherwise don't restrict much and still federate with instances that maintain similar moderation styles. At the far end you end up with places like Gab and Truth Social which are both Mastodon instances that aren't federated at all and are completely closed communities because they only ever wanted to be an echo chamber. The rest of the fediverse or even just Mastodon didn't cease to exist when Truth Social started up its own walled off instance.

People can self select into the kinds of communities they like. The unrestricted ones will only fail if the lack of moderation is such a problem that nobody signs up to any of them.

To my understanding, Hexbear forked (copied and modified) an older version of Lemmy and tweaked it to some of their preferences by adding their own code so they were kind of like a cousin of Lemmy. Migrating to upstream Lemmy means they've switched back to the original Lemmy project and installed one of the newer versions without their own modifications, or at least with few enough that it appears to be running Lemmy when probed by whoever is compiling these numbers.

I think they have federation turned off on their server so you still can't follow a Hexbear community from another server, but theoretically if they changed their settings to allow federation, you'd be able to follow their communities just like any other server that runs Lemmy or is compatible with Lemmy through ActivityPub.

As for how to tell Hexbear runs Lemmy, if you scroll down to the bottom of their site it has links to Lemmy documentation, the code used specifically by Hexbear, and Join Lemmy which gives you a hint even before clicking on the code link to see for yourself.

Ich liebe die vielen Sprachen, die es auf dem Fediverse gibt. Calckey hat sogar eine Schaltfläche zum Übersetzen.

Da ich spreche nur ein bisschen Deutsch, gefallen mir die vielen deutschen Beiträge, die es hier gibt. Jeden Tag lese ich ein bisschen mehr Deutsch und lerne mehr.

I would definitely recommend Strange New Worlds. It has a great cast and the return to an episodic format allows for a lot of variety in conflicts and dilemmas faced by the crew. Next up I would recommend The Orville. I hate Family Guy, Seth MacFarlane's humor is very off -putting to me so I was skeptical, but really the show was delightful and felt a lot like TNG era Star Trek to me. The show has some crass elements still, but they aren't overbearing. Honestly, Lower Decks is a lot worse on that front than The Orville and feels way more juvenile to me. People say Lower Decks is supposed to get better in season 2 but I watched some season 2 episodes with my roommates and still found it unbearable. If you like Family Guy/Rick and Morty, you might enjoy it more than I did since most people do seem to love that one.

The other new Trek shows are too busy facing overly big, galactic apocalypse-level threats throughout each entire season to delve into much real philosophy or analysis of the human condition and the crushing threats are so extreme that even when the shows do focus on the human side and try to look at something personal, you start to wonder why people are stopping to have a long discussion about their emotions and relationship struggles in the presence of immediate danger to their lives. Even when the discussions are good, the timing is bad enough for it to not make sense. A lot of details like that are very immersion breaking for me as a viewer.

Picard season 3 was a well balanced nostalgia trip. It was a lot more relatable than seasons 1 and 2 and has some really great human(oid) moments dealing with pride, regret, grief, belonging, and passing the torch to the next generation. It was fan service done well. It still does the new Trek thing of a big, impending threat but does a better job of keeping that threat at arm's length enough for the interpersonal discussions to feel more impactful and logical in the moment. I was so disappointed in seasons 1 and 2 that I almost skipped 3, but now I am rooting for a spin off from season 3 with the new characters they introduced.

One of my favorite features about Calckey is the ability to mute words. I think Mastodon allows it, too, and I used to make use of the word filter on Reddit as well. Maybe one day kbin will include it or perhaps it's hidden somewhere I missed and some helpful person will kindly point the way.

It's great for situations like this. I use it to filter out dog posts because I have a traumatic past with them and I know I'll never convince people to quit putting dogs literally everywhere, but I don't have to see nearly as many of those posts with a good filter setup.

Kbin doesn't display the instance someone is on unless you click on their username for some reason. It's not a great design choice for a federated platform.

Considering the parents aren't together, it's not like the effect on the mother will be a divorce after decades of marriage to this man, so I don't think that's as big of a deal here. Is your wife certain it was even consensual? People here are quick to blame the mother for a mistake, but a one time event may be a rape, not necessarily an affair. I've got a nephew who was conceived through rape.

The father will probably catch on eventually, so even if your wife waits for him to realize what's going on, she still needs to be prepared to tell him he's been her father for all x years of her life and a printout of DNA results doesn't change a lifetime of lived experience with him. She can't control whether he chooses to stay involved or withdraw once he figures it out though, if he already withdrew once he may do it again if he values blood connections over social ones. On the other hand, he could be playing dumb in his interpretation of the results because he doesn't want to lose the father/daughter relationship either.