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asexual

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I am looking for advice.

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I understand this is a difficult, complex and delicate situation.

It would be great if I could hand you a simple checklist and off you pop. But issues with people are never like that. Unfortunately it seems this is going to be a long, hard road.

If he is currently seeing thhe same doctor you mentioned, he might want to think about finding a different one.

Best I can suggest is support him in healthy ways that best suit the two of you. There are some links in the community info that might be helpful.

The garlic bread thing is from a variation of the joke "this is better than sex!". Garlic bread has since become a staple of the community.

asexual

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I am looking for advice.

So, it seems like your SO is experiencing some issues related to his anxiety, and is dealing in a less than optimal manner. (Obligatory Not a Doctor statement)

However it does seem like he might be somewhere under the Aro Ace umbrella by your description.

You mentioned doctor, is that a psychologist/psychiatrist? Because they don't seem very supportive.

There might be no easy way to bring up the issues in the relationship, and it sounds like he needs to make some more progress.

It could beneficial to get him to speak with another Ace person, face to face.

Or (and this is a risky method and not recommended) just start sending him ace memes that don't flat our say they are ace memes.

Oh, and please be safe and have some garlic bread.