There are a lot of crazies out there. Some twitch or YouTube streamer I forgot the name of was accused of pedophilia for dating a minor a few years ago. His girlfriend was 17. He was 18 at the time.
IIRC a few years ago they tried to charge an 18 year old with possession of CP for having nudes of his 17 year old girlfriend at the time. Apparently her parents found out about their relationship and didn't approve. Which seems like something that could have been handled with a sit-down talk rather than arresting him and potentially putting him on a list for life, but what do I know.
Yeah, most states have clauses in their laws for small age differences in relationships when one partner is below the age of consent, but the photographs make it more tricky because that'll be sexual photographs of a minor forever.
Risky reporting it to the police though, since there have actually been cases of charging the underage girl with distribution, which is weird.
If I remember correctly, there was at least one case where a woman was accused for production of child pornography for her own photos found during phone repair. Can't find the link though
3 year age gap is nothing. I don't understand people's need to be disgusted by or police consenting adults.
There's 15 years between me and my partner. Both 30+ so both very much consenting adults. But Christ, you still get people chirping with the 'power differential' bullshit. Like seriously, you'd think I was 13 the way people go at the age gap. Then again, that was when I actually used Reddit so.
People are always gonna be outraged by something stupid.
People who spend too much time on the internet, are often young, don't have that much experience of the real world, but do have a disproportionate voice online. That's why you'll read plenty of dumb shit on the internet when it comes to relationships.
Luckily most of them outgrow this nonsense by actually living life. They join the work force, they make friends, they fuck, they fall in love. Unfortunately rather than living life and growing, some people become terminally online. They spend all day on the internet talking about life rather than living it. Afraid of getting hurt, or because they were hurt and decided never again, they are destined to wake up one day and realise they've wasted what could have been the best years of the life.
I dated a work colleague and people wouldn't shut up about that either. I honestly think they spent more time thinking about it than we did. It wasn't like she was my boss or anything so I wasn't quite sure why it made any difference.
They kept saying it would be awkward if we break up, but then there were people in the company I already hated and I didn't need to sleep with them to come to that conclusion.
That anyone would have an issue with a 23yo going out with a 20yo is so bonkers to me. And you? 2 consenting adults don't need to justify their relationship or intimacy to anyone.
There was 25 years difference between my grandparents and no one ever thought that was a problem. It's this new phenomenon that seems to have come about that people seem to think it's an issue.
If you're 20 and dating a 10-year-old, that's a problem (hopefully we all agree on that). But if you're 30 and dating the 20-year-old, that's fine. The age difference isn't important. The age of the individuals is what matters.
Yeah I looked it up and it stems from the French of all people, who you would have thought would have been perfectly fine with young love, but there we go. Maybe It comes from the puritan movement?
Attributed to French author Max O'Rell in his 1901 “romantic guidebook” with the wildly unsexy title, Her Royal Highness Woman and His Majesty Cupid, the mathematical formula was O'Rell's unofficial law re: romantic age gaps. According to his calculations, a bride's ideal age was half the groom's age plus seven years.
So I think we can retire that one. Also notice the use of the word ideal age. It wasn't a mathematical formula for calculating the youngest that it's acceptable to date. It's a mathematical formula to calculate the ideal age to date, presumably there is a lower lower bound.
The time is not the issue. It's more that the two people are in different phases of life and maturity. Though 20 junior in university and 23 right out of college isn't really much of a difference. 20yo vs a 17yo junior in HS would be a much bigger difference
I get the difference in experience and where you are in life is a factor, but the issue is people presume the existence of that factor outweighs all others, and that it can only result in a negative.
Can you give me an example of actual harm being done to the younger person in a gap between high school and college? Harm that applies near universally, to every young person, if they ever enter a relationship with someone that is only a single major life experience ahead of them?
Harm can be done, obviously, but it's about the circumstances of that specific relationship. There's no reason to presume it as a rule in a case like this.
It also makes an unfair presumption on both parties: that the older person is irresponsible and manipulative, and the younger person is immature and vulnerable.
It really is kind of odd how much we talk about this topic without appreciating that at a certain point we are almost infantilizing young adults. We agree they're old enough to vote, own a gun, smoke, and drink, but we can't give them the the courtesy of respecting their decisions on who they want to sleep with? They're not actual children.
That's more of a preference. The "your age divided by 2 plus 7" rule is more about social acceptability of the relationship. But hook-ups are just sex, and generally not subjected to scrutiny, and that doesn't have to be acceptable to anyone but you and your partner.
Most people generally like to keep their partners in their age range, but it's very flexible depending on the prospective partner. And there are quite a few young people out there that do genuinely like more mature sexual partners even if they'd never actually date them.
I met her at work, and assumed she was in her mid 20's. We had been dating for a few weeks when she told me that her birthday was in a few days. I asked her how old she would be and she said "20". Oops.
She's 36 now. But she still looks like she is in her 20's.
Also there is a weird. Women are powerful and can look after themselves we have equality now. Then the next sentence omg that man is awful he is taking advantage of that poor helpless women who isn't capable of making her own life choices.
I also don't use Twitter, Instagram or TikTok because they're terrible.
I also don't quite understand why a 20-year-old dating a 23-year-old is contentious. There's no age gap at all. Who exactly is having a problem with this?
He sounds like a perfectly normal person who just doesn't read the news.
That's not true. About half the states in the US have "Romeo and Juliet" laws to protect couples in this situation. For example, when my husband and I started dating I was 19 and he was 16, and that age gap was perfectly legal in my state.
In my native country that's perfectly fine as well, if the age gap is less than 5 years and one is less than 18 they are literally both kids, whether one of them has passed an imaginary line or not. This is just being pedantic. You will reply "uhhh so an 18 years old should be able to date a 13 years old?" completely ignoring that a 17 yo can anyway date a 12 yo without any problem. What are we even talking about? At that age parents should supervise them anyway
I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I'm the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven't used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend's 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.
I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn't intended to be ego centric like other sites.
I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of "social media" is the latter.
The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.
I'm on kbin. But I'd consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it's more tilted towards a forum method.
Am I out of the loop? I didn't think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It's this not the case?
Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I've read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn't expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better
I don't know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don't want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven't known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.
According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit
Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn't post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:
I just don't care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.
Really, it's annoying that people think we're judgemental. I'm guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren't confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they'll feel judged, because I'm adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.
If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I'm the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don't want it, they'll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.
I have friends that don't drink and don't do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it's great. I don't fathom why question was down voted. I think it's awesome that you you don't succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️
Yeah, I'm proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I'm proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It's better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.
Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don't go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I'm better than them because I'm a roller-coaster virgin
I had a friend who irritated this part of the internet with fanfiction and got death threats because of it! It's really stupid lol they're called "antis" because they're anti everything.
They're so insane that they have called characters who knew other characters (all fictional characters, treated as seriously as though this was real life, mind you) when they were underage but ended up dating when both characters were canonically both above 18, they call the older character in that scenario a groomer. With their full chest. When no grooming activity has taken place. It's very black and white. Also very "you should have known you would have offended me with that idea"-y which is very not good for creative work areas.
This is the side of the internet that infantilizes full grown adults, thus making a 20 to 23 year old age gap "problematic" (in heavy sarcasm quotes because I pretty vehemently believe there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults being in a relationship together. Problematic is a useful word still, but this just is not what problematic looks like)
Tumblr was historically split down the middle between fetish porn, and people who just had to take offense at everything to feel special about themselves.
Now those special folk are all thats left, now that Yahoo removed the porn.
No, not just Tumblr, they thrive on Twitter as well. That was where my friend got the death threats primarily. They did sprout from the Tumblr younglings though. I'm convinced antis are what happen when you're catered to too much lol
They'd have had a field day with a situation that played out when I was in my 20s.
One girl I went to high school with, who was a few years older than me, had a big crush on the new young science teacher that started at our school in her junior or senior year. She took his classes and was friendly and close with him, but as far as I know, nothing inappropriate happened, and he was absolutely, positively, strictly professional the entire time.
Then she graduated and went off to college and they stayed in touch. Again friendly. Maybe less "strictly professional", but certainly not romantic, even though anyone who knew her knew she had had this crush on him for years at that point.
After college, or even later in her college years, they start hanging out...as friends, maybe as casual dates, idk. Then after she finished college they quickly started dating, became a serious couple, and eventually got married and started a family.
Was it weird? Sure. But was any aspect of it inappropriate? Ehhhhh...idunno. I don't think anyone ever "crossed the line" at any point, but comments were definitely made, eyebrows were raised, and rumors ran wild.
But in the end I think they kept it kosher enough, and by the time they got married, I feel like most people had gotten to the point that their reaction was more or less, "Yeah I guess it's kinda weird, but whatever. It's none of my business and if they're both happy, good for them."
But the kind of people you're talking about would've had a meltdown.
I see this come up on social media, moreso with Gen Z and people that just like to be outraged about stuff online. They seem to be more sensitive to age gaps and call it grooming, even stuff within the typical "half your age plus seven" rule that most millenials and older gens seemed to find normal. I'm not sure that only 3 years would be a problem even for them though.
Well, I can totally imagine someone grooming a future partner from a very early age of 30 just to wait until they get retired and can spend the rest of life with them >!/s!<
It's not, this a fake story used to drive rage engagement. The person making it up thinks certain people (feminists I'm guessing?) Would care about a 3 year gap between consenting adult just because they care about actual stuatory rape.
Maybe it's because I'm a foreigner; maybe I'm also too disconnected, but I didn't get half of the supposed contentious items listed in this post.
Reading the comments, I was like, 'oh, that's what they meant by...'. The body count really surprised me, and in a negative way. Body count sounds so... tasteless. But who cares. Since I don't use that expression, I'll probably forget it soon (the good side of having a lousy memory).
It is. Definitely not something I'd include under "modern discourse". I'd say a co-worker asking that and using that particular term is the one that's disconnected from the present.
Guess we live and work in different environments. The only place I still see people talking that way and using such excuses for it is in the mandatory sexual harassment training videos.
But so many of them will do the first step right in disengaging from social media...but then will only ever be able to make the next step be bragging about step one and trying to shame anyone and everyone who is exactly what they were not too long ago.
And one crazy effect I've seen is that it's no longer stratified by age.
I rarely get on Facebook anymore but lately when I do, it's full of people in their 50s and 60s, who are totally absorbed in that social media life and have their own strange cultural bubble among similar users, that I'm totally unable to relate to beyond observing it for what it is.
Not going to list names when I'm asked about my experiences, unless I'm having that conversation with a SO.
Being respectful of people in general is important. Whatever phrasing that allows me to talk about myself and keeps the other involved people anonymous is fine by me.
The one that seems slightly unbelievable to me is the "body count". Unless he didn't know what it's used for now and was trying to play it off as a joke.
I could buy this being a true story. Modern social media contravorcy is getting so ridiculous even I who passively takes part ends up out of the loop on occasion. Just imagine what is happening to someone who doesn't take part in Twitter or tick tock at all.
As mentioned, it's the Jordan River to the Mediterranean. It's been used by Palestians since at least the mid 60s in a number of different chants, e.g. "from the river to the sea Palestine will be free/Arab/Islamic" (technically, the latter two are "from the water to the water" because otherwise the Arabic doesn't rhyme).
Hamas's charter says
Hamas rejects any alternative to the full and complete liberation of Palestine, from the river to the sea
While Netanyahu's far-right Likud party's 1977 manifesto says
between the Sea and the Jordan there will only be Israeli sovereignty
It's historically been somewhat controversial, with Zionists typically saying that it calls for the destruction of the state of Israel and/or the expulsion of Jews from the area. CNN fired a political commentator for saying it ~5 years back, and it's regulated as hate speech in some places in Europe. Most pro Palestinian activists think that's ridiculous, but it's worth being aware of.
The current charter specifically makes a point of saying that that's not what they want though. Makes a point out of dragging a distinction between Jewish people (they don't have a problem with) and the Zionist project (which they do have a problem with
You'd have a great point if they said: Gaza and Westbank will be free, but they're not saying that. They're saying "from the river to the sea". A quick glance at the map will teach you that this includes the entire internationally recognized territory of Israel where about 7 million jews live, who are not colonists.
So what people actually mean when they say that they want that area to be free is that they want it to be free of jews. And that my friend, is a call to genocide, also not a difficult concept.
Okay so you're either a troll or just an idiot. Given you keep trying to make me out to be an antisemite because that's the standard, and frankly only, zionist shill tactic I'm going to with the former.
But just in case you are just an idiot: all of Israel is stolen land, its a country founded by Jewish colonists that unilaterally declared independence. Every single Israeli is a coloniser and Palestinians calling for their stolen land to be given or taken back are no worse than Indians who wanted their freedom from the British.
Okay so you’re either a troll or just an idiot. Given you keep trying to make me out to be an antisemite because that’s the standard, and frankly only, zionist shill tactic I’m going to with the former.
I never called you an antisemite, and I'd prefer it if you didn't call me names like "troll", "idiot" or "shill" either.
But just in case you are just an idiot: all of Israel is stolen land, its a country founded by Jewish colonists that unilaterally declared independence. Every single Israeli is a coloniser and Palestinians calling for their stolen land to be given or taken back are no worse than Indians who wanted their freedom from the British.
That is a very lopsided reading of the history of how the state of Israel came to be. There is a lot more nuance to that story, and I'd advise you to dig a bit deeper into it so that you can free yourself from the prejudices and dogma that you've become a victim to. /u/[email protected] 's comment below is a good start.
But even if your story were completely true, your argument still ignores the fact that the majority of those 7 million jews who are living there right now are 2nd, 3rd, or 4th generation immigrants who had nothing to do with that story other than being born in Israel. Any "from the river to the sea" solution will have to involve forcibly getting rid of them. There is no way to do that without committing genocide against those people.
Just because you inferred it rather than outright saying it, does not mean the accusation didn't happen. Which is another tactic commonly used by trolls, so I'm now pretty sure you're just being a dickhead for your own entertainment and don't actually give a shit about this situation. Further proof of this is the classic: "what you said is wrong. I'm not going to tell how its wrong or whT the 'right' version is, just go do more research, lol" and I'm willing to bet I've read more accounts of the history of this conflict from both sides involved and external 3rd parties than you have.
And that's classic colonialist apologism, "well they had kids here so the land belongs to them now." Like should we consider the Russian invasion of Ukraine. There will have been thousands of Russians born in occupied Crimea by now. Does that mean that land belongs to Russia? Is invading a country completely acceptable as long as you hold on to it long enough for someone to have a kid?
But yes, decolonisation does require the removal of the colonising party. If they can't return to their country of origin or their parents/grandparents country of origin, then they will need to legally immigrate/become citizens of Palestine. Its the same thing that's happened in literally every case of decolonisation, leave or integrate into the new free state. It's just given how Israel has treated the Palestinians I can't imagine many Jews would want to be part of Palestine and face those consequences.
That's what the police does. They enforce the law as they understand it.
You're right that it hasn't been tested in court, but that only happens when someone challenges it in court.
It's also important to note that Germany does not have absolute free speech, there are several anti-hate-speech and anti-nazi laws that limit that right, and the police can and does enforce that frequently.
My issue was with the headline and the article not making anything clear. You're not repeating the headline in your argument so I think we're done here.
Did... did you read the whole thing or did you jump straight to the comments to complain...? Nowhere is the OP putting him on blast, if anything the post is supportive.
I read it and still have a conflicting feeling about the post. Don't know, it just doesn't produce the "wholesome rant about charming things about a nice person" vibe, more like "I find you weird and love laughing at you" vibe
Lemmy really gives reddit for boomers with these made up rage bait posts like this.
Gets straight to the top and everyone is saying they wish they could be this guy because they don't care about modern issues and want to go "back to the good ol days". Rage bait didn't even get rage, just people creaming over the idea of not thinking about global issues and trans rights.
I think people are just sick of all the self righteous fart smellers and the idea of someone who hasn't gotten sucked into paying attention to them is endearing.
Why is it helpful to think about gender or global news exactly? Isn't it better for mental well being to focus on your loved ones and what you can accomplish in a day. I don't appreciate attention whores sucking up my time usually.
Because gender or global news may be important to your loved ones or just other humans you might like to show basic respect and decency to. You don’t need to become well read on every subject anyone might be passionate about, but it really doesn’t take a lot of effort to learn some pronouns and generally what’s going on in the world so you can be kinder to others.
They mean ‘this is a made up story that is exists because it encourages engagement with itself.’ Social media has done fucking numbers on the commodification and quantification of social interactions as a result of letting the internet be dictated by mostly unfettered advertising and capitalist priorities.
Pretty sure they mean that this post is "rage bait" or something similar - controversial content that is designed to provoke arguments in the comments section. For example, the "from the river to the sea" comment could provoke comments about the war in Gaza. Or the entire post could provoke arguments about whether it is good or bad to participate in social media.
I can't tell whether this particular person is real, but I fully believe that there are thousands such people, if not more, in every developed country. I count myself among them. My social media interaction, other than Lemmy and Reddit, is limited to reading and writing 1000+ words long blog posts. I recently left our company's Christmas party after an hour when I realised I had nothing to talk about with the others - I don't know the current trends in movies, TV or music, and nobody in my work shares my interests. So, I may be perceived as just as weird (or endearing, as the ending suggests), even though I see myself as perfectly normal.
That's one more point for homeschooling. I wish I didn't have to deal with the stupidity that's being pushed into the zeitgeist by TikTok and Insta. I don't even use them, but I have to deal with their braindead ideas on the daily anyway.
Don't forget braindead NPC and Everyone Has Mental Illness bullshit as well as whatever Alt Right goon is popular rightnnow but sure if you want to cherrypick a few vague topics Tiktok is just a bastion of progressive ideas.
Cherry pick? I took it from THIS POST. Karlos_Cantana is complaining in this post with the above as an example of stupidity being pushed by social media.
I mean it's more like social media in general is dying. Alex here is the future.
Edit: I knew a guy that was a little bit like this. I.e. young and nerdy enough that I'd expect him to have his eyeballs on the news feed, but no. I used to have to explain references to a bunch of stuff that was "going on" because he didn't care about being "up to date".
Whenever I explained one of those things it rarely felt like knowing that stuff was worth it. It's mostly noise.
A bunch of coworkers got drunk, played truth or dare, and someone asked him his body count? Yeah, that's the kind of scenario a 15 year old would make up.
I'd say that playing "adults game" as an underage because actual adults don't care and make no difference between child quests and bloody shooters is very relatable. Maybe today things are different because of all the people trying to blame all violence on videogames but I think it still is the same at least in some families.
I could care less that a 10 year old played MW3. I’m just shocked that so much time has passed that someone who is an adult now played that game at 10 years old because I was 20 when the game came out.
You know it's interesting how in touch I am considering how out of touch I am. I want to be a part of the cultural zeitgeist so I can get jokes, and talk to people, and generally be alive and understand what's going on in the world, but at the same time it's truly exhausting. I dunno, I think as I've understood how much "the culture" is just pioneered by like, some 12 year old somewhere brainlessly chaining nonsense words together, the more I find myself wanting to disengage. See, and then, that's not even real, because "the culture" no longer exists. You get viral memes that are spewed forth on their ability to masquerade as "the culture" without actually being it. I'm sure some stupid kid somewhere talks like they're a terminally online brainrotted weirdo, and that kid should probably stop being on the internet, but to say that this stupid kid is "the culture", is false. This isn't the case.
Everyone just collectively hallucinates some fake thing in their head that they can be mad or find funny or both. There is no "culture" anymore. There's just a bunch of atomized communities who independently do whatever they do, and then somehow everyone has cultural osmosis knowledge of a mr beast video because they know someone who knows someone who watches it and they have to have an opinion on everything. I want the ride to stop, I want to get off! I want the ride to stop now! I would like to go back to rage comics please!
My coworker is so unaware of modern cultural discourse it's hilarious, submitted by /u/BengalRoute47 to /r/redscarepod
He's 23. He doesn't use TikTok, Instagram, or Twitter. His favourite drink is Bud Light and was confused when an old dude at work asked him why he still supports them. He's dating a 20 year old college junior which isn't much of an age gap to most people but you already know that bothers a very loud subsection of the population. He saw someone wearing a sweater that says "From the River to the Sea" and asked which ocean the sweater was referring to; he's a huge cartography nerd. When he saw a manager put he/him pronouns in a sent email, he was confused and asked me "what does that mean? I thought he was already a man?". We had a bit of a coworker get together one day and played drunk truth or dare. Someone asked him what is body count was. His response was "I played MW3 a lot when I was 10 or o it's definitely somewhere in the hundreds"
Bud light made a few special cans for an ad with a transgender woman, people got mad and started boycotting budweiser. Age gaps in dating are discouraged because there can be power/knowledge imbalances that lead to the younger person being taken advantage of, though I'd say that a gap of 3 years at that age is not a big power imbalance. Body count usually refers to the total number of people someone has had sex with.
Short(ish) version-
"From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free,” pro-Palestinian activists from London to Rome and Washington chanted in the volatile aftermath of Israel’s bloodiest day. Adopting or defending it can be costly for public figures, such as U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib, who was censured by the House on Tuesday.
TLDR; Hamas adopted the slogan in 2012. Jewish people say it is a call to genocide saying "Have no doubt that Hamas is cheering those ‘from the river to the sea’ chants, because a Palestine between the river to the sea leaves not a single inch for Israel."
I'm willing to wager that Alex is a het cis white man - and this post describes that privilege that this phenotype sometimes angrily exclaims does not exist.
I wish I could be this ignorant and my life not be affected by remaining ignorant.
Ignorance. Choosing actively to not engage with society to the point where you dont know whom you support or whom youre being antagonized by will not serve you well.
Also, sounds like this place of business is toxic as shit.
The bar for what qualifies as "social engagement" these days is unreasonably high. The proliferation of engagement-driven social media and it's subsequent exploitation by propagandists has raised the standards for keeping up with events from "be aware of current events" to "be a culture warrior and if you're not on my side you're evil".
A person can live a fulfilling and valid life without engaging in the constant culture war. A person who chooses to abstain will be happier on a day-to-day basis and will be alerted to actual major events by traditional news services.
I'll just wait for all of the keyboard warriors to come out and justify their addiction to outrage
Are people actually getting their undies in a bunch over a 3 year age gap? I find that hard to believe.
There are a lot of crazies out there. Some twitch or YouTube streamer I forgot the name of was accused of pedophilia for dating a minor a few years ago. His girlfriend was 17. He was 18 at the time.
IIRC a few years ago they tried to charge an 18 year old with possession of CP for having nudes of his 17 year old girlfriend at the time. Apparently her parents found out about their relationship and didn't approve. Which seems like something that could have been handled with a sit-down talk rather than arresting him and potentially putting him on a list for life, but what do I know.
Yeah, most states have clauses in their laws for small age differences in relationships when one partner is below the age of consent, but the photographs make it more tricky because that'll be sexual photographs of a minor forever.
Risky reporting it to the police though, since there have actually been cases of charging the underage girl with distribution, which is weird.
If he gets charged for possessing it, she should get charged for disseminating it.
If I remember correctly, there was at least one case where a woman was accused for production of child pornography for her own photos found during phone repair. Can't find the link though
Ya. The law is dumb as shit. I remember a story of a high school boy, i think 16yo, was tried for CP for having photos of himself on his phone.
The law is the law, I suppose🤷🏿
In capitalist America law breaks you.
Callmecarson. He was dating her before he turned 18 and there was only a couple months gap iirc.
That's the one!
3 year age gap is nothing. I don't understand people's need to be disgusted by or police consenting adults.
There's 15 years between me and my partner. Both 30+ so both very much consenting adults. But Christ, you still get people chirping with the 'power differential' bullshit. Like seriously, you'd think I was 13 the way people go at the age gap. Then again, that was when I actually used Reddit so.
People are always gonna be outraged by something stupid.
People who spend too much time on the internet, are often young, don't have that much experience of the real world, but do have a disproportionate voice online. That's why you'll read plenty of dumb shit on the internet when it comes to relationships.
Luckily most of them outgrow this nonsense by actually living life. They join the work force, they make friends, they fuck, they fall in love. Unfortunately rather than living life and growing, some people become terminally online. They spend all day on the internet talking about life rather than living it. Afraid of getting hurt, or because they were hurt and decided never again, they are destined to wake up one day and realise they've wasted what could have been the best years of the life.
It's sad, but it is what it is.
I dated a work colleague and people wouldn't shut up about that either. I honestly think they spent more time thinking about it than we did. It wasn't like she was my boss or anything so I wasn't quite sure why it made any difference.
They kept saying it would be awkward if we break up, but then there were people in the company I already hated and I didn't need to sleep with them to come to that conclusion.
That's why I specified 'between consenting adults', because yes, 13 and 28 is definitely a problem.
Man wait until they hear about mine if true. My wife 7 years younger then me.
That anyone would have an issue with a 23yo going out with a 20yo is so bonkers to me. And you? 2 consenting adults don't need to justify their relationship or intimacy to anyone.
If anyone was complaining to me about that age gap, i'd ignore anything they talked about forever.
That is also not a large gap.
Nope my bother wife 9 years younger then him. And my dad was once married to a woman 20 years older then him.
There was 25 years difference between my grandparents and no one ever thought that was a problem. It's this new phenomenon that seems to have come about that people seem to think it's an issue.
If you're 20 and dating a 10-year-old, that's a problem (hopefully we all agree on that). But if you're 30 and dating the 20-year-old, that's fine. The age difference isn't important. The age of the individuals is what matters.
Exactly, but my kids think it should be an issue. So I blame them todays youth thinks it's creepy.
Apparently, it's half the age of the older person plus 7.
Even that was just pulled out of someone's ass but for some reason it gets treated like it's science.
Yeah I looked it up and it stems from the French of all people, who you would have thought would have been perfectly fine with young love, but there we go. Maybe It comes from the puritan movement?
So I think we can retire that one. Also notice the use of the word ideal age. It wasn't a mathematical formula for calculating the youngest that it's acceptable to date. It's a mathematical formula to calculate the ideal age to date, presumably there is a lower lower bound.
Nerds who though a random simple formula is what makes something okay or gross
I know that's supposed to be a thing, but it doesn't make sense since, what is actually morally wrong with the 35-year-old dating a 20-year-old?
Everyone's an adult in that scenario, no one's taken advantage of anyone else.
My father was 36 and my mom was 23 when they got married. Other than him being somewhat abusive it was an okay marriage.
The time is not the issue. It's more that the two people are in different phases of life and maturity. Though 20 junior in university and 23 right out of college isn't really much of a difference. 20yo vs a 17yo junior in HS would be a much bigger difference
A 23-year-old just out of college acts exactly the same way as a 20-year-old in college. There's literally no difference.
Be careful speaking in absolutes regarding human behavior.
I get the difference in experience and where you are in life is a factor, but the issue is people presume the existence of that factor outweighs all others, and that it can only result in a negative.
Can you give me an example of actual harm being done to the younger person in a gap between high school and college? Harm that applies near universally, to every young person, if they ever enter a relationship with someone that is only a single major life experience ahead of them?
Harm can be done, obviously, but it's about the circumstances of that specific relationship. There's no reason to presume it as a rule in a case like this.
It also makes an unfair presumption on both parties: that the older person is irresponsible and manipulative, and the younger person is immature and vulnerable.
It really is kind of odd how much we talk about this topic without appreciating that at a certain point we are almost infantilizing young adults. We agree they're old enough to vote, own a gun, smoke, and drink, but we can't give them the the courtesy of respecting their decisions on who they want to sleep with? They're not actual children.
Uh huh. I'm not going to search for abuse cases. But you can tell it's very much frowned upon in society just by looking at popular media.
For a recent example: the new Scott Pilgrim show. He's universally looked down upon for dating a 17yo.
HS students are children.
Half your age plus seven is the “general rule” I’ve always heard, but there are always exceptions. Even with that 23 and 20 is fine.
I've known some people who had a '+5 on weekends' amendment to that rule.
That's more of a preference. The "your age divided by 2 plus 7" rule is more about social acceptability of the relationship. But hook-ups are just sex, and generally not subjected to scrutiny, and that doesn't have to be acceptable to anyone but you and your partner.
Most people generally like to keep their partners in their age range, but it's very flexible depending on the prospective partner. And there are quite a few young people out there that do genuinely like more mature sexual partners even if they'd never actually date them.
That calculation was a joke that justified old men dating women barely half their age. It wasn't meant to be an actual guideline
I saw a 27 year old on Reddit bragging about how they'd never date a 25 year old because they were too young 🙄
Social media really attracts some lunatics.
When I met my wife I was 27... she was 19. And I got some good-natured (I think) hassle about dating a teenager.
ಠ_ಠ
I met her at work, and assumed she was in her mid 20's. We had been dating for a few weeks when she told me that her birthday was in a few days. I asked her how old she would be and she said "20". Oops.
She's 36 now. But she still looks like she is in her 20's.
Yes they are. It's crazy.
Also there is a weird. Women are powerful and can look after themselves we have equality now. Then the next sentence omg that man is awful he is taking advantage of that poor helpless women who isn't capable of making her own life choices.
I also don't use Twitter, Instagram or TikTok because they're terrible.
I also don't quite understand why a 20-year-old dating a 23-year-old is contentious. There's no age gap at all. Who exactly is having a problem with this?
He sounds like a perfectly normal person who just doesn't read the news.
Somewhat well adjusted, untouched by the corrupt hands of those unfamiliar with the prickly sting of fresh grass.
He said "you already know that bothers a subsection of the population".
Not that anyone actually did, that was in his imagination.
Oh it bothers a certain kind of chronically online person. Tbf it's a very small number of people, but they do exist, and are quite loud
What do they find an acceptable age range then? 6 months but no more?
Well imagine if they have been dating for 4 years
Ok...but that's not the scenario in question.
I mean, fuck, imagine if he beats her and killed her dog. We can "imagine" things all day.
imagine if hes actually a 900 year old vampire. thatd be CREEPY
What if he’s like, SUPER sparkly?
But she's actually a 899-year-old anime girl that looks 20.
16 to 19 isn't really a big gap either imo
It's not but one is an adult and shouldn't be in a relationship with the kid
Depends where you live, in the UK it's fine.
Not in the US... Kids have to breakup when they turn 18 lol
That's not true. About half the states in the US have "Romeo and Juliet" laws to protect couples in this situation. For example, when my husband and I started dating I was 19 and he was 16, and that age gap was perfectly legal in my state.
the kids themselves breakup when they turn 18 to avoid being frowned upon
Yeah but this is only happening in your made-up story that didn't happen and isn't relevant to what we're talking about, so why you going on about it?
Do we know when they started dating? No.
I can say the same of any couple. So what's the relevance of the comment?
Maybe not in the republic of Mormon land but fuck you retard. I had the best time in my life at that age, guess what I was the 16 y.o. part.
In my native country that's perfectly fine as well, if the age gap is less than 5 years and one is less than 18 they are literally both kids, whether one of them has passed an imaginary line or not. This is just being pedantic. You will reply "uhhh so an 18 years old should be able to date a 13 years old?" completely ignoring that a 17 yo can anyway date a 12 yo without any problem. What are we even talking about? At that age parents should supervise them anyway
I am 24, autistic, straight edge, and a data analyst. I'm the youngest person in my company, the closest person to me in age is 45. I haven't used a regular social media site since I was 14. My only interaction with modern discourse is my girlfriend's 18 year old sister. When she talks she might as well be speaking another language. My hobbies are unix, classic literature, VHS collecting, and synthesizers. My girlfriend calls me her 80 year old boyfriend.
Isn't Lemmy a social media?
The anonymous factor differentiates things.
Can't any social media be anonymous?
Sure but it's not intended to be.
Also a big part of it is imo that you never interact with the same people on sites like reddit or Lemmy, you don't follow anyone or anything.
I often see the same people over and over again on lemmy since its a small community. I even saw the same nicks on reddit often (like shittymorph). But yes it isn't intended to be ego centric like other sites.
Good old asocial network.
So Twitter isn't a social media?
The "social" aspect is up to debate.
Usernames though. Anonymous would be something like 4chan
I guess they mean Facebook, Xitter, etc. You know, the big ones.
I think anonymous social media, while still social media, occupies a very different category from non-anonymous (identified?) social media. And the default interpretation of "social media" is the latter.
That'd make Twitter not social media for people not using their actual names.
The tougher requirement of people using their name would leave very few social medias. Basically just LinkedIn and Facebook, with Twitter and others that have usernames but also named people being in the grey area.
Any media can be anonymous.
It's a link aggregator
It's also "social news", which is a kind of social media.
Only if you don't participate in the comments sections or even just look at them.
More or less, but they specified “regular social media” which Lemmy is not
How dare you?
I'm on kbin. But I'd consider this and other reddit inspired websites to be closer to a forum than a social media. Sure, you can use it like a regular social media site, but it's more tilted towards a forum method.
Not a regular one
If you're 80 i hope your gf isn't in her 20s
You're who I pictured. Thanks for the validation.
Got any of your music out there we could listen to?
My current project is called Obfuscation. It's atmospheric synth music inspired by aliens.
https://obfuscation.bandcamp.com/
My previous project was Das Kommando. It was a harsh black noise project about violent suicide.
https://daskommando.bandcamp.com/
Am I out of the loop? I didn't think being a straight edge was something to be proud of. I feel like it includes a good amount of intolerance and judgement. It's this not the case?
Edit: man, I was expressing my impression from what I've read on the Internet and asking for more information. I wasn't expecting to get down voted for trying to understand better
I don't know if people are proud of it. Most people that I have known that are straight edge just don't want to do drugs or alcohol. I haven't known them to be judgemental of others who do, to each their own.
According to a punk guy I used to work with the straight edge movement originally had a nonjudgmental camp and an extremely judgemental camp. Can’t too much speak to that claim myself as I’ve never been on the punk scene but he was in general a trustworthy dude which leads me to believe there’s at least something to it even if it’s not quite right. But again I’m not in the punk scene so maybe I’m regurgitating bullshit
Maybe the non judgemental ones doesn't post on social media and the judgies are the ones that originally gave me the impression and down voted me :shrug:
The vocal minority can really skew perception
The og judgementals could just be old too, I’m in my late 30s and these guys are a decade older than me
I just don't care to put substances in my body that are effectively toxic. If you think, being high at all times is the best way to live life, then more power to you.
Really, it's annoying that people think we're judgemental. I'm guessing, lots of folks judge themselves for it, but as long as everyone else does the drugs, they aren't confronted with that.
As soon as I dare to exist, not putting toxic substances into my body, they'll feel judged, because I'm adhering to their moral standard of not doing drugs, effectively reminding them that it would be doable.
If I come up with some bullshit reasoning, like I'm the designated driver, rather than the truth that I just don't want it, they'll feel more at ease. Although, I guess, that would also be the case, if they truly thought I was actively judging them.
I have friends that don't drink and don't do drugs. Neither of my adult children do (18 and 20). I think it's great. I don't fathom why question was down voted. I think it's awesome that you you don't succumb to the pressures of society an live your life in a way that makes you happy. Keep kicking ass ❤️
Your question might have been downvoted, because people (including me) read it the wrong way.
I thought, you were saying people shouldn't be proud of being straight edge.
And your reasoning:
..., I thought, was supposed to say that you think people, who are straight edge, are themselves very intolerant and judgemental.
Words can just be ambiguous, I guess.
Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate the additional point of view
Yeah, I'm proud that I have self control and have maintained a lifestyle that many people fail at. I'm proud to be associated with a community of people that live the same way. It's better than being proud of how much booze you can down or how high you can get.
I guess it was people like you that gave me the impression I got from reading posts on the Internet
Yeah, this seems so oddly judgmental and weird lol. Like I don't go on roller-coasters, so fuck everyone that does I'm better than them because I'm a roller-coaster virgin
How is a 3 year gap a problem if she's 20, wtf.
It's not some people are just stupid.
He said "you already know that bothers a subsection of the population", not that it actually did, it just did in his imagination.
I've literally never even once heard someone raise a fuss about an age gap that small. Dude sounds like an ass.
CallMeCarson got into a huge controversy for exchanging photos with a 17-year old when he was 20. People like that exist and ruin lives all the time.
I had a friend who irritated this part of the internet with fanfiction and got death threats because of it! It's really stupid lol they're called "antis" because they're anti everything.
They're so insane that they have called characters who knew other characters (all fictional characters, treated as seriously as though this was real life, mind you) when they were underage but ended up dating when both characters were canonically both above 18, they call the older character in that scenario a groomer. With their full chest. When no grooming activity has taken place. It's very black and white. Also very "you should have known you would have offended me with that idea"-y which is very not good for creative work areas.
This is the side of the internet that infantilizes full grown adults, thus making a 20 to 23 year old age gap "problematic" (in heavy sarcasm quotes because I pretty vehemently believe there is nothing wrong with 2 consenting adults being in a relationship together. Problematic is a useful word still, but this just is not what problematic looks like)
its Tumblr.
the word you're looking for is Tumblr.
Tumblr was historically split down the middle between fetish porn, and people who just had to take offense at everything to feel special about themselves.
Now those special folk are all thats left, now that Yahoo removed the porn.
No, not just Tumblr, they thrive on Twitter as well. That was where my friend got the death threats primarily. They did sprout from the Tumblr younglings though. I'm convinced antis are what happen when you're catered to too much lol
They'd have had a field day with a situation that played out when I was in my 20s.
One girl I went to high school with, who was a few years older than me, had a big crush on the new young science teacher that started at our school in her junior or senior year. She took his classes and was friendly and close with him, but as far as I know, nothing inappropriate happened, and he was absolutely, positively, strictly professional the entire time.
Then she graduated and went off to college and they stayed in touch. Again friendly. Maybe less "strictly professional", but certainly not romantic, even though anyone who knew her knew she had had this crush on him for years at that point.
After college, or even later in her college years, they start hanging out...as friends, maybe as casual dates, idk. Then after she finished college they quickly started dating, became a serious couple, and eventually got married and started a family.
Was it weird? Sure. But was any aspect of it inappropriate? Ehhhhh...idunno. I don't think anyone ever "crossed the line" at any point, but comments were definitely made, eyebrows were raised, and rumors ran wild.
But in the end I think they kept it kosher enough, and by the time they got married, I feel like most people had gotten to the point that their reaction was more or less, "Yeah I guess it's kinda weird, but whatever. It's none of my business and if they're both happy, good for them."
But the kind of people you're talking about would've had a meltdown.
I see this come up on social media, moreso with Gen Z and people that just like to be outraged about stuff online. They seem to be more sensitive to age gaps and call it grooming, even stuff within the typical "half your age plus seven" rule that most millenials and older gens seemed to find normal. I'm not sure that only 3 years would be a problem even for them though.
Well, I can totally imagine someone grooming a future partner from a very early age of 30 just to wait until they get retired and can spend the rest of life with them >!/s!<
I'm Gen Z and my gf is 9 yrs older than me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Ok that's sus
Why?
If he’s 17, I suppose.
It's not, this a fake story used to drive rage engagement. The person making it up thinks certain people (feminists I'm guessing?) Would care about a 3 year gap between consenting adult just because they care about actual stuatory rape.
23-20=3? Or am I missing something?
It's not the math in question, it's that 3 seems to be a small gap when the younger party is 20
Ah yeah of course! The engineer in my stupid brain was going off before common sense.
Maybe it's because I'm a foreigner; maybe I'm also too disconnected, but I didn't get half of the supposed contentious items listed in this post.
Reading the comments, I was like, 'oh, that's what they meant by...'. The body count really surprised me, and in a negative way. Body count sounds so... tasteless. But who cares. Since I don't use that expression, I'll probably forget it soon (the good side of having a lousy memory).
It is. Definitely not something I'd include under "modern discourse". I'd say a co-worker asking that and using that particular term is the one that's disconnected from the present.
They're drunk playing truth or dare, really doesn't seem that disconnected from the present to me to ask for their body count in that context.
Guess we live and work in different environments. The only place I still see people talking that way and using such excuses for it is in the mandatory sexual harassment training videos.
And this man is probably the most mentally healthy man this guy knows as well.
But so many of them will do the first step right in disengaging from social media...but then will only ever be able to make the next step be bragging about step one and trying to shame anyone and everyone who is exactly what they were not too long ago.
And one crazy effect I've seen is that it's no longer stratified by age.
I rarely get on Facebook anymore but lately when I do, it's full of people in their 50s and 60s, who are totally absorbed in that social media life and have their own strange cultural bubble among similar users, that I'm totally unable to relate to beyond observing it for what it is.
Speaking as someone who was overly sheltered... All of this is plausible.
We need more people like Alex
What is "body count" in this context? Does it mean your number of sexual partners? If so, that's very dismissive and reductive.
Yes and yes
Also weird that they were asked that at a coworker get together
The one thing from the redpills that spilled over to normal people.
Sex is fun, and meeting new fun people is great.
Referring to them as "body count" is neither
Not going to list names when I'm asked about my experiences, unless I'm having that conversation with a SO.
Being respectful of people in general is important. Whatever phrasing that allows me to talk about myself and keeps the other involved people anonymous is fine by me.
Why don't call them partners, for instance? How's that not anonymous?
It's to remove the concept of relationships. Stay disconnected from other humans, just get your pleasure and move along.
Well, that's just awful, thanks.
This is funny but I have a slight feeling that it's made up
The one that seems slightly unbelievable to me is the "body count". Unless he didn't know what it's used for now and was trying to play it off as a joke.
... What is it used for now? I have a guess, but if correct, I've never heard it used that way.
Number of people you've slept with.
Body count is how many different people you've had sex with. Or how many you've murdered, but usually at a get-together it's the first one.
The first one was my guess, but I've sincerely never heard it used that way.
The second one is the way I've heard it used before.
Thank you for the answer.
Don't worry, the key is to just start counting on your fingers.
If you have to ask, it’s probably 0.
I only recently heard about this one. But I'm decently older than 23.
I could buy this being a true story. Modern social media contravorcy is getting so ridiculous even I who passively takes part ends up out of the loop on occasion. Just imagine what is happening to someone who doesn't take part in Twitter or tick tock at all.
Shouldn't that be most of us? I don't use those garbage websites or their apps.
Good. You should doubt.
There are no posts from this user on that subreddit so there's that.
https://old.reddit.com/r/redscarepod/search?q=Author%3Abengalroute47&restrict_sr=on
Good find. Searching "my coworker is so unaware" on Google shows a deleted thread on r/casualconversation so who knows.
What DOES from the river to the sea mean?
Edit: thank you all for helping me/us understand more about this.
There's a pretty good Wikipedia article on it
As mentioned, it's the Jordan River to the Mediterranean. It's been used by Palestians since at least the mid 60s in a number of different chants, e.g. "from the river to the sea Palestine will be free/Arab/Islamic" (technically, the latter two are "from the water to the water" because otherwise the Arabic doesn't rhyme).
Hamas's charter says
While Netanyahu's far-right Likud party's 1977 manifesto says
It's historically been somewhat controversial, with Zionists typically saying that it calls for the destruction of the state of Israel and/or the expulsion of Jews from the area. CNN fired a political commentator for saying it ~5 years back, and it's regulated as hate speech in some places in Europe. Most pro Palestinian activists think that's ridiculous, but it's worth being aware of.
I mean the original charter for Hamas also mentioned 'killing the Jews' but I'm sure it was a side point 🤔😅
The current charter specifically makes a point of saying that that's not what they want though. Makes a point out of dragging a distinction between Jewish people (they don't have a problem with) and the Zionist project (which they do have a problem with
I'm pretty sure they took out the genocide part just because it is a bit derivative. They're committed to peaceful protests I agree.
Borders of Palestine. Jordan River to the Mediterranean Sea.
From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free.
Israeli colonialism? It's not a difficult concept ig you stop trying to deflect any criticism of Israel by calling it antisemitism.
You'd have a great point if they said: Gaza and Westbank will be free, but they're not saying that. They're saying "from the river to the sea". A quick glance at the map will teach you that this includes the entire internationally recognized territory of Israel where about 7 million jews live, who are not colonists.
So what people actually mean when they say that they want that area to be free is that they want it to be free of jews. And that my friend, is a call to genocide, also not a difficult concept.
Okay so you're either a troll or just an idiot. Given you keep trying to make me out to be an antisemite because that's the standard, and frankly only, zionist shill tactic I'm going to with the former.
But just in case you are just an idiot: all of Israel is stolen land, its a country founded by Jewish colonists that unilaterally declared independence. Every single Israeli is a coloniser and Palestinians calling for their stolen land to be given or taken back are no worse than Indians who wanted their freedom from the British.
I never called you an antisemite, and I'd prefer it if you didn't call me names like "troll", "idiot" or "shill" either.
That is a very lopsided reading of the history of how the state of Israel came to be. There is a lot more nuance to that story, and I'd advise you to dig a bit deeper into it so that you can free yourself from the prejudices and dogma that you've become a victim to. /u/[email protected] 's comment below is a good start.
But even if your story were completely true, your argument still ignores the fact that the majority of those 7 million jews who are living there right now are 2nd, 3rd, or 4th generation immigrants who had nothing to do with that story other than being born in Israel. Any "from the river to the sea" solution will have to involve forcibly getting rid of them. There is no way to do that without committing genocide against those people.
Just because you inferred it rather than outright saying it, does not mean the accusation didn't happen. Which is another tactic commonly used by trolls, so I'm now pretty sure you're just being a dickhead for your own entertainment and don't actually give a shit about this situation. Further proof of this is the classic: "what you said is wrong. I'm not going to tell how its wrong or whT the 'right' version is, just go do more research, lol" and I'm willing to bet I've read more accounts of the history of this conflict from both sides involved and external 3rd parties than you have.
And that's classic colonialist apologism, "well they had kids here so the land belongs to them now." Like should we consider the Russian invasion of Ukraine. There will have been thousands of Russians born in occupied Crimea by now. Does that mean that land belongs to Russia? Is invading a country completely acceptable as long as you hold on to it long enough for someone to have a kid?
But yes, decolonisation does require the removal of the colonising party. If they can't return to their country of origin or their parents/grandparents country of origin, then they will need to legally immigrate/become citizens of Palestine. Its the same thing that's happened in literally every case of decolonisation, leave or integrate into the new free state. It's just given how Israel has treated the Palestinians I can't imagine many Jews would want to be part of Palestine and face those consequences.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_land_purchase_in_Palestine?wprov=sfla1
It's really no use for anyone to view this conflict as black and white as you seem to do.
What is your point? It being a purchase makes them not settlers or not colonial?
So the Americans weren't settlers because they purchased louisiana and Alaska?
Or to continue my India comparison, the British East India Company weren't colonialists because they purchased land in India?
Is that really the implication you want to make here?
...I learned it from this comment section too. Had no idea.
A call to genocide basically.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/From_the_river_to_the_sea
https://www.i24news.tv/en/news/international/europe/1699528989-berlin-criminalizes-slogan-from-the-river-to-the-sea-palestine-will-be-free
That's a questionable headline considering it was police interpreting an existing law (no courts or legislator has weighed in on the incident in the article). Read a better source here: https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2023/11/10/germany-gaza-protests-crackdown
That's what the police does. They enforce the law as they understand it.
You're right that it hasn't been tested in court, but that only happens when someone challenges it in court.
It's also important to note that Germany does not have absolute free speech, there are several anti-hate-speech and anti-nazi laws that limit that right, and the police can and does enforce that frequently.
My issue was with the headline and the article not making anything clear. You're not repeating the headline in your argument so I think we're done here.
Lazy troll is lazy
The person who wrote this sounds like a twat. Why judge the guy and put him on blast because he doesn't follow the same social norms as you?
You thought this was putting him on blast? The last sentence is "Love you man", you can't get much farther from "on blast" than that.
Love you bro
Stop blasting him!
Did... did you read the whole thing or did you jump straight to the comments to complain...? Nowhere is the OP putting him on blast, if anything the post is supportive.
I read it and still have a conflicting feeling about the post. Don't know, it just doesn't produce the "wholesome rant about charming things about a nice person" vibe, more like "I find you weird and love laughing at you" vibe
Seems rather positive towards the guy
There's something wrong with you.
He is living the life.
This is one of those people who dont live or care about the internet, honestly this sounds like a very healthy lifestyle.
Lemmy really gives reddit for boomers with these made up rage bait posts like this.
Gets straight to the top and everyone is saying they wish they could be this guy because they don't care about modern issues and want to go "back to the good ol days". Rage bait didn't even get rage, just people creaming over the idea of not thinking about global issues and trans rights.
I think people are just sick of all the self righteous fart smellers and the idea of someone who hasn't gotten sucked into paying attention to them is endearing.
They could just get off the internet if they wanted
I'm confused, what exactly did they nail?
He must have a high body count!
Why is it helpful to think about gender or global news exactly? Isn't it better for mental well being to focus on your loved ones and what you can accomplish in a day. I don't appreciate attention whores sucking up my time usually.
Because gender or global news may be important to your loved ones or just other humans you might like to show basic respect and decency to. You don’t need to become well read on every subject anyone might be passionate about, but it really doesn’t take a lot of effort to learn some pronouns and generally what’s going on in the world so you can be kinder to others.
A real human bean, and a real... hero.
A bean, you say?
https://youtu.be/abr6IoaxhfU
One of my all-time favorite greentexts.
?
"That's bait"
Lol thx, still don't get it
They mean ‘this is a made up story that is exists because it encourages engagement with itself.’ Social media has done fucking numbers on the commodification and quantification of social interactions as a result of letting the internet be dictated by mostly unfettered advertising and capitalist priorities.
Pretty sure they mean that this post is "rage bait" or something similar - controversial content that is designed to provoke arguments in the comments section. For example, the "from the river to the sea" comment could provoke comments about the war in Gaza. Or the entire post could provoke arguments about whether it is good or bad to participate in social media.
Oh my god, I thought it was a Frozen 2 reference. I'm such an idiot. And I don't have the excuse of not following the news lol
Oh.. understood. Here I was reading the narrative, not looking for bait to rage about. Thanks friend
I can't tell whether this particular person is real, but I fully believe that there are thousands such people, if not more, in every developed country. I count myself among them. My social media interaction, other than Lemmy and Reddit, is limited to reading and writing 1000+ words long blog posts. I recently left our company's Christmas party after an hour when I realised I had nothing to talk about with the others - I don't know the current trends in movies, TV or music, and nobody in my work shares my interests. So, I may be perceived as just as weird (or endearing, as the ending suggests), even though I see myself as perfectly normal.
I think there are a ton of people who just aren't very online.
I envy them
Tbh me too, but i develop websites for a living, so it wouldn't even be an option.
Not being able to relate to peers your age is fine but also not something to be proud of imo
I'm quite proud of not being able to relate to something I consider harmful and self-destructive.
Sometimes, it's better to be ignorant.
It's bliss
Literally 1984
Definitely home schooled
That's one more point for homeschooling. I wish I didn't have to deal with the stupidity that's being pushed into the zeitgeist by TikTok and Insta. I don't even use them, but I have to deal with their braindead ideas on the daily anyway.
I see the tradition of "kids these days are doing dumb stuff, not like me as a child!" Is alive and well.
No, the kids are fine. Don't be so dramatic.
Let's see what radical stuff you think tiktok and insta are pushing into mainstrain awareness:
Yeah, truly subversive stuff.
Don't forget braindead NPC and Everyone Has Mental Illness bullshit as well as whatever Alt Right goon is popular rightnnow but sure if you want to cherrypick a few vague topics Tiktok is just a bastion of progressive ideas.
Cherry pick? I took it from THIS POST. Karlos_Cantana is complaining in this post with the above as an example of stupidity being pushed by social media.
That's fair, they seem to be pro-homeschooling too which speaks a lot to their priorities and ideas, carry on.
This is the top of my feed on lemmy.world... yeah Reddit is totally dying
reddit was the biggest webiste in the US at one point wasn't it?
What do you think it will die just one day to the next?
Facebook is kinda dead, isn't it? but there is a big factor of inertia in it, it's a huge site, so it dies slowly.
Myspace and yahoo are both still here too.
Making my own custom Yahoo homepage widget by widget was really fun in 2008 :)
I mean it's more like social media in general is dying. Alex here is the future.
Edit: I knew a guy that was a little bit like this. I.e. young and nerdy enough that I'd expect him to have his eyeballs on the news feed, but no. I used to have to explain references to a bunch of stuff that was "going on" because he didn't care about being "up to date".
Whenever I explained one of those things it rarely felt like knowing that stuff was worth it. It's mostly noise.
I used to be like this. I would also accidentally make sexual innuendos, some of which were never explained to me.
Alright, Tobias.
Daddy needs to get his rocks off
Ironically, I don't get the reference.
From the show arrested development.
We had a French exchange student at one point and somebody told her the phrase "I'm gagging for it" meant she was thirsty. As in, she wanted a drink.
She kept saying it all the time. While waving her hand around in front of her face in a flustered way.
It got to the point where it would have been embarrassing to explain it to her.
So you just left her in the dark until years later she realized it and now it's something that pops into her brain late at night.
Who knows, she may have already known what it meant the whole time. She’s French, after all.
So you've just been raw dogging social interactions?
True story my friend's wife used that term without realizing the connotation.
I had to look this up. How do people come up with these phrases?
Either he didn't actually play mw3 a lot or he was terrible at it.
It's because the story is fake
A bunch of coworkers got drunk, played truth or dare, and someone asked him his body count? Yeah, that's the kind of scenario a 15 year old would make up.
That’s not necessarily as far fetched as you would hope…
NO ONE and I mean NO ONE plays truth or dare with coworkers. That's like an, I won the lotto, type chance of happing.
It happened to me on 3rd shift at a grocery store, where every employee was 18-24. A girl in my department a year older than me would flirt hard.
Third option: he's just bad at instantly making an estimation
Or, he really got into bed with all the mothers he insulted.
...or the whole thing was made up, because who would just assume a specific game?
Probably the latter.. but you know what? He's Alex, and as with so many other things, he just doesn't care.
MW3 didn’t come out 13 years ago, it came out 12 years ago so he wasn’t 10 either!
The fact that I now feel ancient because MW3 was an adults game they played a lot at 10 beside. This post has big clueless zoomer energy.
Actually it came out like a month ago.
Actually the world was created last thursday.
I'd say that playing "adults game" as an underage because actual adults don't care and make no difference between child quests and bloody shooters is very relatable. Maybe today things are different because of all the people trying to blame all violence on videogames but I think it still is the same at least in some families.
I think i miscommunicated my point.
I could care less that a 10 year old played MW3. I’m just shocked that so much time has passed that someone who is an adult now played that game at 10 years old because I was 20 when the game came out.
Ah, thanks for elaborating, to that I can also relate, unfortunately 😅
What the world really needs right now, more smart Alex...🤓👍
This guy got that ohio skibidi rizz.
You know it's interesting how in touch I am considering how out of touch I am. I want to be a part of the cultural zeitgeist so I can get jokes, and talk to people, and generally be alive and understand what's going on in the world, but at the same time it's truly exhausting. I dunno, I think as I've understood how much "the culture" is just pioneered by like, some 12 year old somewhere brainlessly chaining nonsense words together, the more I find myself wanting to disengage. See, and then, that's not even real, because "the culture" no longer exists. You get viral memes that are spewed forth on their ability to masquerade as "the culture" without actually being it. I'm sure some stupid kid somewhere talks like they're a terminally online brainrotted weirdo, and that kid should probably stop being on the internet, but to say that this stupid kid is "the culture", is false. This isn't the case.
Everyone just collectively hallucinates some fake thing in their head that they can be mad or find funny or both. There is no "culture" anymore. There's just a bunch of atomized communities who independently do whatever they do, and then somehow everyone has cultural osmosis knowledge of a mr beast video because they know someone who knows someone who watches it and they have to have an opinion on everything. I want the ride to stop, I want to get off! I want the ride to stop now! I would like to go back to rage comics please!
As an autistic man in his early 20s, I've never been "with it" and I don't want to. I just live my life and enjoy it.
I'm kind of the same, but I like to study what "it" is, you know? what even is "it"? And I still don't know.
I just like saying YEET 😆
Thanks, you just summarized my feelings about this in two paragraphs.
Also rage comics were the golden age. :-D
le browsing lemmy
They were annoying too.
I would give my left arm for this level of innocence... or maybe my frontal lobe.
That's not your Coworker, that's a young Peter Griffin.
I want to believe this guy is running an incredibly funny scam. Or he's really that pure. Either way it's a W
My horseshit detector is beeping like crazy 🤔🤔
I wouldn't say that, because I honestly don't know what most of these things are, except the pronouns and I guess bodycount means the sex.
We have folks like this at my firm.
ITT: OP discovers high functioning autism
This was my exact same thought. Alex got that autism but is probs great company and fun in board games.
I have no problem with it. I tend to get along great with autistic people!
Image Transcription: Reddit
My coworker is so unaware of modern cultural discourse it's hilarious, submitted by /u/BengalRoute47 to /r/redscarepod
He's 23. He doesn't use TikTok, Instagram, or Twitter. His favourite drink is Bud Light and was confused when an old dude at work asked him why he still supports them. He's dating a 20 year old college junior which isn't much of an age gap to most people but you already know that bothers a very loud subsection of the population. He saw someone wearing a sweater that says "From the River to the Sea" and asked which ocean the sweater was referring to; he's a huge cartography nerd. When he saw a manager put he/him pronouns in a sent email, he was confused and asked me "what does that mean? I thought he was already a man?". We had a bit of a coworker get together one day and played drunk truth or dare. Someone asked him what is body count was. His response was "I played MW3 a lot when I was 10 or o it's definitely somewhere in the hundreds"
Never change Alex. Love you man
Gotta love that guy.
Not familiar with the discourses except he/him and from river to the sea.
Can someone please ELI5?
Bud light made a few special cans for an ad with a transgender woman, people got mad and started boycotting budweiser. Age gaps in dating are discouraged because there can be power/knowledge imbalances that lead to the younger person being taken advantage of, though I'd say that a gap of 3 years at that age is not a big power imbalance. Body count usually refers to the total number of people someone has had sex with.
Short(ish) version- "From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free,” pro-Palestinian activists from London to Rome and Washington chanted in the volatile aftermath of Israel’s bloodiest day. Adopting or defending it can be costly for public figures, such as U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib, who was censured by the House on Tuesday.
Longer version- https://apnews.com/article/river-sea-israel-gaza-hamas-protests-d7abbd756f481fe50b6fa5c0b907cd49
That's the bit he said said he did understand
TLDR; Hamas adopted the slogan in 2012. Jewish people say it is a call to genocide saying "Have no doubt that Hamas is cheering those ‘from the river to the sea’ chants, because a Palestine between the river to the sea leaves not a single inch for Israel."
Edit: This post sums it up pretty well.
It is a call to genocide, because Hamas is an openly genocidal organization, just like the current government of Israel.
Bud light had some pro lgbt advertisement
Red Scare referring to everything as "discourse" is very funny to me.
I'm not aware of that sub and couldn't figure out if the name was ironic or real or what.
Bit of both, also alluding to menstruation.
The guy quoted in the article is so false-consensus that it's almost more adorable than sad. Almost.
It says it’s ignorance
I'm willing to wager that Alex is a het cis white man - and this post describes that privilege that this phenotype sometimes angrily exclaims does not exist.
I wish I could be this ignorant and my life not be affected by remaining ignorant.
Ignorance. Choosing actively to not engage with society to the point where you dont know whom you support or whom youre being antagonized by will not serve you well.
Also, sounds like this place of business is toxic as shit.
I'm gonna call bullshit.
The bar for what qualifies as "social engagement" these days is unreasonably high. The proliferation of engagement-driven social media and it's subsequent exploitation by propagandists has raised the standards for keeping up with events from "be aware of current events" to "be a culture warrior and if you're not on my side you're evil".
A person can live a fulfilling and valid life without engaging in the constant culture war. A person who chooses to abstain will be happier on a day-to-day basis and will be alerted to actual major events by traditional news services.
I'll just wait for all of the keyboard warriors to come out and justify their addiction to outrage