Are there any descent open source dating apps/communities?
Dating apps are designed to keep you on them and are malicious by nature. What are the best ways to meet people these days?
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My experience: do something you like that involves other people. My two things where dancing and karaoke. If you are well groomed and open you have good chances to meet someone. My best experiences were when I just chattet with people.
The best ways are the same as they've always been. And, none of them involve technology.
"Hey, they're cute. I wonder if... Welp, only one way to find out."
Step 1: Post "How do I approach someone I'm attracted to without seeming like a creep?" on [email protected].
alovoa and duolicious.
Both don't have many people on them.
why does it matter if its open source?
open source projects could still be designed to be algorithms keeping you on the site
ask question get downvoted. never change, lemmy.
Open source means you can see how maliciously and constantly you are fucked over by the app.
Honestly, I think most dating apps--owned by a single company--are probably breaking laws, and if they're not, we need to write some more.
At least we can do an anti-trust case against Match:
Match Group, Inc.[...] owns and operates the largest global portfolio of popular online dating services including
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match_Group
The conversation during the first date largely consisted of the couple swapping notes on their respective code audits of the dating system. It was when Jeremy heard Sandra raise the issue that some of the site's metrics for individual users used Sturge's rule to bin users, but that off-site demographic data suggested that the distribution of several of these metrics were not symmetric, at that moment, that he knew that the two were meant to be.
but it being open source doesnt stop that. hence my question to OP.
I think it does stop that because people would know how they're being manipulated and not participate.
I think the the fairer argument is that being open source doesn't get people to use it, and, since people want to be where everyone else is, they'll go to apps with marketing budgets and no requirement to learn how to federate your instance or whatever the fuck.
we are talking cross purposes. and i really dont care that much to explain.
You asked why open source would matter. In this case it would matter because it is visible if the app is abusing an algorithm to keep you on the app rather than actually try to find a match you might like.
So for one, it's much less likely to be happening because anybody with the know-how can see it and tell people. If an app got a bit larger of a userbase and then tried to change it to be shitty, you'll know and can stop using it.
It's also less likely because typically these open source apps the person is developing for free (maybe with donations to help support it) so there isn't that incentive to do anything scummy.
Anyone else can fork the application and host it themselves, so if the original developer starts making changes you disagree with you and a few other contributors could come together and take them out (like CoMaps for an example).
Everyone understands your question. You just miss the point of open source projects.
ok then.