It was a metric made up to measure management candidates. From there it got into the self-help industry, and now that's why everyone posts it on their dating profiles, because are looking for someone to manage their emotions for them.
"You can't be emotional and intelligent at the same time" is a misogynistic dogwhistle, anon thinks women are less intelligent than men, and I suspect the whole rant is informed by anons misogyny
Jk Rowling doesn't have the benefit of the doubt for that to work. Her works are dripping with status quo reinforcing shit and neither herself nor her characters are capable of growing past what they were born as.
It's not bigoted to recognize the type of language and stereotypes that are used against marginalized people. If you're a woman, you've almost certainly been called "too emotional" or "on her period" before as a means to dismiss you by people like this who think that emotions and rationality are incompatible with each other.
"Intelligence" isn't about knowing a lot of stuff or even having experience. It's about being able to use your knowledge and experience to solve problems. So, by that logic, emotional intelligence means a skill of solving problems pertaining to emotions.
I'd say emotional intelligence is understanding why you feel a certain way and not allowing the automatic reaction to those feelings to be the default reaction.
Like if something makes you angry, instead of going crazy, you take a deep breath and address it calmly. It's primarily emotional regulation.
I've also heard the term applied to understanding why other people feel a certain way and taking steps to mitigate negative emotional feedback. It's not just being able to control your own emotions.
Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.
Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn't mean they don't have a point.
I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I've seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO's bullshit, more often the "calm" one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting. People have this delusion/conceit, that so long as they haven't been forced to say what they really think or feel, they are in-control, when in reality they are no more in-control of themselves than anyone-else.
Bringing gender or "misogyny" into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the "women" part wrong. My fellow bitches, the "calm" ones are not on your side.
reflection is OFF THE FUCKING TABLE DIDN'T I SAY SO ALREADY I'M ENRAGED AT THE MERE THOUGHT OF THIS WHY WOULD ANYONE HURT THEMSELVES LIKE THIS BY LOOKING INSIDE I'M ANGRY HELP NO DON'T HELP AAAH. /s
If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.
This community is for jokes and laughs, stop taking it so seriously. Mayhap you should consume more fiber and less Takis so you may dislodge whatever is damming up your large colon and let the poo flow.
Yeah, the point is get off 4chan and get an education so you stop having apoplectic seizures every time someone mentions emotions or other "woke lib shit".
Jupp, I stopped using 4chan when I learned a sizable amount of the people using it actually believed what was in what I perceived as the shitposts. Prior to that it was for me an outlet for the dumbest ideas I could think of
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Anon isn't emotionally intelligent
Anon is so angry by their own logic they are not intelligent.
How dare you bring facts and logic into an emotional argument!
Anon was called “emotionally unintelligent” by someone they had feelings for.
Anon had a trip to HR .
This is bait but emotional intelligence is understanding your emotions, not the emotions having intelligence
Everyone sees what they want to see. Anon is blind, always.
Or not very emotionally intelligent, if you will.
The contemporary use is from management theory.
It was a metric made up to measure management candidates. From there it got into the self-help industry, and now that's why everyone posts it on their dating profiles, because are looking for someone to manage their emotions for them.
I usually think of it in terms of recognizing others' emotions and adjusting your words/actions to better cooperate or de-escalate
I'd say they go hand in hand. Intelligently rgulating your emotional responses
"You can't be emotional and intelligent at the same time" is a misogynistic dogwhistle, anon thinks women are less intelligent than men, and I suspect the whole rant is informed by anons misogyny
‘Harry Potter is antisemitic’
Jk Rowling doesn't have the benefit of the doubt for that to work. Her works are dripping with status quo reinforcing shit and neither herself nor her characters are capable of growing past what they were born as.
Just to clear it up for people who apparently don't realize it: I wasn't actually discussing Rowling with the above comment.
It's not bigoted to recognize the type of language and stereotypes that are used against marginalized people. If you're a woman, you've almost certainly been called "too emotional" or "on her period" before as a means to dismiss you by people like this who think that emotions and rationality are incompatible with each other.
"Intelligence" isn't about knowing a lot of stuff or even having experience. It's about being able to use your knowledge and experience to solve problems. So, by that logic, emotional intelligence means a skill of solving problems pertaining to emotions.
I'd say emotional intelligence is understanding why you feel a certain way and not allowing the automatic reaction to those feelings to be the default reaction.
Like if something makes you angry, instead of going crazy, you take a deep breath and address it calmly. It's primarily emotional regulation.
I've also heard the term applied to understanding why other people feel a certain way and taking steps to mitigate negative emotional feedback. It's not just being able to control your own emotions.
I mean you're both saying the same thing lol
Smart emotions if you'd like.
Demonstrates their point by raging-out unintelligibly. Never mentions gender. Commenters say its about hating women. Sure.
Emotional Intelligence at a singular level amounts to taking the appropriate time to compose oneself, but at the same time, just because one shows emotion doesn't mean they don't have a point.
I agree OP was likely rejected by someone, but I've seen gay men and lesbians use these phrases to try to manipulate their SO or counteract their SO's bullshit, more often the "calm" one overtly attempting manipulation and gaslighting. People have this delusion/conceit, that so long as they haven't been forced to say what they really think or feel, they are in-control, when in reality they are no more in-control of themselves than anyone-else.
Bringing gender or "misogyny" into it is laughably besides-the-point to me. I saw a meme page try to say the 90%-of-prisoners-are-men statistic means its men who are overly-emotional, like the people who say women are too emotional have a point re:emotions, and only got the "women" part wrong. My fellow bitches, the "calm" ones are not on your side.
We need that chart that shows gay LTRs have the lowest divorce rate, and lesbians the highest, with heteros slightly less than lesbians.
Not here, not now. That's another thread.
Man, don't tell them about other forms of intelligence, they'd stroke out
AI = Actual Ignorance
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reflection is OFF THE FUCKING TABLE DIDN'T I SAY SO ALREADY I'M ENRAGED AT THE MERE THOUGHT OF THIS WHY WOULD ANYONE HURT THEMSELVES LIKE THIS BY LOOKING INSIDE I'M ANGRY HELP NO DON'T HELP AAAH. /s
Looks like anon only has the emotional part
Fake: OP
Gay: Everyone in this thread taking this shit so seriously and getting mad about it.
Take a deep breath and touch grass.
This community is for jokes and laughs, stop taking it so seriously. Mayhap you should consume more fiber and less Takis so you may dislodge whatever is damming up your large colon and let the poo flow.
Ahahaha what makes you think that I'm taking you or anything seriously here? Is it because I said touch grass? Do you know what trolling is?
You need to relax and remove that buttplug. It seems it's cutting blood flow to your brain.
The only ones getting mad are emotionally intelligent lmao
Anon is an emotional moron.
Looks like anon ist emotionally intelligent.
-30C° EQ
There's actually a good point in there
Nope
Yeah, the point is get off 4chan and get an education so you stop having apoplectic seizures every time someone mentions emotions or other "woke lib shit".
you know it´s fake, right?
When it's 4chan we're talking about, Poe's Law applies.
Jupp, I stopped using 4chan when I learned a sizable amount of the people using it actually believed what was in what I perceived as the shitposts. Prior to that it was for me an outlet for the dumbest ideas I could think of
I mean it does seem maybe too pointedly ironic to not be satire