A relationship is not a job or product, you don't get them, you HAVE them WITH other people. People don't have other people, although it is common to say so in colloquial language.
This is important and not petty, because language is like a sign post of beliefs and it is important for starting respectful relationships to believe that everyone involved is a person.
Now, with that knowledge, lemmy can help you, but it can also hurt or not help you.
Being bad at dancing could be an advantage you use their laughter and sympathy to break the ice. Anyway scout the local area and sign up for some silly stuff and see where that takes you.
Issue is, I live in a mostly died out community, and the only social hobby accessible to me is social alcoholism. Hungarian suburbs in areas with very high unemployment rival the American ones in badness, and we don't even have awful zoning laws.
Deserving love is different from deserving a girlfriend.
Love is something you can spread around to multiple people. It can be anything from fraternal love for a co-worker you've gone through some rough experiences with, to romantic love that bonds you to one specific person.
Everyone deserves love by default, although some people hurt other people and stop deserving love. But, deserving love and deserving the 1:1 commitment of a girlfriend are very different things.
If you're a kind-hearted, hard-working, trustworthy person who was raised with some fucked up beliefs, I'd say you deserve to be loved. Hopefully one of the people who loves you can take you aside and explain to you why your fucked up beliefs mean you can't get a girlfriend. Hopefully that loved one can help you change so that a girl might want to make a commitment to you. But, nobody really "deserves" a girlfriend. They aren't awards that can be handed out once someone completes the required steps.
Brick of text alert! But don't sweat it since I more want to throw it out there and your comment got me thinking.
I'd say it's a wholesome sounding, easy way out, same way we tell people to "just be yourself!" for dating. Probably we can shelve that alongside the tooth fairy, etc.
"Just be yourself!" is easy, makes sense, is watered down for kid's consumption and also does have some good in that we don't want kids trying to change themselves to fit others like I once did but the problem with that snippet is that it isn't really actionable and leaves out the important part of being "the best you!" (even then that's vague)
I was "being myself" many moons ago and it didn't work in dating so I sunk into incel-land where it made sense to blame things I couldn't change like race, area demographics, people who weren't myself, etc. What I didn't realize was that the "myself" that I was just plain sucked. While I was "nice", I was an immature, anxious, awkward, very skinny, emotional wreck who had no idea who I really was. Metrics like height, penis length flaccid/erect, total max squat/bench/deadlift etc. were so much easier to quantify as something to "min/max" rather than "can I have a mature conversation about my feelings with someone?"
A long, rough, self-help-book-fueled journey ensued. Had to learn to love myself enough to not only accept myself but also try to become the "best myself" - and even then that was long road after the self-help books ended.
It looks like someone else took the original person's post and added that after. So the author isn't the one who actually said that.... At least that's how I interpret the green text.
Ok. I'll be the first to admit that I'm really aware of 4chan's message style. Why is there a green quote looking section (with ">") and a red text section (without the ">")?
He doesn't just watch anime though, he watches objectively good anime, because he has a good taste in anime, something your average normie viewer just doesn't have.
Did I mention that he has good taste yet? Because he definitely has good taste.
Eh, there's lots of women who like anime and games who would like partners with similar interests. Just usually not a high enough priority over other faults, and it's not like finding decent people who are fine with games anime instead of obsessed is hard.
These posts are such schadenfreude to me as a shorter guy ("manlet") who has never had any problems dating or getting women. The kind of people who make these posts and think courtship is some max/min game don't realize that people can smell this shit on them. Their insecurity, misogyny, entitlement and racism just ooze out of them. It colors everything they do.
Its easier for people to have a tailor tape for measuring rather that a caliper, so I think 13 might be the girth.
13÷π = ~4.13cm diameter (excluding major irregularities)
From what I’ve read in the Incel communities, mostly r/incelswithouthate, before the admins started wiping them out was that they were posting statistics and such about how white men are more generally favored by women than any other race.
these kinds of people are lacking in the personality department
General fatherless behavior. If you don't have a positive male role model in a happy relationship to learn from, you're pretty much never going to be a good partner as a man.
There is so much bad and toxic relationship advice out there, good luck changing.
Hello argument, I am counterpoint. I did not have a positive male role model and it may have set me back a bit but I still found my way to a happy marriage and positive parenthood.
Not even someone from outside your immediate family?
My dad was alright, but traveled a ton. Some of my friends fathers were also positive role models who showed how it could work when they were home all the time.
I think you can give some people great parents and you just might be unlucky enough that they don't turn out to be nice people. It's probably worse now than ever in history because people can have one bad day and then they can follow it up with permanently radicalizing themselves on the Internet.
> The kind of person who posts on 4chan and thinks he deserves a gf
> Wonders why women don't like him
Where do I post to improve my chances with women?
Does Lemmy and/or kbin improve my chances of getting a girlfriend?
A relationship is not a job or product, you don't get them, you HAVE them WITH other people. People don't have other people, although it is common to say so in colloquial language.
This is important and not petty, because language is like a sign post of beliefs and it is important for starting respectful relationships to believe that everyone involved is a person.
Now, with that knowledge, lemmy can help you, but it can also hurt or not help you.
It significantly at least improves your chances of being a girlfriend. At least going by user statistics
Frick he’s right
So there are girls here. Good to know.
get a hobby. take a shower. go to the gym
I have multiple hobbies (programming, art, etc.), have regular showers, and I don't have any gyms in my area. What now?
For instance they could learn macramé or some crafting ting, go to yoga classes or dancing lessons, or what about baking or cooking lessons.
I can cook, and I'm so bad at dance I just make everyone else cringe at me.
Being bad at dancing could be an advantage you use their laughter and sympathy to break the ice. Anyway scout the local area and sign up for some silly stuff and see where that takes you.
Issue is, I live in a mostly died out community, and the only social hobby accessible to me is social alcoholism. Hungarian suburbs in areas with very high unemployment rival the American ones in badness, and we don't even have awful zoning laws.
EDIT: Can I use the Fediverse for dating?
I don’t know but you can try becoming an Incel like me and become radicalized by a fringe group on the internet.
I'm already radicalized into leftism, so I'll create the leftcel community. You got nothing to lose, but your virginity.
The self proclaimed leftistcel
Meets the self proclaimed neoliberalcel
You know, I heard being a server gets you with constant interaction with your fellow female coworkers, plenty of relationship opportunity.
Rule of thumb: Anyone who says "I deserve a girlfriend" doesn't.
I agree 100%
But I do think it's weird how as kids we're all generally told that "everybody deserves love" then you grow up and realize that's just not true.
Why do we lie to children so much?
Deserving love is different from deserving a girlfriend.
Love is something you can spread around to multiple people. It can be anything from fraternal love for a co-worker you've gone through some rough experiences with, to romantic love that bonds you to one specific person.
Everyone deserves love by default, although some people hurt other people and stop deserving love. But, deserving love and deserving the 1:1 commitment of a girlfriend are very different things.
If you're a kind-hearted, hard-working, trustworthy person who was raised with some fucked up beliefs, I'd say you deserve to be loved. Hopefully one of the people who loves you can take you aside and explain to you why your fucked up beliefs mean you can't get a girlfriend. Hopefully that loved one can help you change so that a girl might want to make a commitment to you. But, nobody really "deserves" a girlfriend. They aren't awards that can be handed out once someone completes the required steps.
That's extremely well put and I appreciate and applaud your ability to explain it concisely.
Thanks.
Brick of text alert! But don't sweat it since I more want to throw it out there and your comment got me thinking.
I'd say it's a wholesome sounding, easy way out, same way we tell people to "just be yourself!" for dating. Probably we can shelve that alongside the tooth fairy, etc.
"Just be yourself!" is easy, makes sense, is watered down for kid's consumption and also does have some good in that we don't want kids trying to change themselves to fit others like I once did but the problem with that snippet is that it isn't really actionable and leaves out the important part of being "the best you!" (even then that's vague)
I was "being myself" many moons ago and it didn't work in dating so I sunk into incel-land where it made sense to blame things I couldn't change like race, area demographics, people who weren't myself, etc. What I didn't realize was that the "myself" that I was just plain sucked. While I was "nice", I was an immature, anxious, awkward, very skinny, emotional wreck who had no idea who I really was. Metrics like height, penis length flaccid/erect, total max squat/bench/deadlift etc. were so much easier to quantify as something to "min/max" rather than "can I have a mature conversation about my feelings with someone?"
A long, rough, self-help-book-fueled journey ensued. Had to learn to love myself enough to not only accept myself but also try to become the "best myself" - and even then that was long road after the self-help books ended.
Generalized: "I deserve ________". Nope. Probably not.
I deserve the same basic human rights as anyone on the planet
Some people will unironically disagree with you, for better or for worse.
It looks like someone else took the original person's post and added that after. So the author isn't the one who actually said that.... At least that's how I interpret the green text.
That's not how green texts tend to work.
Ok. I'll be the first to admit that I'm really aware of 4chan's message style. Why is there a green quote looking section (with ">") and a red text section (without the ">")?
https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/greentext-stories
Posts on 4chan
Thinks watching anime is a good quality in a mate
He doesn't just watch anime though, he watches objectively good anime, because he has a good taste in anime, something your average normie viewer just doesn't have.
Did I mention that he has good taste yet? Because he definitely has good taste.
Eh, there's lots of women who like anime and games who would like partners with similar interests. Just usually not a high enough priority over other faults, and it's not like finding decent people who are fine with games anime instead of obsessed is hard.
That’s what I mean. It’s not the selling point he thinks it is
If you use the term "manlet" you're pretty much unfuckable, that could be part of it.
These posts are such schadenfreude to me as a shorter guy ("manlet") who has never had any problems dating or getting women. The kind of people who make these posts and think courtship is some max/min game don't realize that people can smell this shit on them. Their insecurity, misogyny, entitlement and racism just ooze out of them. It colors everything they do.
Still a significant chance he can't get a girlfriend, though
A 13cm diameter peepee is quite... dangerous.
I can only go as far as 6-7cm anally.
Not with that attitude
Is that why this is called Lemmy?
Its easier for people to have a tailor tape for measuring rather that a caliper, so I think 13 might be the girth.
13÷π = ~4.13cm diameter (excluding major irregularities)
Also the calipers were cold and caused unfavourable shrinkage.
It's probably meant to be circumference which would be about 4.1 cm in diameter, which is above average but not humongous.
Nice of him to include unit conversions. Would want any of your international homies to be confused about how much of an alpha you are
I read "I deserve a gif" multiple times and I was so confused.
Weight suspiciously missing.. wonder why
Job suspiciously missing.. wonder why
Weight ? 200kg
Assuming the greentext is telling the truth this guy would be so muscular...
ok
Also lists being white as a positive...
Yeah that is a yikes
holy shit I missed that, yeah, the real question is finding a woman wretched enough to deserve to be saddled with this loser
I'm positive I'm white.
...wait, is that not what you meant?
He should be more concerned about protecting his offspring from liberals
Wtf is a 7x5 peepee?
A soup can.
How tf you measuring the radius of your penis?
You know what, never mind.
math?
But then you measure something else, like the circumference or diameter. Just seems like a weird measurement to reference for a penis.
I was going to say a drawing compass to give you a terrible image, but then it occurred to me that makes no sense.
Put one end of those mini keychain measuring tapes down you peehole and pull it to the end to where the end of your penis is.
I regret asking.
Probably length x girth, but that manchild is also probably lying because it's 4chins
It’s 7 5inch peepees
Divide the circumference by π, it's a bit over an inch in diameter. Somewhere between 3 to 4cm.
Having an ISO B6 paper size of dick sounds like it's more trouble than it's worth.
It doesn't count when it was said by your grandmother and you were six at the time.
Wtf does having a strong sense of honor have to do with anything? Sounds kinda like you're insecure.
It influences the good taste in anime. It also ensures he only uses his massive schlong when it's truly called for, and never for evil purposes.
The wife comment is about a theoretical wife, they could protect them, if anyone would marry anon.
Why would some points be written here. This looks like a wannabe-knight
Not to mention "I'm white" as the first point of "positives"
This already implies problems with his personality that he views himself as superior for that.
PROBABLY part of why he repells women.
Yeah this post smells "my flaws are not real, i don't have any"
Yeah I’ve got a lot of great qualities, but if I listed my lack of melanin among them that’d be a negative that overshadows each and every one of them
From what I’ve read in the Incel communities, mostly r/incelswithouthate, before the admins started wiping them out was that they were posting statistics and such about how white men are more generally favored by women than any other race.
Under 6'1"? Fucking manlet
Only 7"? Is he even a man?
Yeah I'm a woman and I'm bigger than him lmao.
It is the last one that ruins it.
Peepee
Poopoo
haha doodoo fard
Calling a penis a "pee-pee" is just a quirk of how they talk there. It's pretty harmless compared to most of the defining points of 4chan culture.
Half of that is true at best.
Wow he's just like me fr fr
He's literally me that's why I posted. Commenters won't get it
Source of anime pic?
Movie adaptation of a manga called Koe no Katachi/A Silent Voice. Looks like a tear-jerker
It is. I don't remember that anime girl though.
According to google lens the character is called Naoka Ueno
“I’m white”
Shit like this is why you can’t get a girlfriend dude.
I believe you deserve a gf.
Keep up your standards!
these kinds of people are lacking in the personality department
General fatherless behavior. If you don't have a positive male role model in a happy relationship to learn from, you're pretty much never going to be a good partner as a man.
There is so much bad and toxic relationship advice out there, good luck changing.
Hello argument, I am counterpoint. I did not have a positive male role model and it may have set me back a bit but I still found my way to a happy marriage and positive parenthood.
Did you learn from other positive male role models who weren't in your life?
what like dwayne the rock johnson or some shit?
No, like Saddam Hussein.
No. I had a positive female role model.
Not even someone from outside your immediate family?
My dad was alright, but traveled a ton. Some of my friends fathers were also positive role models who showed how it could work when they were home all the time.
I think you can give some people great parents and you just might be unlucky enough that they don't turn out to be nice people. It's probably worse now than ever in history because people can have one bad day and then they can follow it up with permanently radicalizing themselves on the Internet.