I realized how many extra steps I was going through to mask, and that the end product, behavior, was made off wildly wrong assumptions about what people or situations expected of me. And when I realized that, I wanted that fucking time and energy back. I found my own language to describe my own thoughts and feelings and just put that out there. It's weird and vulnerable at first but my doctor seemed to understand. Meds made space in my brain to learn and unlearn different things. Stimulants helped get through the turmoil of chores. Anti-anxiety made the urge to please quieter. It's my life, I want to feel good in it, as authentic as possible, as comfortable and natural. I didn't know the color of my hair, had been dying it for 30 years, that was a nice surprise. Like they said, make the best of this, you should feel good. If something is hard, figure it out so it's easier from here on forever, think if how good it will feel when the hard thing today is easy. Reduce sugar
Adderall, weed, music, a whole lot of time outside, and giving as few fucks as possible.
Medication eases/fixes most of the function-impeding symptoms, which in turn helps with imposter syndrome, etc. The rest is really just self-care.
As another user pointed out, though, I also stopped trying to "mask" at all.
Realize that nobody is "normal" and most people are a lot more fucked up than you realize. Almost every single person you interact with on a daily basis has some kind of bullshit going on that makes their life difficult. Depression, anxiety, addiction, financial problems, relationship problems, health issues, you name it. For the most part, people are far too focused on their own shit to care about anyone else's.
At night when everyone else goes to sleep; fighting sleep because it's the only time to relax, but knowing you'll have a horrible day again tomorrow because you won't get enough sleep but also be awake for 2 hours after finally laying down in bed trying to not fuck it up again tomorrow?
Dude just accept it, accept it that it's ruining your life, accept that you have ADHD, stop fighting it. Started doing that a few years ago and shit still sucks, but at least I'm not stressed about trying to fix it. Because it's so fucking tiresome trying to adapt to other people's expectations, you always crash.
It's me and my who a I am, embrace the positives with that it gives you, stop trying to compete with people that don't have it, you fit into a different mold. I would never have the work I have if I didn't have ADHD, it's a fucking super power you bafoon
I have come to realise the world is a stage and you decide what role to play. Its all a big improv play. So just go with the flow and dont think too much. Its working quite well
I'm not sure I do cope! What I do know is I don't think I've come across a single ADHD meme that I haven't seen myself in, but I've never been diagnosed lol
That feeling that you are a liar who is always lying to yourself and you are both untrustworthy for lying to yourself and gullible for believing yourself. And little things like failing to get the ten competing but complementary and codependent thoughts out of your head in a way that others understand further reinforces the feeling that you are being deceptive even though you are trying really hard to be as complete and thorough and accurate as possible.
Stimulants and a reliable support network do help.
yeah i try to approach life that way but sometimes RSD is too fast for me to react. before i'm capable of logicking my way out of rejection - it hits, and the spiral begins, and that feeling of sinking in my chest is a point of no return. the only way to stop it is to go sleep for 8h to "reset".
even if i know that what i'm feeling is fully irrational, the spiral seems to be inescapable
Postponing could be tackled with sleep deprivation until the body is so stressed that you can focus on the task. But like a joker it works only once and your body feels like shit for half a week.
Ah yes, my old frenemy: procrastinate until the anxiety mounts to near-panic, then ride the adrenaline through the hyperfocus tunnel all the way to "job's done just before it's too late" Town.
I don't feel imposter syndrome as much. If anything has come out of this regime, if the most incompetent people you can think of gets to such positions of power and fuck up so horribly, you're fine in troubleshooting a printer.
Absurd levels of snacking/grazing throughout the day, copius stimulants and writing/journaling seem to help, although some of those coping mechanisms are self destructive in a way. I need to replace snacking with some gym/martial arts or something so I can feel physically good as well as mentally and I'll probably be good.
Crying in bed for hours then by the time I make it to my therapist forgetting to ask for help with coping skills because I am too focused on making it to therapy on time
I don't cope until my brain decides that it's time for a change of topics and then I do cope. So it just only lasts a little while even though nothing is resolved and I'll come back to it later.
Long at pictures of Anna Kendrik helps.
Itβs absurd how attractive she is.
Even more so when she speaks.
eh, kind of horse face
She is beautiful; horses are beautiful
She is one of my favorite icons of dangerously sexy. Like, mantid tier, easily. πΆ
I realized how many extra steps I was going through to mask, and that the end product, behavior, was made off wildly wrong assumptions about what people or situations expected of me. And when I realized that, I wanted that fucking time and energy back. I found my own language to describe my own thoughts and feelings and just put that out there. It's weird and vulnerable at first but my doctor seemed to understand. Meds made space in my brain to learn and unlearn different things. Stimulants helped get through the turmoil of chores. Anti-anxiety made the urge to please quieter. It's my life, I want to feel good in it, as authentic as possible, as comfortable and natural. I didn't know the color of my hair, had been dying it for 30 years, that was a nice surprise. Like they said, make the best of this, you should feel good. If something is hard, figure it out so it's easier from here on forever, think if how good it will feel when the hard thing today is easy. Reduce sugar
That liberating feeling of finally inhabiting your own skin. Very well put.
Adderall, weed, music, a whole lot of time outside, and giving as few fucks as possible.
Medication eases/fixes most of the function-impeding symptoms, which in turn helps with imposter syndrome, etc. The rest is really just self-care.
As another user pointed out, though, I also stopped trying to "mask" at all.
Realize that nobody is "normal" and most people are a lot more fucked up than you realize. Almost every single person you interact with on a daily basis has some kind of bullshit going on that makes their life difficult. Depression, anxiety, addiction, financial problems, relationship problems, health issues, you name it. For the most part, people are far too focused on their own shit to care about anyone else's.
Oh it's simple, you keep going because you know you'll be unable to get back up for months if you stop.
Me when my wife asks if I ate anything today.
You guys are coping?
I deal with them at home, in private, instead of sleeping.
At night when everyone else goes to sleep; fighting sleep because it's the only time to relax, but knowing you'll have a horrible day again tomorrow because you won't get enough sleep but also be awake for 2 hours after finally laying down in bed trying to not fuck it up again tomorrow?
It's more like:
sleep when exhaustion overcomes anxiety
wake when anxiety overcomes exhaustion
Well...this "neat part" is really ruining my life.
Dude just accept it, accept it that it's ruining your life, accept that you have ADHD, stop fighting it. Started doing that a few years ago and shit still sucks, but at least I'm not stressed about trying to fix it. Because it's so fucking tiresome trying to adapt to other people's expectations, you always crash.
It's me and my who a I am, embrace the positives with that it gives you, stop trying to compete with people that don't have it, you fit into a different mold. I would never have the work I have if I didn't have ADHD, it's a fucking super power you bafoon
I have come to realise the world is a stage and you decide what role to play. Its all a big improv play. So just go with the flow and dont think too much. Its working quite well
I realised that I'm reading this post when I'm supposed to be in a meeting.
I'm not sure I do cope! What I do know is I don't think I've come across a single ADHD meme that I haven't seen myself in, but I've never been diagnosed lol
The usual, weed, caffeine, nicotine and alcohol.
That feeling that you are a liar who is always lying to yourself and you are both untrustworthy for lying to yourself and gullible for believing yourself. And little things like failing to get the ten competing but complementary and codependent thoughts out of your head in a way that others understand further reinforces the feeling that you are being deceptive even though you are trying really hard to be as complete and thorough and accurate as possible.
Stimulants and a reliable support network do help.
To have imposter syndrome gets harder ;.;
With all the incompetence like AI reliance
It really is challenging, but hang in there!
You're not a fake imposter, are you?
I can a bit of programming
I thought at least the imposter syndrome was neccesary when writing code (especcially without help from al)
Drinking and smoking
Weed, gym, journal
hi there, RSD (and anxiety because of it) haver here
how do i not care
Step 1: smoke lots of weed
doesn't work :( i care about people even more then, and my sensitivity gets more sensitive
yeah i try to approach life that way but sometimes RSD is too fast for me to react. before i'm capable of logicking my way out of rejection - it hits, and the spiral begins, and that feeling of sinking in my chest is a point of no return. the only way to stop it is to go sleep for 8h to "reset".
even if i know that what i'm feeling is fully irrational, the spiral seems to be inescapable
thanks! i'm 25 so i have a life of figuring stuff out ahead of me lol
glad you've found some stability in your life, likewise wishing you well!
This is huge
Postponing could be tackled with sleep deprivation until the body is so stressed that you can focus on the task. But like a joker it works only once and your body feels like shit for half a week.
Ah yes, my old frenemy: procrastinate until the anxiety mounts to near-panic, then ride the adrenaline through the hyperfocus tunnel all the way to "job's done just before it's too late" Town.
You forgot at least one addiction
one? you got to pump those numbers up
Well Iβm working on it. Iβm trying to get rid of energy drinks atm, but we good. got nicotine and weed left
Bro are you me?
I donβt know why I started the fucking energy drinks in the first place tbh. Gotta get that dopamine
For real. I've halfway managed to displaced it with coffee but god damn red bull is go good
I don't, I just drown them with stimulation and then implode when I have to fall asleep
I don't feel imposter syndrome as much. If anything has come out of this regime, if the most incompetent people you can think of gets to such positions of power and fuck up so horribly, you're fine in troubleshooting a printer.
Iβm just glad I sleep really well for a few hours if I stay up all night
Absurd levels of snacking/grazing throughout the day, copius stimulants and writing/journaling seem to help, although some of those coping mechanisms are self destructive in a way. I need to replace snacking with some gym/martial arts or something so I can feel physically good as well as mentally and I'll probably be good.
High-masking ADHD people, please forward me your skin care routine.
Aveeno body wash in the sink unless I'm so itchy that a shower is no longer able to be put off
Terribly, mostly.
Crying in bed for hours then by the time I make it to my therapist forgetting to ask for help with coping skills because I am too focused on making it to therapy on time
I forget
I don't cope until my brain decides that it's time for a change of topics and then I do cope. So it just only lasts a little while even though nothing is resolved and I'll come back to it later.
Clonidine
I "cope" with these things, largely by
Adderall and Zoloft for me.
Back when I did: hate, and glory in their disdain/loathing.