How can you convince anyone to get off these ? Everyone I've showed lemmy to is terrified it's a virus, and what chat platforms are there besides messenger that we can convince anyone to go to? Maybe I need smarter friends, lol.
What you’re describing is intentional. Keeping people dumb about the tech they’re using while maintaining messaging like “Facebook works day and night to keep you safe” was the point all along so that people don’t understand what they’re doing. Granted that extends far beyond social media, but still
It is a very big ask... For chat i moved to Signal and convinced my closest relatives and friends to humor me and get the app, but they didn't let go of Whatsapp. It's lonely but i enjoy the quietness, and do not miss the endless groups!
That was the goal of big corporations and more simplification over time and less customization, went from webdev not seeming viable since every mf could make their own website and would to everyone being incompetent to the point they cant use websites and can only use the few popular apps.
EDIT: I should specify I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to boycott where you can, just that sometimes doing business with these evil corporations is unavoidable unless you want to live off the grid.
I'd argue "under unregulated capitalism" and would love to hear how Im wrong here:
When you buy an apple from a farmer in EU thats local to your small town, I'd say thats pretty ethical? Isnt it??!
Your example is fine. It's not an option for most people to be able to source everything they need where the supply chain doesn't rely on exploitation of labor and resource extraction somewhere along the process. Whether it's in the materials used by the producer, the logistics in goods transport(oil & gas, shipping, warehousing, etc), or manufacturing of goods (labor, production house, etc...), the chain relies on exploitation somewhere along the way.
Buying the apple from your local farmer still relies on the oil industry to run farm equipment or transit of the product. By and large this is minimize when buying local from independent producers. Those, however, are often more expensive.
The consumer is the last step of exploitation. Where the profit stems from. Again, your local farmer probably isn't extorting you, but your local grocery store probably is.
Sure regulate it then, effectively, and cut out any international trade which allows for the procurement of goods through a non-regulated system. Find a common agreement of what regulation is and find a way to ensure no one has an incentive to break that regulation. Find a way to ensure that a capitalist cannot accrue such wealth as to influence politics (or skirt whatever law you want against it).
The only people I've heard who want NO regulation are AnCaps and yeah lol no - (and also they still want property rights ig).
People just want a better system than what we have now. Which is laissez-faire capitalism. Beyond that there's the political philosophical aspect that "capitalism" can and does effectively mean rule by the wealthiest.
Lot's of people would be happy with a market system in a socialist society. Lots of people want Anarchism. Lots of people want Communism(the good or bad kind depending on who you ask).
Id just love to see more corporations being like Mondragon(spanish) in the top ranks (i.e. stock corpos) but I would not want governments specifically to gain ownership forcefully.
So I'd call it regulated capitalism - as you said, just not paleo libertarian laissez-faire as we clearly see how that doesnt work once all markets are established (and even the competition phase was, as we all should know, pretty questionable historically cough imperialism cough)
I buy bread from the local baker who is known as the German baker because they make kickass brotchen and these fantastic sesame and marzipan (my autocorrect said marsupial and while I do not doubt their skill I doubt their gluten) twists. They were across the parking lot from my first job and I did not know it but they had also just opened that year.
Could always pick up piracy. Hard to beat a 100% off coupon.
Simply pick up uBlock Origin and browse some community-vetted streaming sites on FMHY. (Short for Free Media Heck Yeah, a site that showcases community-vetted sites.)
That’s just streaming, no downloading. Simply find streams of whatever shows you’re invested in and binge as usual!
I’ve even gone as far as taking old laptops of mine and having them full screen these sites on startup. Then, I simply hook the laptop up to my TV via HDMI, plug in a Bluetooth keyboard, and binge away!
That is the one that's killing me too. I just received an email that my subscription date is coming up. I want to cancel, at least my soul really wants me to cancel. But my broken body, limited $$, and limited mobility makes me feel like it would be cutting of my nose. It is really difficult to get to, never mind around, local stores.
If it helps, one of main arguments of the antitrust lawsuit against Amazon that the Biden administration opened was that Amazon routinely, actually, costs you money because they use their platform to offer more expensive options in your searches first and other means: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/news/press-releases/2023/09/ftc-sues-amazon-illegally-maintaining-monopoly-power (I'm not sure if that link with detail or with a much clarity as wherever I first read it but I can't recall where I originally read it 3 or so months ago, I'm afraid).
The only major advantage that I'll fully admit Prime has is speed of delivery; I admit I do use it when our cats run out of food and I dropped the ball on making sure we had more or I need filters for our air purifiers that just noted they need new ones.
But, even if you can find cheaper versions on Amazon, it can become easy to fall for the setup of their site if you use it by default all the time.
What’s annoying is how stubborn they are about moving over to Lemmy. I know it’s not super straightforward, but it’s also not nearly as complicated as they make it sound.
people don’t realize (and don’t care) there’s an alternative. The point of the reddit app is to make it as easy as possible for someone to access and consume content. I realize it takes literally seconds to set up a lemmy account but it requires way more thinking to interact with this platform than being spoon fed from an algorithm
Tildes was good at first but anyone who disagrees on that platform gets banned. I had enjoyed it until I was banned for disagreeing with people on their healthy at any size bullshit.
The lemmy community is a very specific subset of reddit’s. Reddit has a somewhat more diverse set of opinions and interests. Despite lemmy not having a specific algorithm, it ends up being an echo chamber nonetheless, a bit more than reddit imo.
That and of course the fact that if you remove political content and tech/linux, there is hardly anything left.
Relating to this trying to convince any of my friends to try a new platform or program lol. Yeah, using Voyager on my iPhone and it’s pretty straightforward
Lemmy has 50,000 active users. Reddit has 50 million. We have a long way to go before there are enough people on here for niche communities to become a thing.
I use Twitter and reddit for porn, nothing else anymore. People/communities I follow are ghost towns elsewhere. Everytime I point this out, people get butthurt, yet none of them link to their porn profile.
Post the (adorable, lanky, femboy, who has glasses and a thick uncut cock) porn, and as the saying goes, 'they will cum'.
It's hard to find places dedicated to foreskin (the /c is just crickets), cbt, estim... tons more. Even harder to find ones that aren't just shells for their onlyfans. I've been checking every few months for the 🐦 I follow to hop to bluesky or mastodon, and only around a quarter have done so thus far. For reddit, where else can I find a vast array of kink content that is getting fresh stuff daily? Like actually, where? I've been searching the internet for a long time, and besides FurAffinity, e621, reddit and occasionally twitter, it's table scraps for any sort of quality kink content.
E: I should also point out that I'm gay, a bit of interest in androgynous individuals, so most places don't float my boat
Or use Amazon (I'm guilty), or shop at Walmart (sometimes guilty, but not often), or shop at Target, use Tiktok, use Facebook (reunion coordination only - but still guilty, I guess), use PayPal (very guilty), use LinkdIn, use Google (guilty).
It's really difficult to live a modern life, without being guilty of using anything exploitative of something. Of course, all the things (and many more) mentioned above are made to make people reliant on them by design.
Amazon operated in the red for over 7 years, before turning any profit, often selling and shipping items for a lower cost than they purchased the items for. But after that 7 years, they'd driven much of their competition out of business. Now there are fewer choices with regard to finding some items, because Amazon drove everyone out of business. The cheaper prices on Amazon? Nothing like what they used to be - they don't have to compete.
How many small towns have Walmart as virtually the only place to shop and/or the only employer?
It's very important in our modern, separated society, for people to return to basics....get to know your neighbors, stick together, become friends, and help one another out. Reddit used to really drive me nuts, in the work-related subreddits, where everyone used to say, "Your co-workers are not your friends." I wondered if many people ever looked past that, to ask if that's how HR wants things. How do you ever achieve solidarity in the workplace, when you walk in with that attitude? I've certainly had my share of hated co-workers, but much more often, I have been friends with many of them. Co-workers are a great resource to vent, problem solve, find out what's going on behind the scenes, and if there are problems - a great co-worker can be honest and let me know if I might be the problem, or not.
But, separated and isolated within our own little tribes/families, too busy working too many hours, for too little money, trying to keep up with too many financial obligations, is exactly how they get us exactly where they want us.
Well stated- to your first point, I'd urge folks to take small steps to start replacing those services at least partially with alternatives when they're available. For example, you may not be able to switch grocery stores entirely but many places have farmer's markets or services where you can buy from farms wholesale. No matter your food situation, most people can manage to switch operating systems or search engines. Most of us can stand to reduce social media time. Like in your Amazon example, there's value in aiming to change habits slowly over time instead of all at once.
Reddit used to really drive me nuts, in the work-related subreddits, where everyone used to say, "Your co-workers are not your friends."
Reddit is full of the asocial "leave me alone" types (or at least used to be) that make every excuse to not to socialize with others. Taking their advice to heart is an easy way to become a miserable person. There's lots of nuance between "set up barriers in front of everyone" and "share every detail" and they seem to lack that.
Things i have stopped using- X, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, Coca Cola, Pepsi, Lays, McDonalds, Burger King, Netflix, Walmart. Things where i have minimized consumption - Amazon, Best Buy, Steam, YouTube. Things where I am tied in and can't make a difference- Android, Windows, AWS, Gmail, Intel/AMD, MS Office (official productivity tools). Actually i don't mind going minimalistic to F over US companies.
I agree with all the Linux comments but another thing you could do is use FOSS self-hostable front-ends to those proprietary services like invidious and newpipe (android) for youtube, redlib for reddit, nitter for twitter etc. You don't have to host them yourself, there's already plenty of people hosting their own instances.
Aside from removing ads which you can already do with an adblocker (which takes 1 revenue stream away from them) it lets you browse privately without any data collection which would be sold to advertisers (taking away their 2nd revenue stream) plus it frees you from the clutches of the algorithm, it helped stopping my ADHD from leaving me 2 binge yt vids for hours on end.
i use gmail but i use thunderbird to check it . working on a new address. if your using Windows consider running something like OOshutup10+ to stop M$ spying. we use LibreOffice at work except the one office lady can't use anything but excel . Linux on my home pc's , wish we could at work.. Good job on the stopping , i'm currently doing the same. F the US.
Spez is only less evil because he doesn't have enough money to be in the oligarch club. He's just one of their toadies. He'd absolutely be the same way if anyone actually gave him the power they have.
Reddit has been about soft power for a while now. Ever since they scapegoated Ellen Pao, imo. They’ve been changing things relatively slowly compared to Twitter in terms of enshitification, and being more careful about who they piss off at any given time. They’ve become more emboldened ever since they banned 3rd party apps, as now they are allowing bot farms and bad actors that commented on behalf of the admins.
Reddit could be seeing tons of users leaving the site daily, but they’re for sure replacing them with bots to paint a better picture and drive engagement. The same thing applies to Twitter as well. It’s why on BlueSky for instance, I don’t see ragebait dominating my feed due to the more robust moderation tools compared to Twitter and Reddit.
Lemmy has avoided most bots due to the manual approval processes from what I can see. I think Lemmy should strongly consider implementing BlueSky’s moderation tools though.
I got banned for being "anti-immigration" during a housing crisis in my country. Its ridiculous to pretend additional demand doesnt raise prices, its become like a 1984 Newspeak and gaslighting.
I actually said “bye Fash-licia” to Reddit last week. I thought about trying to get banned for something stupid, just for the story. But instead I just quietly deleted the account.
I had five accounts between 15-18 years old and ranging from 10k - 3M karma (I shit posted a lot).
One of my main accounts was banned from r/politics for adding "are tarred together" as a reply to "birds of a feather" during the J6 inserrection attempt. Then r/news banned it for some odd reason I don't recall.
Then I started getting random "Just to let you know your comment may violate the rules/TOS but we're gonna give you a chance to change it" messages for comments that quoted GOP members.
Then one of my last one was banned with zero warning when I said "not like he needs it" after a thread talked about how shitty Greg Abbot was being and how he'd pulled the ladder up on other people.
And then out of the blue they site banned me for 7 days due to evading a mod ban (I hadn't but I just fired up an account I hadn't used in a while but stayed away from that sub).
So I decided to delete all my accounts with the same message of "Fuck Spez. Reddit is the new Digg and Spez is the new Kevin Rose just somehow dumber".
Fuck reddit. When you have to walk on eggshells to vote or comment then you've lost the plot.
I spent about a week working a few hours a day deleting all of my posts and comments. Couldn't be bothered to spend the $20 for shreddit to do it for me so I did it myself.
THEN I deleted my account. I "deleted" my Facebook account like 8 years ago but then ended up making a "new" one last year to use the marketplace. Didn't want to use my new email address so I used my old one because I treat it like a burner email nowadays. Old email address ended up being the same one I used when I originally created my Facebook account and lo and behold Facebook never deleted anything. So I don't trust companies when they say they will delete everything.
I'm not even sure Reddit actually deleted all my posts and comments but I feel better about it.
Spez would be very disappointed to hear you say that. He would immediately shoot another DM to Elon telling him he's trying real hard to be just like him.
yup I got shadow banned from that hell hole after saying something mean about the orange in chief
it's so pathetic, it wasn't even super bad
I commented 'welcome to Trump's america' under a post about inflation skyrocketing
I was on the site for 12 years no problem
it's crazy to me I didn't know they were so beholden to the right. it used to be the fascists got mad reddit was banning them. to.be banned over simply light jokes is so dystopian
not to mention.. their ban detection system is fucking 1984 shit
After a decade there I also got permabanned. And then I got permabanned 3 more times with alt accounts for saying some pretty innocuous shit, but almost always political.
I got perma-banned for saying that the US Military won't give a shit about what is happening because they only care if it involves bombing muslims.
The "reason" they gave was that I was promoting hate-speech somehow.
The chronically online incels look for things to mass report. It's part of their ongoing campaign to shove the Overton Window far right.
Reddits content moderation are cubicle farm employees that barely look at content; nevermind actual context or intent. They're clearing tickets to make quota. Right wingers exploit this to control discourse.
You can try doing it yourself. Look for frivolous things to report as offensive. You can get quite a bit of things removed.
I did report some stuff in the past when I had an account, but usually it was either because it actually violated rules of a sub (Such as "Memes only" and someone posts a random screenshot with a rage bait title) or because it was actually straight up awful shit, I did get a few accounts banned as a result but they were posting actually vile stuff.
When Twitter-man did the salute, I deleted my old account (hadn't used it in years anyway)
When Facebook-man said "no more fact checking," I deleted my old facebook (only kept it to keep in contact with, like, 2 people)
When Tumblr-man banned the porn, I deleted my tumblr (you can guess why I had it)
When Reddit-man said he wants to paywall the biggest subs, I deleted my reddit (also got banned but I prefer to say I did it for a better reason)
I've seen news that tumblr has changed/is changing, and they're even implementing some form of activitypub (Fediverse) integration. I don't have stakes here, just curious: does that change your position any, as an ex-user now on fedi?
I doubt it, unless I find specific content that only exists on that platform if those changes do occur. I have some very specific, LEGAL, interests that are fairly niche and hard to come by, and I have little interest in social media, so I often only create accounts on something if I actively like the content, either nsfw or sfw. Here, for example, I am here for sfw content.
I only had an account explicitly to follow a small set of NSFW creators who only posted to Twitter and nowhere else, so yeah, pretty easy to let go of that.
If you still were on Reddit while people with a minimum of consciense got banned for the mildest criticism of genocide and complain since Trump you need to STFU.
LOL it's been a decade since Jessica Ashoosh.
Just bcs you're ignorant about these things and throw conspiracy accusations around doesn't mean it's not reality.
Look someting up.
Well yeah. It's openly critical of the sexual function of people who have had those proceedures. The trans community as a whole are often depicted as mutilated and less functional by transphobes or people who want to devalue them as valid romantic options. Since access to those medical services are actively under fire that critique isn't value neutral and it isn't in the context of what unaltered sexual function is like for people with dysphoria whom often register a marked improvement in overall function from getting over the mental blocks.
The people I know who have had surgeries have been quite happy with the outcome. While it's true the surgery options regarding bottom surgery for trans men require one to make some decisions about what functions to focus on, framing them as ugly and "barely functional" is insulting. Think about what it would be like to hear someone else critique the choices you've made that have improved your life experiences in a way that frames you as deficient and devalued.
Edit : During this comment chain this guy has self identified as a cis man - so to summerize, this is a random guy saying a set of surgeries and care plan created to address body issues he does not experience is not something he would choose because they are subpar. Yup. Real valid opinion right there. Totally not a smokescreen for anything nasty. /s
And in your second paragraph, see how you had to add ugly to my statement to make it malicious and false, that is you projecting onto me, not me
Ah so "barely even cosmetically complete" doesn't register as you calling them aesthetically displeasing? Fuck off.
The framing as it being a personal choice not to pursue those options are the thinnest veneer of setting yourself up for this reaction to be shocked and appalled that someone would call you out. Even if you were trans yourself framing it the way you did before would register as you being an ass to other people in your community.
Ah yes, "just stating your opinions" "echo chambers" and the calls that you are being oppressed and policed, that I am both a narcissist and a weak little trans weenie who needs to shut themselves away where I can't hear your big strong ideas.
It's the full right wing bingo card. Do you lot ever get tired of clutching those pearls?
Don't answer I know you will die with those things in a death grip.
People who undergo affirmation surgery are told all those facts before hand. This person doesn't know the process.
I have a trans Best friend and asked if they just wanted to live as a gay man BECAUSE of the above facts. Thier response was " I want to live as a woman." Living a certain way is more important to some then others.
I think arguing about medical techniques is boring, so let's talk about empathy. You said you wouldn't get the surgery if you were so inclined. I don't think you've bothered to understand what being so inclined means. I don't think you've considered being so triggered by a part of your body that you'd rather die than keep it. That's what the situation is for a lot of trans people. I don't think you've thought about that. I think you've imagined transition as a nice-to-have, instead of lifesaving medical care. You should do more to understand the feelings of trans people who seek surgery.
None of your business, frankly. Those are our genitals and we're human beings not medical curiosities.
Asking us to defend publicly that our genitals are "good enough" by deep diving into the details of how a very complex and advanced surgery is done is utterly dehumanizing behavior. Anyway, I've literally never had a man say he felt there was something off with my genitalia and that's including men who I never disclosed to & later asked me about pregnancy risks (implying they still believed I was cis). So this person is utterly misinformed and frankly speaking out of his ass.
Don't ask again. Be kind and respect people's privacy when the topic is about their genitalia. Thanks.
you are not supporting it. you ARE the problem. dont blame the tech or deranged illusionists like elon. it is the people.
and while everyone is high horsing like mad at reddit/twitter etc.
you still cant speak out that google, meta, apple and microsoft are exactly the same shit.
YOU are an insult on humanity if you use those.
and everytime it takes ages for imbeciles to move. "nooo, eVeRyyBoo0dy uSes wHats App. i nEEd t0 be oN th3re."
no, you are a POS for using whatsapp, twitter, meta, reddit or an iPhone.
...and the crying starts.
The same can also be said about Fiat currency and really supporting anything centralized as we need to balance power with some decentralization to keep it in check, but so few seem to care.
X, Facebook, threads, Instagram, Whatsapp, Amazon Prime, Reddit
How can you convince anyone to get off these ? Everyone I've showed lemmy to is terrified it's a virus, and what chat platforms are there besides messenger that we can convince anyone to go to? Maybe I need smarter friends, lol.
What you’re describing is intentional. Keeping people dumb about the tech they’re using while maintaining messaging like “Facebook works day and night to keep you safe” was the point all along so that people don’t understand what they’re doing. Granted that extends far beyond social media, but still
They don't realize it's the big shiny companies that are actually scamming them and stealing their data.
It is a very big ask... For chat i moved to Signal and convinced my closest relatives and friends to humor me and get the app, but they didn't let go of Whatsapp. It's lonely but i enjoy the quietness, and do not miss the endless groups!
Maybe some government officials will keep you company by inviting you into their war-plan discussions.
One of my phone browsers has warned me that one Lemmee instance is a scam, that doesn’t help if it is happening to others.
Name and shame. Which browser and which instance?
And is it just something like an SSL error (i.e. the instance screwing up), or is it specifically some kind of anti-Lemmy disinformation?
DuckDuckGo, and .ml.
Well, keeping people out of .ml is basically public service
That was the goal of big corporations and more simplification over time and less customization, went from webdev not seeming viable since every mf could make their own website and would to everyone being incompetent to the point they cant use websites and can only use the few popular apps.
I managed to make my mum use signal, which means literally anyone can use it.
To be fair, Lemmy's UI does it no favors; I can't entirely blame your friends for thinking it looks sketch.
I was never put off by it, but I tend to like less shiny things.
Amazon Prime is the only one that's been hard for me to kick...
No ethical consumption under capitalism.
EDIT: I should specify I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to boycott where you can, just that sometimes doing business with these evil corporations is unavoidable unless you want to live off the grid.
to you, the 9 other likers and the one disliker:
I'd argue "under unregulated capitalism" and would love to hear how Im wrong here: When you buy an apple from a farmer in EU thats local to your small town, I'd say thats pretty ethical? Isnt it??!
Yeah, "capitalism" here means specifically "late-stage capitalism."
Now also actually discuss. Would love to know "how" I'm wrong
You're not, I'm agreeing with you.
Yes but no. I see the issue in terms of late stage capitalism too - but I think in a sibling comment this discussion already happened.
Your example is fine. It's not an option for most people to be able to source everything they need where the supply chain doesn't rely on exploitation of labor and resource extraction somewhere along the process. Whether it's in the materials used by the producer, the logistics in goods transport(oil & gas, shipping, warehousing, etc), or manufacturing of goods (labor, production house, etc...), the chain relies on exploitation somewhere along the way.
Buying the apple from your local farmer still relies on the oil industry to run farm equipment or transit of the product. By and large this is minimize when buying local from independent producers. Those, however, are often more expensive.
The consumer is the last step of exploitation. Where the profit stems from. Again, your local farmer probably isn't extorting you, but your local grocery store probably is.
So "how" is there no regulation solution – my initial statement in question
Sure regulate it then, effectively, and cut out any international trade which allows for the procurement of goods through a non-regulated system. Find a common agreement of what regulation is and find a way to ensure no one has an incentive to break that regulation. Find a way to ensure that a capitalist cannot accrue such wealth as to influence politics (or skirt whatever law you want against it).
The only people I've heard who want NO regulation are AnCaps and yeah lol no - (and also they still want property rights ig).
People just want a better system than what we have now. Which is laissez-faire capitalism. Beyond that there's the political philosophical aspect that "capitalism" can and does effectively mean rule by the wealthiest.
Lot's of people would be happy with a market system in a socialist society. Lots of people want Anarchism. Lots of people want Communism(the good or bad kind depending on who you ask).
Id just love to see more corporations being like Mondragon(spanish) in the top ranks (i.e. stock corpos) but I would not want governments specifically to gain ownership forcefully.
So I'd call it regulated capitalism - as you said, just not paleo libertarian laissez-faire as we clearly see how that doesnt work once all markets are established (and even the competition phase was, as we all should know, pretty questionable historically cough imperialism cough)
I buy bread from the local baker who is known as the German baker because they make kickass brotchen and these fantastic sesame and marzipan (my autocorrect said marsupial and while I do not doubt their skill I doubt their gluten) twists. They were across the parking lot from my first job and I did not know it but they had also just opened that year.
Buying an apple from a local farmer is not capitalism
Could always pick up piracy. Hard to beat a 100% off coupon.
Simply pick up uBlock Origin and browse some community-vetted streaming sites on FMHY. (Short for Free Media Heck Yeah, a site that showcases community-vetted sites.)
That’s just streaming, no downloading. Simply find streams of whatever shows you’re invested in and binge as usual!
I’ve even gone as far as taking old laptops of mine and having them full screen these sites on startup. Then, I simply hook the laptop up to my TV via HDMI, plug in a Bluetooth keyboard, and binge away!
Piracy makes it hard to buy bird seed you need delivered the next day for your birds though
Oh right, shit
I forgot that Amazon Prime was more than content streaming
Uhhhhh
Replace Amazon Prime with patience and foresight
Heck yeah brother
Really? I go out of my way to search on duckduckgo when looking for products and filtering out Amazon.
Its been easy for me. My hatred of that man makes it worth the effort.
That is the one that's killing me too. I just received an email that my subscription date is coming up. I want to cancel, at least my soul really wants me to cancel. But my broken body, limited $$, and limited mobility makes me feel like it would be cutting of my nose. It is really difficult to get to, never mind around, local stores.
If it helps, one of main arguments of the antitrust lawsuit against Amazon that the Biden administration opened was that Amazon routinely, actually, costs you money because they use their platform to offer more expensive options in your searches first and other means: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/news/press-releases/2023/09/ftc-sues-amazon-illegally-maintaining-monopoly-power (I'm not sure if that link with detail or with a much clarity as wherever I first read it but I can't recall where I originally read it 3 or so months ago, I'm afraid).
The only major advantage that I'll fully admit Prime has is speed of delivery; I admit I do use it when our cats run out of food and I dropped the ball on making sure we had more or I need filters for our air purifiers that just noted they need new ones.
But, even if you can find cheaper versions on Amazon, it can become easy to fall for the setup of their site if you use it by default all the time.
Out of those, the only one I use is Whatsapp... kinda hard to get away from it where I live, literally everyone I know in real life uses it
WhatsApp is kinda nice for international communication
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A lot of the niche content I like is still on reddit, however I like the people and experience over here on Lemmy more.
yeah, the porn creators are still mostly there
That lemmy front page thirsty af tho
That’s why I sort by hot by default lol
Exactly!
This has been my experience. I still lurk certain communities there but I simply never log in or comment.
I have to use libreddit and other front ends because they have started blocking my vpn last year.
I just logged in to check /r/audiobooks.
The sponsored thingies are intolerable. Fuck that.
Start posting your niche interest on lemmy too. Hopefully someone else will join.
Thought about it. Soon. Going to try and fetch others to help.
Reddit isn’t as bad as Twitter. Though it’s heading that way. But there is an alternative that is 90% as good.
What’s annoying is how stubborn they are about moving over to Lemmy. I know it’s not super straightforward, but it’s also not nearly as complicated as they make it sound.
I actually enjoy the smaller community here, it feels like old reddit. Like the good ole days.
Most people use reddit on mobile. All you gotta do is tell them to use on of the many apps and sign up that way. It's stupid easy to do.
Which, like, how?
The Reddit app fucking sucks and they forced all the good ones to shut down.
people don’t realize (and don’t care) there’s an alternative. The point of the reddit app is to make it as easy as possible for someone to access and consume content. I realize it takes literally seconds to set up a lemmy account but it requires way more thinking to interact with this platform than being spoon fed from an algorithm
What apps do you recommend for Android? I'm using Sync which is pretty nice, but always interested to hear other opinions
I was a RIF user, and tried all the apps. Boost is what I ended up with because you can make it pretty much look just like RIF.
Dude I was a diehard RIF user, talklittle is the GOAT. I use his app for tildes.net which is also great.
Thanks for the rec, I'll check it out
Tildes was good at first but anyone who disagrees on that platform gets banned. I had enjoyed it until I was banned for disagreeing with people on their healthy at any size bullshit.
Big fan of jerboa.
Well, aren't we all stubborn when it comes to doing new things?
My guess is that it will be younger people who will go to Lemmy (like Reddit before had been).
Whoohoo I'm young 🥳
The lemmy community is a very specific subset of reddit’s. Reddit has a somewhat more diverse set of opinions and interests. Despite lemmy not having a specific algorithm, it ends up being an echo chamber nonetheless, a bit more than reddit imo.
That and of course the fact that if you remove political content and tech/linux, there is hardly anything left.
Relating to this trying to convince any of my friends to try a new platform or program lol. Yeah, using Voyager on my iPhone and it’s pretty straightforward
What's the alternative?
Lemmy of course
Not quite there yet. Not until niche communities rise up and become commonplace.
75% then.
lol more like 0.1%
Lemmy has 50,000 active users. Reddit has 50 million. We have a long way to go before there are enough people on here for niche communities to become a thing.
If you're still on Lemmy... Welcome! The more the merrier!
I'm only on reddit to bring people here. Because we do have cookies.
How are they gonna eat them through those helmets they never take off?
Up the butt.
I use Twitter and reddit for porn, nothing else anymore. People/communities I follow are ghost towns elsewhere. Everytime I point this out, people get butthurt, yet none of them link to their porn profile.
Post the (adorable, lanky, femboy, who has glasses and a thick uncut cock) porn, and as the saying goes, 'they will cum'.
Not judging but why those over dedicated sites?
It's hard to find places dedicated to foreskin (the /c is just crickets), cbt, estim... tons more. Even harder to find ones that aren't just shells for their onlyfans. I've been checking every few months for the 🐦 I follow to hop to bluesky or mastodon, and only around a quarter have done so thus far. For reddit, where else can I find a vast array of kink content that is getting fresh stuff daily? Like actually, where? I've been searching the internet for a long time, and besides FurAffinity, e621, reddit and occasionally twitter, it's table scraps for any sort of quality kink content.
E: I should also point out that I'm gay, a bit of interest in androgynous individuals, so most places don't float my boat
Have you heard of FetLife? Sounds like it might be what you're looking for.
I actually have an account there, but haven't poked at it since I made the account. Guess it's time I had another look.
uhhh, I'm 4/5, how important is being uncut? It's not like I had much choice in the matter lol.
It's a plus, but definitely not a requirement~ 🥺
Well, I have a crippling addiction to sexy femme outfits and shoving things in my butt if you wanted to sponsor some direct content 💋
thanks. i thought i was alone in this struggle. it is also why i keep on calling it titter.
Hell, most porn boards are dead too outside of the main/most vanilla ones.
Or use Amazon (I'm guilty), or shop at Walmart (sometimes guilty, but not often), or shop at Target, use Tiktok, use Facebook (reunion coordination only - but still guilty, I guess), use PayPal (very guilty), use LinkdIn, use Google (guilty).
It's really difficult to live a modern life, without being guilty of using anything exploitative of something. Of course, all the things (and many more) mentioned above are made to make people reliant on them by design.
Amazon operated in the red for over 7 years, before turning any profit, often selling and shipping items for a lower cost than they purchased the items for. But after that 7 years, they'd driven much of their competition out of business. Now there are fewer choices with regard to finding some items, because Amazon drove everyone out of business. The cheaper prices on Amazon? Nothing like what they used to be - they don't have to compete.
How many small towns have Walmart as virtually the only place to shop and/or the only employer?
It's very important in our modern, separated society, for people to return to basics....get to know your neighbors, stick together, become friends, and help one another out. Reddit used to really drive me nuts, in the work-related subreddits, where everyone used to say, "Your co-workers are not your friends." I wondered if many people ever looked past that, to ask if that's how HR wants things. How do you ever achieve solidarity in the workplace, when you walk in with that attitude? I've certainly had my share of hated co-workers, but much more often, I have been friends with many of them. Co-workers are a great resource to vent, problem solve, find out what's going on behind the scenes, and if there are problems - a great co-worker can be honest and let me know if I might be the problem, or not.
But, separated and isolated within our own little tribes/families, too busy working too many hours, for too little money, trying to keep up with too many financial obligations, is exactly how they get us exactly where they want us.
Well stated- to your first point, I'd urge folks to take small steps to start replacing those services at least partially with alternatives when they're available. For example, you may not be able to switch grocery stores entirely but many places have farmer's markets or services where you can buy from farms wholesale. No matter your food situation, most people can manage to switch operating systems or search engines. Most of us can stand to reduce social media time. Like in your Amazon example, there's value in aiming to change habits slowly over time instead of all at once.
Reddit is full of the asocial "leave me alone" types (or at least used to be) that make every excuse to not to socialize with others. Taking their advice to heart is an easy way to become a miserable person. There's lots of nuance between "set up barriers in front of everyone" and "share every detail" and they seem to lack that.
Twitter got abandoned 1 month after the fascist bought it. Account deleted 6 months ago.
Reddit is on transition right now. I'm still checking it, but the time i spend there is much less, since i made a Lemmy account.
I just occasionally go back to shill for Lemmy. Pretty sure that hurts them more than helps. :D
Things i have stopped using- X, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, Coca Cola, Pepsi, Lays, McDonalds, Burger King, Netflix, Walmart. Things where i have minimized consumption - Amazon, Best Buy, Steam, YouTube. Things where I am tied in and can't make a difference- Android, Windows, AWS, Gmail, Intel/AMD, MS Office (official productivity tools). Actually i don't mind going minimalistic to F over US companies.
switch to linux
I agree with all the Linux comments but another thing you could do is use FOSS self-hostable front-ends to those proprietary services like invidious and newpipe (android) for youtube, redlib for reddit, nitter for twitter etc. You don't have to host them yourself, there's already plenty of people hosting their own instances.
Aside from removing ads which you can already do with an adblocker (which takes 1 revenue stream away from them) it lets you browse privately without any data collection which would be sold to advertisers (taking away their 2nd revenue stream) plus it frees you from the clutches of the algorithm, it helped stopping my ADHD from leaving me 2 binge yt vids for hours on end.
About the Android, he can replace it with GrapheneOS if he got almost any Pixel device
But then you're buying the phone from google, which is not great if you're trying to boycott google.
i use gmail but i use thunderbird to check it . working on a new address. if your using Windows consider running something like OOshutup10+ to stop M$ spying. we use LibreOffice at work except the one office lady can't use anything but excel . Linux on my home pc's , wish we could at work.. Good job on the stopping , i'm currently doing the same. F the US.
I haven't gone that far, but I refuse to use Facebook, or Amazon.
Facebook, because it's a shithole of ignorance, stupidity, and cruelty, and it brainwashes older people.
Amazon, because they hurt local Mom and Pop businesses, and I don't like the way they treat the warehouse workers.
Just build your own open source versions of all that and you'll be fine
Look...I know we all hate reddit cause they kicked like half of us for no good reason but like....spez doesnt even compare to how evil Musk is
Then again....X is arguably still a better social media platform than reddit is...
Ok nevermind
No. At this point Reddit is evil because it's censoring anti-fascist content and organizing. It's becoming a Nazi bar just like the rest of them.
You know what? You are right
Fuck Spez
Spez is only less evil because he doesn't have enough money to be in the oligarch club. He's just one of their toadies. He'd absolutely be the same way if anyone actually gave him the power they have.
Reddit has been about soft power for a while now. Ever since they scapegoated Ellen Pao, imo. They’ve been changing things relatively slowly compared to Twitter in terms of enshitification, and being more careful about who they piss off at any given time. They’ve become more emboldened ever since they banned 3rd party apps, as now they are allowing bot farms and bad actors that commented on behalf of the admins.
Reddit could be seeing tons of users leaving the site daily, but they’re for sure replacing them with bots to paint a better picture and drive engagement. The same thing applies to Twitter as well. It’s why on BlueSky for instance, I don’t see ragebait dominating my feed due to the more robust moderation tools compared to Twitter and Reddit.
Lemmy has avoided most bots due to the manual approval processes from what I can see. I think Lemmy should strongly consider implementing BlueSky’s moderation tools though.
Nah thats just wrong. Spez has been following Musks orders, so he is exactly as evil as Musk.
It's just a shitpost. It's poking fun of people being on reddit, with a screenshot from reddit. There's no deeper commentary than that.
I literally just got permabanned from Reddit after over 13 years and 200k karma! Lol
Welcome to the club. Fuck that place.
I got banned for being "anti-immigration" during a housing crisis in my country. Its ridiculous to pretend additional demand doesnt raise prices, its become like a 1984 Newspeak and gaslighting.
The PE firms buying the entire downtown are raising prices, not muh immigrants
It doesn't, and you are wrong, and if you got banned on Reddit for that, your stance is probably so atrocious I don't even want to hear it.
If you’re still online…
If you're still breathing...
I didn't even use Twitter before the nazi bought it
I posted three times in 2008. It was enough.
I'm trying OK! 😭
yeah....have you tried growing a community here? its fucking hard....
You just need a green thumb, my dude!
Although. If your thumbs are actually green, you should see a doctor
You should probably start by washing your hands though, and maybe touching less grass
It takes time, bud.
I actually said “bye Fash-licia” to Reddit last week. I thought about trying to get banned for something stupid, just for the story. But instead I just quietly deleted the account.
I had five accounts between 15-18 years old and ranging from 10k - 3M karma (I shit posted a lot).
One of my main accounts was banned from r/politics for adding "are tarred together" as a reply to "birds of a feather" during the J6 inserrection attempt. Then r/news banned it for some odd reason I don't recall.
Then I started getting random "Just to let you know your comment may violate the rules/TOS but we're gonna give you a chance to change it" messages for comments that quoted GOP members.
Then one of my last one was banned with zero warning when I said "not like he needs it" after a thread talked about how shitty Greg Abbot was being and how he'd pulled the ladder up on other people.
And then out of the blue they site banned me for 7 days due to evading a mod ban (I hadn't but I just fired up an account I hadn't used in a while but stayed away from that sub).
So I decided to delete all my accounts with the same message of "Fuck Spez. Reddit is the new Digg and Spez is the new Kevin Rose just somehow dumber".
Fuck reddit. When you have to walk on eggshells to vote or comment then you've lost the plot.
I spent about a week working a few hours a day deleting all of my posts and comments. Couldn't be bothered to spend the $20 for shreddit to do it for me so I did it myself.
THEN I deleted my account. I "deleted" my Facebook account like 8 years ago but then ended up making a "new" one last year to use the marketplace. Didn't want to use my new email address so I used my old one because I treat it like a burner email nowadays. Old email address ended up being the same one I used when I originally created my Facebook account and lo and behold Facebook never deleted anything. So I don't trust companies when they say they will delete everything.
I'm not even sure Reddit actually deleted all my posts and comments but I feel better about it.
Well, I still wouldn't consider using Reddit to be near as bad as using Shitter.
Spez would be very disappointed to hear you say that. He would immediately shoot another DM to Elon telling him he's trying real hard to be just like him.
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yup I got shadow banned from that hell hole after saying something mean about the orange in chief it's so pathetic, it wasn't even super bad I commented 'welcome to Trump's america' under a post about inflation skyrocketing I was on the site for 12 years no problem
it's crazy to me I didn't know they were so beholden to the right. it used to be the fascists got mad reddit was banning them. to.be banned over simply light jokes is so dystopian
not to mention.. their ban detection system is fucking 1984 shit
After a decade there I also got permabanned. And then I got permabanned 3 more times with alt accounts for saying some pretty innocuous shit, but almost always political.
I finally got the message. Fuck you Reddit.
I got perma-banned for saying that the US Military won't give a shit about what is happening because they only care if it involves bombing muslims. The "reason" they gave was that I was promoting hate-speech somehow.
The chronically online incels look for things to mass report. It's part of their ongoing campaign to shove the Overton Window far right.
Reddits content moderation are cubicle farm employees that barely look at content; nevermind actual context or intent. They're clearing tickets to make quota. Right wingers exploit this to control discourse.
You can try doing it yourself. Look for frivolous things to report as offensive. You can get quite a bit of things removed.
I did report some stuff in the past when I had an account, but usually it was either because it actually violated rules of a sub (Such as "Memes only" and someone posts a random screenshot with a rage bait title) or because it was actually straight up awful shit, I did get a few accounts banned as a result but they were posting actually vile stuff.
I was only on for 6 but it still sucks.
Well, a few hours ago, I got permanently banned from Reddit, again, but this time with no explanation messages, or any recourse.
I suspect it was from my contant mocking of Musk and Trump, and the GOP in general.
Fuck them.
When Twitter-man did the salute, I deleted my old account (hadn't used it in years anyway) When Facebook-man said "no more fact checking," I deleted my old facebook (only kept it to keep in contact with, like, 2 people) When Tumblr-man banned the porn, I deleted my tumblr (you can guess why I had it) When Reddit-man said he wants to paywall the biggest subs, I deleted my reddit (also got banned but I prefer to say I did it for a better reason)
I've seen news that tumblr has changed/is changing, and they're even implementing some form of activitypub (Fediverse) integration. I don't have stakes here, just curious: does that change your position any, as an ex-user now on fedi?
I doubt it, unless I find specific content that only exists on that platform if those changes do occur. I have some very specific, LEGAL, interests that are fairly niche and hard to come by, and I have little interest in social media, so I often only create accounts on something if I actively like the content, either nsfw or sfw. Here, for example, I am here for sfw content.
What would be funny if this meme came from twitter. Which was posted on Reddit.
I bow down to your intelligence.
What's Twitter?
A rich kid's personal Attention Gathering App.
Arguably there is now more censorship on Reddit than on twitter.
I can talk all I want. It's easy for me because I never had a Twitter Account.
Hope everyone who wants to leave has the strength to break the habit of using the app <3
I only had an account explicitly to follow a small set of NSFW creators who only posted to Twitter and nowhere else, so yeah, pretty easy to let go of that.
If you still were on Reddit while people with a minimum of consciense got banned for the mildest criticism of genocide and complain since Trump you need to STFU.
I tried ot login last week, was able to with the same email and password but it acted like I was a new user. So it created an entirely new account.
On a session I was still logged in I changed my email and password and I ended getting banned on that account.
Really weird and I gues it's time to delete my main Reddit account
That sounds almost conspiratorial. How many people know of Reddit, use it, then automatically follow the narrative? Like out of the total population?
Wouldn't for it to be conspiratorial mean there has to be a secret organization behind the scenes? I thought Reddit and X admit to doing this.
LOL it's been a decade since Jessica Ashoosh.
Just bcs you're ignorant about these things and throw conspiracy accusations around doesn't mean it's not reality.
Look someting up.
Something happened a decade ago to a single person. Therefore it follows it affects millions now in ways that persuade me my world view is correct.
I see.
You clearly have no idea who or what that is about, I'm going to let it rest since you look really stupid as it is.
Idk,.I'm finding it might actually be useful to spread local information if you stick to some local subreddits
Says the person on reddit
That's the dumbest thing I've heard so far to get banned for.
Well yeah. It's openly critical of the sexual function of people who have had those proceedures. The trans community as a whole are often depicted as mutilated and less functional by transphobes or people who want to devalue them as valid romantic options. Since access to those medical services are actively under fire that critique isn't value neutral and it isn't in the context of what unaltered sexual function is like for people with dysphoria whom often register a marked improvement in overall function from getting over the mental blocks.
The people I know who have had surgeries have been quite happy with the outcome. While it's true the surgery options regarding bottom surgery for trans men require one to make some decisions about what functions to focus on, framing them as ugly and "barely functional" is insulting. Think about what it would be like to hear someone else critique the choices you've made that have improved your life experiences in a way that frames you as deficient and devalued.
Edit : During this comment chain this guy has self identified as a cis man - so to summerize, this is a random guy saying a set of surgeries and care plan created to address body issues he does not experience is not something he would choose because they are subpar. Yup. Real valid opinion right there. Totally not a smokescreen for anything nasty. /s
Please don't fall for this dreck.
Ah so "barely even cosmetically complete" doesn't register as you calling them aesthetically displeasing? Fuck off.
The framing as it being a personal choice not to pursue those options are the thinnest veneer of setting yourself up for this reaction to be shocked and appalled that someone would call you out. Even if you were trans yourself framing it the way you did before would register as you being an ass to other people in your community.
Troll behavior.
Ah yes, "just stating your opinions" "echo chambers" and the calls that you are being oppressed and policed, that I am both a narcissist and a weak little trans weenie who needs to shut themselves away where I can't hear your big strong ideas.
It's the full right wing bingo card. Do you lot ever get tired of clutching those pearls?
Don't answer I know you will die with those things in a death grip.
He is a good disingenuous troll.
People who undergo affirmation surgery are told all those facts before hand. This person doesn't know the process.
I have a trans Best friend and asked if they just wanted to live as a gay man BECAUSE of the above facts. Thier response was " I want to live as a woman." Living a certain way is more important to some then others.
Well, your comment was medically inaccurate and lacking in empathy.
I think arguing about medical techniques is boring, so let's talk about empathy. You said you wouldn't get the surgery if you were so inclined. I don't think you've bothered to understand what being so inclined means. I don't think you've considered being so triggered by a part of your body that you'd rather die than keep it. That's what the situation is for a lot of trans people. I don't think you've thought about that. I think you've imagined transition as a nice-to-have, instead of lifesaving medical care. You should do more to understand the feelings of trans people who seek surgery.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8099405/
The regret rate is 1%. In the context of major surgery, that's a miracle. You don't get that for hip replacements or heart transplants.
But I wanted to talk about medical techniques... :(
None of your business, frankly. Those are our genitals and we're human beings not medical curiosities.
Asking us to defend publicly that our genitals are "good enough" by deep diving into the details of how a very complex and advanced surgery is done is utterly dehumanizing behavior. Anyway, I've literally never had a man say he felt there was something off with my genitalia and that's including men who I never disclosed to & later asked me about pregnancy risks (implying they still believed I was cis). So this person is utterly misinformed and frankly speaking out of his ass.
Don't ask again. Be kind and respect people's privacy when the topic is about their genitalia. Thanks.
Maybe if you don't want to be judged for your views on trans people's feelings, you could not tell everyone what you think trans people feel.
If I were a cis guy, I wouldn't start online arguments about how I think I'd feel if I were trans
you are not supporting it. you ARE the problem. dont blame the tech or deranged illusionists like elon. it is the people. and while everyone is high horsing like mad at reddit/twitter etc. you still cant speak out that google, meta, apple and microsoft are exactly the same shit.
YOU are an insult on humanity if you use those. and everytime it takes ages for imbeciles to move. "nooo, eVeRyyBoo0dy uSes wHats App. i nEEd t0 be oN th3re." no, you are a POS for using whatsapp, twitter, meta, reddit or an iPhone. ...and the crying starts.
The same can also be said about Fiat currency and really supporting anything centralized as we need to balance power with some decentralization to keep it in check, but so few seem to care.