Spyke
lemmy.ml

Second cousin means cousin second order (grandchild of a sibling of one of your grandparents), right?

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aussie.zone

Another way I like to think of it is it's your parent's cousin's kid. So you can see why from their perspective it would feel more closely related, it would be like you having a kid and your cousin having a kid and then you seeing them together.

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Yeah, genetically don't make a habit of it, but you're probably fine (unless your grandparents are identical twins or has hapsburgs or something), but also I'd be super uncomfortable if it was my kid

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lemy.lol

A parent's first cousin. Your first cousin's child would be a first cousin once removed.

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aussie.zone

What really confuses me is your second cousins parent is also called your first cousin once removed.

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No, your great aunt/uncle is your second cousin's grandparent.

Second cousin is your parent's cousin's child.

Your parent's cousin's parent is your parent's aunt/uncle, which is your great aunt/uncle.

You're parent's cousin is your first cousin once removed.

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Bob
feddit.nl

That happened to a few of my cousins years ago. We were at a family function so I thought they would've put two and two together, but alas.

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Bobreply
feddit.nl

I saw that after pressing send and thought to myself, ah, no one'll pull me up on that.

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lemmy.ml

Isn't there some sort of biological thing where you're more likely to be sexually attracted to your relatives if you don't know they're you're relatives

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olostareply
lemmy.world

Second degree cousins is not that close though. If every generation has three children, that's 27 persons. I thinks that for most of human history excluding second degree cousins from the acceptable partners pool would have been impossible. Communities were not that big.

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Enkrodreply
feddit.org

That's how it's phrased in many other languages, german for example.

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mEEGalreply
lemmy.world

your math may be wrong, because we have very similar genomes, even compared to complete strangers. hell, even between some species.

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Well, yes. I meant in the sense we share on average 50% with each parent/siblings, 25% with grandparents, etc. I should have said genetics instead of DNA.

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(an ever increasing number of as the reference is constantly revised)

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Groups often came together to party and marry people.

There are even rules, like exogamy is common.

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All I could find on this is something called "genetic sexual attraction" ^[1]^, though Wikipedia contains arguments that it's pseudoscience ^[1.1]^. Here's a Reddit post asking about this. ^[3]^.

Related to this, I also came across the "Westermarck effect" ^[2]^ which appears to suggest that people who grow up together are less likely to be romantically attracted to each other ^[2.1]^.

::: spoiler References

  1. "Genetic sexual attraction". Wikipedia. Published: 2024-10-14T18:46Z. Accessed: 2024-12-09T07:29Z. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_sexual_attraction.
    1. §"Criticism"

      Critics of the hypothesis have called it pseudoscience. In a Salon piece, Amanda Marcotte called the concept "half-baked pseudoscientific nonsense that people dreamed up to justify continuing unhealthy, abusive relationships".[8] The use of "GSA" as an initialism has also been criticized, since it gives the notion that the phenomenon is an actual diagnosable "condition".

      Many have noted the lack of research on the subject. While acknowledging the "phenomenon of genetic sexual attraction", Eric Anderson, a sociologist and sexologist, noted in a 2012 book that "[t]here is only one academic research article" on the subject, and he critiqued the paper for using "Freudian psycho-babble".

  2. "Westermarck effect". Wikipedia. Published: 2024-09-26T14:09Z. Accessed: 2024-12-09T07:33Z. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Westermarck_effect.
    1. The Westermarck effect […] is a psychological hypothesis that states that people tend not to be attracted to peers with whom they lived like siblings before the age of six.

  3. "How does nature prevent us from feeling sexually attracted to relatives who are objectively sexually attractive? ". Author: "Morgentau7" (u/Morgentau7). "r/TooAfraidToAsk". Reddit. Published: 2024-09-25T17:50:08.227Z. Accessed: 2024-12-09T07:34Z. https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/1fpaold/how_does_nature_prevent_us_from_feeling_sexually/. :::
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Yeah, that's weird: genetically similiar people are more attractive (as long as it isn't too similiar)(people in stable relationships often look alike) but bigger genetical difference is better.

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lemmy.world

Second cousins hardly matters. Even 1st cousins only increase the chance of anomaly by 3%. 2nd cousins is background noise. If you make each other happy, go for it and let anyone who complains enjoy their divorces.

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lemmy.world

A lot of people here are saying that the more genetically similar you are to somebody, the more attractive they are (so long as you don't grow up with them). I'm here to tell you that those guys are completely wrong

Studies have shown that (in other animals unfortunately, not in humans) that the more genetically dissimilar two individuals are, the more attracted they are, so long as they can produce viable offspring (aka they can have kids)

This study would also be done on humans, but that would be slightly morally questionable

This is an evolutionary trait in order to incentivise us to increase the gene pool when possible. You can imagine what would happen if we only rucked our cousins (look at the royals)

Source: am biomed student

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lemm.ee

Oh man we did the Hapsburgs in my genetics class and it's so fucking gross how closely related those incestuous fucks were. First cousins as closely related on a genetic level as siblings.

Edit: LOOK AT THIS UGLY FUCKER! Even better - these genetic monstrosities still have money.

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lemmy.world

I'm not comfortable condemning them for their crippling genetic disabilities (except where they perpetuate it), but they did do the majority of leading countries involved in WWI. And not only do these fucks still have money, they fund modern fascist movements and hateful propaganda as well as still being politically influential. The head of the family is an ambassador for the country his family took from superpower to "I could've sworn you were the kangaroo country"

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lemm.ee

I have zero sympathy for these folks - their genetic problems are wholly self induced and they are a literal cancer on this species.

Fuck 'em.

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And despite the fact that they can renounce a large portion of their excessive wealth at any point, it's not their fault that they're rich? Something something?

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Yeah you often strive for maximum compatible difference. There's no instinct to create a family ladder

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rabberreply
lemmy.ca

If that's true then why do a lot of people only date the same race as them

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lemmy.world

Eh second cousin marriage isn’t a big deal in some cultures

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lemm.ee

Edit. I understand now, thanks.


What is a second cousin? Your cousins cousin? The person your aunt/uncle marrieds niece/nephew? That can't be right, that's not blood. Help! Lol

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Then its not even an issue at all from a genetic standpoint. People might find their relationship weird but their children would turn out healthy.

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x00zreply
lemmy.world

Where do we draw the line when a cousin becomes acceptable? I want a clear number

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Spectrismreply
feddit.org

There is no line. Nothing is true, everything is permitted.

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nuzkiereply
lemmy.world

Meanwhile the Chinese need a calculator to find out what to call their father's sister's daughter's husband's father

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And Koreans. I don't know much about Chinese, but in Korea it also matters whether you're a boy or girl in what you call your relation.

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proudblondreply
lemmy.world

My aunt’s kid is my cousin. My cousin’s kid and my kid are second cousins.

It’s essentially finding the most recent common ancestor. My cousins and I share grandparents. Second cousins share great-grandparents, and so on.

“Once removed” and such refers to generational differences. So, my first cousin’s kid is my first cousin once removed, and my kid’s second cousin.

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Schadrachreply
lemmy.sdf.org

What is a second cousin?

Someone with whom your most recent common ancestor is a great grandparent to both of you.

Like how a first cousin is someone with whom your most recent common ancestor is a grandparent to both of you (aka you both have a same grandparent but not a same parent - meaning one of each of your parents are siblings with each other).

If the most recent common ancestor isn't the same relation for both of you, then there's probably a "times removed" or one of you is some variety of aunt/uncle to the other.

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Oh hey look. The story of how Rudy Giuliani found his wife!

Edit: ex wife, sorry forgot the church didn't condone their boning like they wanted so they had to get a divorce.

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Reminds me of the time I fucked my cousin a few times. She moved I now miss her.

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lemmy.sdf.org

Second cousins you don't share even blood

Comment:

Second cousin in my country is a cousin from the part not related to any of my parents of one of my cousins. What is weird of that?

For example, my cousin is one of my father's brother son, then my second cousin has to be (otherwise would be a cousin too) the daughter of the cousin's mother's brother.

If I pick a random girl I would be equally related genetically.

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Revan343reply
lemmy.ca

Uh...yeah you do. Just not very much of it

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scutigerreply
lemmy.world

I don't share my blood with anyone. You keep your grubby hands to yourself.

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mariusafareply
lemmy.sdf.org

Dude second cousin in my country is a cousin from the part not related to any of my parents of one of my cousins. What is weird of that?

For example, my cousin is one of my father's brother son, then my second cousin has to be (otherwise would be a cousin too) the daughter of the cousin's mother's brother.

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Revan343reply
lemmy.ca

A second cousin is someone with whom you share a great-grandparent.

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JasonDJreply
lemmy.zip

Earliest common ancestor is great-grandparent. With same number intermediaries for both people.

n^th cousin is how many "g's" in the title of the earliest common ancestor. Grandparent == one "g" = first cousin. Two gs, second cousin, etc.

"Removed" is the offset value, or the difference between how many intermediaries between the two parties and their earliest common ancestor.

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Well yes, but 'second cousin' with no qualifiers implies we're talking about zero times removed. The more salient point I was trying to make was that yes, second cousins share blood

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CoolMattreply
lemmy.ca

In the country this post was most likely typed, your second cousin is the cousin of your mom or dad. That's what's weird of that

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CoolMattreply
lemmy.ca

Oh! I thought that was once removed. Did I get the two mixed up?

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lemmy.world

Yes. Removed is a different generation on one side. Second cousins are both children of cousins.

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jlai.lu

Careful anon, that's how you get a Habsburg child

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feddit.dk

I mean, probably not with a second cousin, unless you do it for hundreds of years. Greater risk of birth defects if you have children over 30.

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Zagorathreply
aussie.zone

Yeah even first cousins are actually not that bad, biologically speaking, if it's only done for one (or probably even two?) generation.

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Revan343reply
lemmy.ca

Probably legal in more places than it's illegal

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It is, in fact, legal more places than not. Cousin marriage was extremely common for thousands of years. It only really started to drop off when people started owning cars and could meet people from further away. Most places still haven't changed their laws because the cultural change was so recent, and because it's low risk enough that it's not a serious concern if it's just once in a while rather than, say, medieval European royalty shenanigans.

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lemm.ee

To be honest though, there's always going to be a risk of birth defects if you're having more than 30 kids.

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lemm.ee

Having children after 40 greatly increases chances of birth defects, I can only imagine what happens after hundreds of years.

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lemmy.world

And at this point, with all of the toxins from food processing/preservatives and the plastics getting into our bodies, the added risk is probably negligible.

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Slowing ourselves down this way may be for the best. We’re starting to see inverted population age (more older than younger) in some countries, so we’ll need to solve that structural problem at least.

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