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Teacher says contract wasn't renewed because he wouldn't use trans students' preferred names

The Wisconsin English teacher, Jordan Cernek, argues in the suit that the district violated his freedom of religion and free speech in mandating the use of the students' preferred names and pronouns.

A high school English teacher is suing a Wisconsin school district, alleging it did not renew his contract last year because he refused to use the preferred names of two transgender students.

Jordan Cernek's federal lawsuit alleges the Argyle School District violated his constitutional and civil rights to be free of religious discrimination and to be able to express himself according to his religious beliefs when it did not renew his contract because he refused to abide by a requirement that teachers use the names or pronouns requested by students.

Teacher says contract wasn't renewed because he wouldn't use trans students' preferred nameshttps://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/teacher-says-contract-wasnt-renewed-wouldnt-use-trans-students-preferr-rcna166500Open linkView original on lemmy.world
lemmy.world

He better not fucking win. Apart from it being bigoted against trans kids, this opens the door for teachers to give kids whatever insulting nicknames they want. Call the clumsy kid the r-word? Don't violate his free speech! Call the black kid the n-word? The Book of Mormon clearly says black people are inferior! Don't violate his freedom of religion!

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

He better not fucking win. Apart from it being bigoted against trans kids, this opens the door for teachers to give kids whatever insulting nicknames they want.

Put Elon back in school and call him Cis.

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lemmy.world

No need. He's already getting schooled on his own platform daily by trans, intersex, nonbinary, and cis people of all ages, sexualities, races, and nationalities.

He's a unifier: uniting the world in opposition to his bigotry and general obnoxiousness!

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I believe that being schooled requires being humiliated and/or punished. I don't think he's up to the former, and I'm not sure who will do the latter.

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He better not fucking win because a public school teacher needs to check their religion at the door. The SC said that private businesses can practice their religion as part of commerce but this is the public sector. Kim Davis lost her case about refusing the same sex marriage license due to "her religion" and this should follow.

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unalivejoyreply
lemm.ee

Only the Spanish teacher is allowed to do that. Michael -> Miguel.

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Good, fuck off. He can find a new job where he's not expected to treat his fellow humans with the respect they deserve. Being wrong about the nature of reality doesn't grant the right to be an asshole even if they sincerely believe that it should.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Since I realised it, I have never forgotten that applying basic decency to all living beings is a revolutionary act that will be resisted in various ways, including violence, by those who uphold a status quo based on forced inequity.

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I mean, good. If he isn't going to do even the single most basic thing to connect with his students and meet them where they are, how can he ever be an effective teacher?

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lemmy.one

Right? Some of these kids see their teachers more than their actual parents. Could you imagine having to deal with such blatant disrespect every day from someone that is meant to be your role model?

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Enkrodreply
feddit.org

I can, I did, it fucked me up mentally. I'm 41 now and still suffer some of the consequences of the abuse by my peers and one especially vicious teacher.

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lemmy.world

Idk man. When I was in school before everyone started coming out as trans and such, all my teachers would still ask if there was a different name you preferred on like the first day of school. And they suck to it. It didn't matter if the student was gay, straight, trans, or whatever; they still had a preferred name they liked to be called by, the teachers asked, and they respected it. I'd like to think those teachers of mine would continue this practice and not have an issue with it, but you never really know.

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lemmy.world

That was my experience as well, but then I grew in San Francisco, which is like the gay hippie commie Mecca that the Christofascists jerk themselves off on hating. Plus we had a lot of minority students with potentially difficult to pronounce ethnic names, so that might also have been a factor.

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Makes sense. My personal experience with this is coming from a small Midwest city in elementary and middle school. By the time we got to high school, the teachers just knew because it was in your record by that point.

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I have young kids in school currently. At the open house, that's the very first thing they asked.

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Teacher here; this is the first thing I do on day one with new students! You want to build a classroom community of mutual respect; failure to do so makes for a hostile classroom and a wasted year.

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lemmy.world

I'm not trans.

I hate my legal name. I will change it when I'm ready to do the paperwork. Until then, everyone calls me the name I prefer.

I would have been a thorn in this teacher's side. I'm not answering to that name, asshole. I'm not writing it on any documents. I'm allowed to tell you what to call me for whatever reason I want. My mother's best friend, who I was named for, was an abusive fucking cunt to me and every time you say her name I'm reminded of her.

What a douche. Stop policing names. The only names worth policing are the ones that are remarkably dumb.

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Probably wouldn't have a problem calling Michael Mike. Would they have a problem calling someone by their birth name if it didn't follow traditional gender norms? (I knew a girl named Michael)

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lemmy.ca

I'm reminded of the story of a woman who found out a co-worker was trans and insisted on calling them by their birth-name in order to "honor their mother" despite being told by supervisors and HR not to.
This same woman was married and got very upset when called by her maiden name.

She did not see the contradiction.

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Every once in a while I'm confronted with something like this and I have to remind myself... lots of very stupid people in the world.

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nah. I think there's room. religious shit should be banned from public use (as in, use by public institutions) , and I don't think we should have a robert e lee or nathan B forest high school any more than we should have an erwin rommel elementary or a reinhardt heidrich middle school.

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God hates figs. Everyone knows that. But while researching the a joke to reply to you with, I learned that apparently, figs are jews. Who knew!!

Never did come up with a joke.

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The bible would surely never support people changing their names to reflect their social role either, like when Jesus gave Simon the name Cephas or Peter to reflect his position as the rock the church was founded on

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prolereply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ.

6 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart.

7 Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men,

8 because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free.

9 And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.

(Ephesians 6:5-10)

The direct words of Jesus, not the Old Testament god.

This was a man who told people to give up their worldly possessions... But what, giving up but concept of owning humans as slaves was just a step too far?

What a bunch of bullshit. Disgusting, and inexcusable.

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That’s Paul, not Jesus, though I guess to hear the last 1700 years of Christians tell it, there’s not much difference.

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lemmy.world

Don't know what happened to "love thy neighbour"/The Golden Rule, but some Christians sure are struggling with that part of the Bible.

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lemm.ee

Most Christians have always struggled with that part.

Setting aside religion, I used to have a shitty boss who would never shut up about how the platinum rule (treat people how they want to be treated) is better than the golden rule (treat people how you want to be treated), but then would proceed to never actually follow it and never really understood how he treated people.

People suck in general at just giving a shit about others. They just want to sound and feel like they give a shit without actually following through.

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People who claim that that's not already part of the golden rule don't understand the golden rule anyway.

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lemmy.world

What's the platinum rule?

I like it, sorta suggested it unknowingly previously :D

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lemmy.world

That's the church modernization strategy right there.

Here are the rules you should follow the rules.

Preacher, I disagree with the rules. The rules make me feel icky.

You should just do your best end repent and give back in another ways. By the way this month's tidings are a little light can you help us out.

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Gave my parents the excuse they needed to never have to face everyone they've hurt.

"I'll have to answer to God for that, not to you."

How convenient. I'll just sort out my abusive childhood myself I guess.

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prolereply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

To be fair, there's a lot of contradictions in there regarding how one should treat other humans.

For example, Jesus endorsed slavery, which doesn't seem very "love thy neighbor" to me...

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Hackworthreply
lemmy.world

Small point of clarification - God endorsed slavery. Jesus doesn't say anything about it.

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Billiamreply
lemmy.world

Big point of clarification: the people who wrote the bible endorsed slavery.

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Which is a bit weird, since a couple of the authors were apparently slaves.

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Hackworthreply
lemmy.world

It depends on the denomination, interestingly. Jehovah's Witnesses see Jesus as a created being, separate from and subordinate to god the Father, and view the Holy Spirit as god's active force rather than a person. Mormons believe in the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit as separate beings united in purpose, rather than one god in three persons.

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I'm willing to bet this guy believes Jesus is God, it's the predominant belief in the religion regardless of a few sects having their own fanfictions.

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Wrenchreply
lemmy.world

We had two kids my age that wanted to be called by Final Fantasy character names. AFAIK, no one had any problem with it.

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lemm.ee

I had a classmate that hated her name that went by Peaches. She would politely correct each teacher each year, and it was done.

The only time I ever saw her have an issue was with a shitheel sub who refused to call her that, and the class literally revolted. Started yelling "thats her name" and "what's your problem!" We just brutalized that dude for the whole class hour about it. Never saw him again.

It was great.

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person420reply
lemmynsfw.com

To be fair, lots of students mess with subs. It's possible the sub assumed the kids were fucking with them.

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She wasn't, and this guy double/tripled down. We only started yelling at him after he tried to lambast her about her name repeatedly.

She really was sweet as peaches, too. Nobody was going to let some rando asshole treat her bad about her name.

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@[email protected]

I can see why the sub could think it was a prank to get him in trouble; "peaches" can be slang for breasts. However, it could also refer to a person who is "sweet".

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lemm.ee

What religion requires you to use someone's birth name? It can't be Christianity since people always go around calling that one dude Jesus when his birth name was Yeshua.

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lemmy.ca

Also, As a catholic or protestant you get to choose a confirmation name.

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awful.systems

If your religion tells you to be an asshole to kids, find a new religion. Weird how there are many Christians who don't have this problem, almost like this is not how normal people act but we have an asshole looking for an excuse 🧐

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sh.itjust.works

Also weird that they have no problems with that same religion being a hotbed for pedophiles.

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Let's all say it together.

Your Rights. Do Not. Override. The Rights. Of Others.

It's a far smaller imposition to use a preferred name than it is to be dead named.

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lemmy.world

It's discrimination because he can't discriminate others?

Freedom of discrimination for me, but not for thee?

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lemmy.world

then I have a right to sit outside churches and take pot shots every sunday when they let out. saying I can't is discrimination! AND infringement on my second amendment rights! and saying I should be STOPPED from doing this, rather than just not allowed, is infringement of my fourth amendment rights!

edit: not actually planning this. you can tell because it would require waking up before noon. just that I have the constitutional right to.

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lemmy.world

The USSC has ruled that there are limitations on free speech in public schools. This includes things that will significantly disrupt the general operation of the school, what is produced in the name of the school (such as a student news paper), and allows for disciplinary action, for both students and staff, in regards to maintaining professional, respectful, conduct. So the guy doesn't actually have the right to knowingly be disrespectful to students, or other staff members.

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okay but these fucking cultists have got away with much worse pretty regularly, and I expect this one to get away with this, so im still going to argue for my constitutional right (though not necessarily ability) to shoot up a church without imposed consequences.

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Wow, you brought the reciepts. Seems Steel_Nomad here is a transphobic clown. May he one day find redemption in her heart and act less garbage in the near future.

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hi, cunt. i support your right to address people as you see them, you pathetic lowlife.

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Whelp, Walker neutered our teachers' unions, and the conservatives pushed for being a right to work state, so here are some unexpected consequences of that. They do not have to tell him why his contract wasn't renewed, and now he doesn't have a union backing his position. Plus, he wasn't even "fired," just not renewed.

F this teacher for creating an environment of hate.

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Because unions are villainous commie organizations who do nothing but sap your paycheck and eat god fearing children. The worst part is they have a better villain laugh than the politicians. Really they just had to be stopped!

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"Teacher suing school after being fired for being purposely hurtful to students for ReLiGeOuS rEsSoNs"

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pawb.social

Republicans: "We need to police what's taught in schools! Leftists shouldn't have the right to teach whatever they like to our children! I don't want my tax dollars being spent filling their heads with woke garbage!"

Republicans when a teacher gets suspended for teaching their views to children: "But muh freeze peach! I have the right to teach whatever I like to children!"

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For people who haven't heard it called that:

Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.

  • Frank Wilhoit
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Your pastor or preacher told you to do it, not your religion. Pretty sure there's no explicit mention how to use or not use pronouns or using someone's preferred name in the bible. Language is just arbitrary, made up bullshit anyways. Let's reverse it, his name is no longer Jordan Cernek using pronouns he/his/him. Now, it Jerkin Cumneck with the special pronoun of shitstain.

Jerkin Cumneck is a dumbass. Shitstain shouldn't bring shitstain's political views to work. Jerkin should teach at a private christian academy because shitstain can be an obnoxious asshole over there without having shitstain's fragile little mind broken every time shitstain has to use words that shitstain doesn't like.

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lemmy.world

If he can't show common decency for his students, he absolutely needs to go.

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show common decency

Ah, but isn't it persecution to tell someone who has an ideology of hatred against an outgroup to show decency to them?

At least, that's what they're told from the pulpit and from behind the presenting desk.

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lemmy.world

"It's against my religion to use preferred pronouns"
Also that religion: hi my pronouns are He/Him CAPITALIZED please. Please capitalize them when you use them.
🤷‍♀️

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lemmy.world

If you only refer to one being in the entire universe with a capital H when calling that being He, I'd say it was a different pronoun from he.

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JackbyDevreply
programming.dev

I don't use uppercase pronouns when talking about gods because I don't worship them. That doesn't mean I'm misgendering them.

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It was a general 'you' and you (specific this time) said it wasn't a different set of pronouns. You (again, specifically you personally) weren't talking about misgendering.

"He" is clearly a different pronoun from "he" if only one being in the universe is referred to as "He."

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lemmy.world

Jordan Cernek's federal lawsuit alleges the Argyle School District violated his constitutional and civil rights to be free of religious discrimination and to be able to express himself according to his religious beliefs

Fun fact: when your religious beliefs include a mandate to trample on the rights of others based on pure bigotry, you and your obnoxious interpretation of bronze age fairy tales can fuck off.

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lemmy.world

I also am unsure of where in the Bible it states that pronouns are immutable.

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And Native Americans have 5 genders.

Weird that entirely separate and different societies all come to the conclusion that there should be more than just 2 genders that are locked in at birth.

It's almost as if each person is unique and shoehorning people into only one possible way of living based on your sex is archaic and holding us back from living our most fulfilling lives.

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lemmy.ca

Genesis 5: 2 says "Male and female he created them, and he blessed them."

I like to point to the word 'and', just to make sure Xtians notice it doesn't say 'or'.

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Genesis 5: 2 says "Male and female he created them, and he blessed them."

In an English translation. I'd be interested to see what subtleties in the original text didn't make it over.

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Booohooo they don't let me discriminate against people I don't like! So intolerant!

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Just wanna point out, noone is threatening the teachers right to be a dick, just lost his government job over it. This is basic seperation of church and state. A member of a racist religion would be fired for trying to only teach white kids.

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It's pretty weak to begin with to claim it's his religious right to be an asshole to people. If some kid was named Alphonzious and wanted people to call him Al, but you insisted on using the name he hates instead, that's just you being a huge dick, and it's the school's prerogative to fire you for it. Gender doesn't even come into it.

Go ahead and claim your religion requires you to be an obnoxious toolbag bully to children. Good luck finding work, shitheel.

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Good. Who the fuck wants their children being taught by intolerant bigots? What kind of example is that setting for them? Freaks like this shouldn't be allowed anywhere near kids.

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My interpretation is there are many reasons why his contract wasn't renewed. I think he's trying to make it political by claiming he's being cancelled. He is shitty. He doesn't deserve to be a teacher. I just think this is his way to go on the attack instead of having to defend his record.

I could be wrong, but no fucking way we're getting the whole story just listening to him.

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didn't know being an asshole was a religious freedom, at this rate domestic terrorism is going to be covered under religious freedom, jesus christ.

also, separation of church and state, gotta love it.

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lemmy.ml

Misgendering someone is an insult like calling someone names, or bad mouthing someone. There is no fundamental right to insult other people, even when you rationalize it with beliefs that happen to be protected.

For example,

I might believe whatever I want about my neighbor, eg that he is a fascist cunt, and I am allowed even to say so in private.

But saying it to his face is like a breach of the rule of law, as is saying so to others. I might think he should be lynched daily, but saying so might well be a crime.

You might even say that ignoring him in the elevator when it is customary to greet your neighbor, although not illegal, it is considered just rude by society standards.

So at the very least we have a teacher being systematically rude to his students for religious reasons (or "Gender critical", all the same), thus making him a dick. See my recent comment on Maya Forstater for some quite similar case, only this asshole is aggravated because he is in a position to scar kids.

Even if your belief is protected like religion, or you push it to be (TERFism), you have no right to violate another person's dignity because of your beliefs.

Bigots are bitter about it, and that is why they want to destroy the constitution and the rule of law to have their way. By extension they are against some basic principles like freedom of religion (of others).

Plus, there is research that shows that respecting pronouns is a mental health protector for trans and non-binary teenagers, so this make the teacher a perpetrator of demonstrably abusive behavior towards his students. For these reasons I believe he was quite rightly discontinued, and I would believe the same if he were outright terminated.

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sh.itjust.works

arguably there is a right to insult people, but people who insult others aren't a protected class for employment purposes.

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lemmy.ml

Depends on the jurisdiction. In many countries directly insulting someone in his face is a misdemeanor or similar level violation.

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in america it's protected under the first amendment, however hate speech is not protected, unsure whether or not that extends to queer people or not at the moment, but there has been a push for it in the past.

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Misgendering someone is an insult like calling someone names, or bad mouthing someone. There is no fundamental right to insult other people, even when you rationalize it with beliefs that happen to be protected.

technically insults are protected under free speech, but there is significant incentive to prevent that from being free speech within the grounds of a school, a state funded one especially.

Talking professionally, insulting people is just bad, and you shouldn't do that, it's a good way to get canned.

But saying it to his face is like a breach of the rule of law, as is saying so to others. I might think he should be lynched daily, but saying so might well be a crime.

i feel like it's also worth including that two parties might have a deep division between them, however that doesn't stop them from discussing it, at the end of the day we all believe stupid shit, and non of it really matters, the only thing that matters is that we don't kill each other, and if both parties can manage that while holding opposing beliefs this would be a functional default state for society. Specifically the one that america was founded upon. However it's also important to remember the consequences of inaction as well.

even if we go with a religious perspective, Christianity doesn't tell you to lynch queers. Or people of other religious backgrounds. You can literally just not be an asshole about it. Just because you dont believe queer people are real doesn't mean you have to vocalize it.

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lemmy.world

If not, you can always convert to one of the Satanistic religions and call the teacher some choice insults. Then you claim this is how things are done in your religion.

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Maevereply
kbin.earth

SCOTUS already gave presidential immunity to it and espionage.

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Sounds like he was actually kicked for being disrespectful. You can use your freedom of speech to be an ass surprisingly enough

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those poor students felt awful considering not being able to correct him on top. So, highly likely a horrible teacher to begin with

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lemmy.world

I’m a transgender teacher that can’t work in public schools because I’m trans.

In fact, Oklahoma has executive ordered trans people out of existence.

Can I get news coverage please?

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Bring a lawsuit, I guess? I worry it could go up to the supreme court to decide if the law banning you from working in a school is constitutional, and I don't trust our current supreme court with that decision

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lemmy.world

I’ve reached out to multiple federal agencies, and no one can agree on who has jurisdiction. And my local ACLU won’t do shit, because as you pointed out, the Supreme Court is itching to set lots of fucked up precedents.

I took out TEACH grants - agreed to serve as a teacher for four years. After three years they ripped the ground out from underneath me.

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Super shitty, my friend. I'm sorry. I lost my teaching job when I came out too, but I worked for a sort of alternative Christian high school/middle school with like 30 students max so I kinda knew mine was coming.

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That sucks, but I can't say I was surprised to hear it was in Oklahoma. I'm sorry you have to live in such a backwards craphole of a state.

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No "personal freedom" to violate the rights of others should exist when you are acting on behalf of the government, just like you can't advertise AT&T's service while on a call working tech support for Verizon and not expect to get fired.

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lemmy.world

What part of the Bible discussed gender identity???

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The part at the beginning where God turned the rib of a man into a person and that person identified herself as Eve.

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lemmy.ca

Unsurprisingly this Jordan seems to be following another Jordan's footsteps ... "Jordan Peterson, the self-proclaimed anti-political correctness warrior whose refusal to use gender-neutral pronouns has sparked a vicious battle at the University of Toronto campus." Archived source

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Ironically, Jordan became seen as a gender-neutral name in the 1970s and onwards.

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Lobsterman would judge their gender by the length of their hair then I guess. :p

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You’re free to say whatever you want. Nobody’s stopping you. But if you choose to work a job where 80% of it is talking, don’t be surprised when your performance is measured by what you say.

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Please tell me which religion he is, as no where in the bible does it say "Trans people are evil, don't believe the woke agenda", it does say however, "Love thy neighbour".

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Thomas Jefferson wrote that there should be "a wall of separation of Church and State." Meaning no religion in government matters. Meaning, no tax breaks, no National Cathedral, no "In God We Trust", no "one nation under God."

Of course the people who scream about what the Founding Fathers wanted tend to ignore what the Founding Fathers really said.

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to be fair, in jefferson's case, ignoring the shit he said in favor of the shit he did is pretty well justified; they contradict each other pretty consistently.

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lemm.ee

"Your contract WAS renewed, but I don't think we used your information, like your name or identity or anything. I'm not sure how we referred to you in the paperwork, so I guess we won't be able to find it."

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After careful deliberation, we have decided that Jordan is a female name and are unable to renew your contract until you have completed an official name change to Joseph

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Good. I hope the court throws out his case, and I hope he dies of natural causes, soon

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Man how hard it must be to suck it up, and just do something you don't agree with because your job said to. What a fucking child of an adult.

This isn't a new debate, he chose to work in a field where he was gonna be asked to do this eventually. I have to call people "valued customers" all day and don't agree with it, I don't see how this is any harder for him to adapt to in his field. (Not that pronoun requests are frivolous and dumb, they're easy to just....do)

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lemm.ee

Trans people should start their own religion and then claim bigots are violating their right to freedom of religion or whatever

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Someone should start going by the name, "I owe you 5 dollars". It's a fool-proof way to get rich quick.

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lemmy.world

As an employee of the school, the only names he should be using are those registered in its official documents. Personal desires should not matter for either side.

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prolereply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Every teacher I ever had in public school throughout the 90s and early 00s asked students to tell them if they had a nickname or a name they preferred to be called on the first day of class. And then they would do their best to adhere to it.

Every single one. Nobody gave a shit. There were more important things going on like, I dunno, educating children?

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Most of my teachers in the schools i went to never used a nickname for their students. Those that used nicknames were the exception, not the rule. And guess what happened to them. Parents complained of favouritism and the grades they gave were questioned.

Every single time. People do give a shit about the non-educating part and it's an issue schools have to deal with when they'd rather not.

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lemmy.world

Every teacher, instructor, professor I've had from kindergarten through graduate school across three states and as many decades has asked every class I've been in if a student has a preferred name over the name they're officially registered with. Every one made a note in their register to call them as such. Refusing to call a student by their preferred name is a new level of pettiness at best and discrimination at worst. A teacher's job is to make their classroom a place where children feel welcome and safe. Regardless of whatever their personal views are. So, I say with all sincerity and with no irony, fuck your feelings.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Is that why you're such a delightful and happy person?

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Thank you for the manure. It will fertilize the crops nicely.

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lemmy.blahaj.zone

And guess what happened to them. Parents complained of favouritism and the grades they gave were questioned.

Was this in the educational institutions of North Korea?

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Hey! Shut up! Harry Potter was an international treasure before Rowling went crazy.

But I would be an annoying PTA parent.

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Eggyheadreply
fedia.io

Are you telling me that if a kid named Timmy wants me to call him Tim, I should only be calling him Timmy? Fuck that noise.

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If you call him Tim bad things could happen. It's a slippery slope to child abuse

Edit: /s

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lathreply
lemmy.world

If you're the teacher of a classroom and it's not part of your contract to call Timmy as Tim, then little Timmy can go legally change his name to Tim.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Your teachers seem to have failed you as your reading comprehension is lacking.

In school, a teacher is an employee. It's their job. Outside of working hours, they're not an employee. It's their personal time. Job, personal time, very different things. If you expect them not to be this way, you're kinda being an asshole towards them as a person.

To take the IT guy as an example. Do you expect to call them outside of their working hours to come fix your internet and call you pet names in the process? If so, wow do I have news for you!

Edit: Talk about disconnected....

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lathreply
lemmy.world

I did answer it, you simply failed to recognize it as such.

A school is an organization with a specific purpose. A teacher is an employee of that organization working there under a contract within a set of rules. The students are the beneficiaries of the services that organization offers. The teachers obligation is to provide those services as specified in their contract. Beyond that and other than the laws of the city and country they reside in, they are not obligated to provide any other service that is requested of them.

Demanding something that is beyond their obligations and expecting them to accomplish it unconditionally is an assholeish thing to do.

Ps: You presume too much. Just stuck to the written words and refrain the imagination that flows far beyond them. It will serve you better in the long run.

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A school is an organization with a specific purpose. A teacher is an employee of that organization working there under a contract within a set of rules.

Are you LARPing being autistic? Because, as an autistic teacher of autistic students, I find your ignorant appeals to neutral logic pretty galling.

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lemmy.one

The fact that you think a pet name and a preferred name are the same thing shows how much you understand what you're talking about.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

For both the beauty of understanding and its ugliness is that the more you think you understand something, the less you understand it.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

In school, a teacher is an employee. It's their job.

It's my job, as a teacher, to support my students. I do this by calling them by their preferred name if they ask.

Feel free to complain about that.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Your job as a teacher is whatever the contract asks of you. Anything you do beyond that is a choice that might not be supported by the administration of the school that employs you.

I mean, good for you for being supportive of your students. But if your school decides you shouldn't do that and you refuse, well bye.

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Well, the administration of the school in op clearly felt that the teachers religiously motivated insistence on being a dick violated their contract; so where's that leave you lol

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

then little Timmy can go legally change his name to Tim.

How I 'legally changed' my name:

  1. I told everyone that knew me by my old name what my new name was.

  2. This involved sending letters to places of business I had an account with, e.g. bank and utilities.

 

Do you have to do that for a nickname?

  1. No.

 

So, if Timmy says "I prefer Tim", is that going against a 'contract'? Doesn't seem so.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Just because Timmy prefers Tim doesn't mean everyone has to call him Tim. Maybe the other person prefers to call him by the given name.

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Nah, I'm pretty sure anyone can call you whatever they like.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

On Lemmy, I have registered with that nickname and as such I expect it to be used.

Is that so hard to comprehend?

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

On Lemmy, I have registered with that nickname and as such I expect it to be used.

Is that so hard to comprehend?

In school, the child asked to be referred to by a name, and as such they expect it to be used.

Is that so hard to comprehend?

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Not if it isn't the one they registered with.

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Not if it isn't the one they registered with.

You have a creepily excessive regard for rules. Humans are more important than rules - that's human decency.

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Eggyheadreply
fedia.io

Im so glad you have insight on this. You see, I get a lot of international students in my class and I’ve had to deal with this type of thing a lot. Maybe you can help me out.

Let’s say I have a polish student whose name is “Żółć”, which is somewhat difficult to pronounce in English. After a few failed attempts, he just tells me he prefers “George” because it sounds close enough, he likes that it sounds like English, and is easier for everyone to pronounce. His English-speaking friends call him George as well.

Do I…

  1. Go on and call him George since he prefers it, everybody knows him as that, and move on with the lesson?
  2. Call his parents to request that they have his name legally changed to George so I can use it in the classroom, then butcher his actual name in front of his friends until they do?
  3. Assign him a nick name (not a pet name, because that might be a little weird) “Polish kid” or “Student number 8” so I can call him something easy, be technically correct, and disregard his preferred, yet technically incorrect name?

I could really use some help with this since it happens all the time. Please let me know what you think.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Learn to pronounce their name. Duh.

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Eggyheadreply
fedia.io

OR, just bear with me…

Call them the name they’d prefer to be called because it’s easier than making a scene and nobody actually gaf.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

I'd give you a picture of a mirror, but you'll probably think it really is one.

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Einsteinreply
sh.itjust.works

Uh no. Not that hard to call a person by the name they prefer. Don't be a bigot.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Bigotry has nothing to do with it. The name registered is the one that should be used. If your registered name with the school is Richard, but you wanna be called Private Dick, then register it. If you can't, then that's another issue entirely.

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The name registered is the one that should be used.

Hi, I'm a teacher.

The names I use are the ones that make the students comfortable. Trans student with parents who don't accept it? Student is more important.

If I change your name in the school system to "Cunty McNonce" - and, obviously, I have access - would it be okay to use that name? After all, that's the record of official documents that the school uses to confirm a name.

What you're actually saying is that the personal desires of parents to control their children are more important than anything else. In human society, there's generally some level of personal desire getting in the way: eliding that is a means to pretend that those who have power are more ethical than they really are.

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You're a dog whistling bigot, nothing more. You think you have some gotcha with your logic because you've given this literally zero thought.

For every single school I was in, you were asked in addition to your official name that what do you like to be called. Or rather, "which name is used". I've several (three) first names, like my man Jack Black. He's always been called Jack, by his parents, since he was a kid, but according to you, his teachers should've called him Thomas.

What is Jack Black's real name?

I have three names, but ever since I was a kid, my "actual" (the one actually used) name has been a nickname if one of those three. In the sense of Richard being Dick for English speakers.

Teachers would often just read out the names from a list, but after a few times of not getting my attention (because my ears don't register my first name as well as my "actual" name), they'd start using the one that I was actually called.

"If you want to have a nickname then register it formally"

Which is way harder than a teacher accommodating kids... something that's very much a key thing in the whole field of pedagogy.

Also, if you changed your kids name to all the nicknames they'd have over the years, you'd end up doing it constantly and then they'd have a silly one when they grow up.

Why can't you understand how easy it is to just call someone the thing they prefer? Just how much of a shit do you need to be to refuse to say a different word for a thing?

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Cadeillacreply
lemmy.world

I'm sure he would have no problem calling a, let's just say, James David JD if that is what James David preferred. This is just bigotry for the sake of hate

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lathreply
lemmy.world

I'd rather they didn't. As an official, fraternizing individually only creates problems overall. A teacher should teach a class objectively.

However, any other extracurricular activities should be separate from regular classes and the relationship is more tight knit, so in that circumstance, nicknames wouldn't be an issue.

Ir you don't separate work from personal life, you're going to have a bad time.

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sh.itjust.works

As a fucking educator, you should be connecting to every single student in your classroom on a personal level, or you're unredeemably shit at your job.

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I think they might have grown up in North Korea. They have an excessive respect for arbitrary social contracts.

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lemmy.world

A good chunk of a teacher's job is to build appropriate relationships with your students. Students don't want to learn from someone they dislike, and you have significantly better learning outcomes when the students feel safe, accepted, and cared about. Appropriate nicknames, like Tim for Timothy, help in that relationship building. I don't know what your position is at that school, but Wisconsin teachers are literally taught stuff like this in college so that we know how to manage a classroom with the best learning outcomes and the fewest number of behavioral disruptions. We are taught how to keep those relationships appropriate and healthy, although much of that is just common sense.

Yes, you should separate work and home life for both your own sanity and for modeling good boundaries and work-life balance. But that doesn't mean you have to drop your decency at the door. At the end of the day, the goal is learning, and not being a douche is one of the easiest ways to get to that goal.

Extracurricular activities are an extension of these same principles, not an exception or something with a different set of standards. I think you might be mixing up appropriate relationship building with inappropriate fraternizing, and I'm concerned that you are having difficulty finding that line.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Your expectations of teachers and the resources actually given to them are so far apart from each other that you need to take a step back and actually provide them what is needed, not just your expectations of their personalized behavior in regards to how they should treat their students.

Teachers, parents and the school need to work together and give the support kids need. But what it's actually like is that both school and parents dump on teachers with their own expectations on how students should be handled, which often contradict each other.

Teachers don't actually have to do all of that though. Their job is to impart their knowledge of the subject they were hired for. Everything else is just extra, an option they should be allowed to refuse.

If you want them to do more, then pay them appropriately. Give them the equipment, the training and the support.

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lemmy.world

I definitely agree that there aren't enough resources given to teachers, but the expectation of using common decency to reach the goal of educating our students is not too high of an expectation. Focus on the end goal. How you get there can vary (assuming it's appropriate), but you are still trying to reach the goal of educating the students. If your teaching style is prohibiting people from reaching that goal, why wouldn't you change it?

It's nice to think that as an English teacher, I only have to worry about how well they can interpret the modern applications of the lessons in Macbeth, or whatever literature we're studying, but in reality, teachers are teaching a whole heck of a lot more than their specific subject area. We're simultaneously modeling how to behave appropriately, teaching how to navigate complex social situations, and mentoring students on how to achieve their goals and deal with set backs. Teachers have always worn more than one hat. It's not only an expectation for the job; it's an absolute requirement for success.

Should they earn more money for having to do all of that? YES! That's why we've been complaining about the low pay and lack of resources for at least 40 years. The effort and skills are non-negotiable. Kids shouldn't get a crappy education just because some politicians are using their teachers' wages as political leverage. People go into education knowing that the pay sucks, but they actually care about other people and future generations. They don't go into just for the paycheck, and I don't know a single educator who wouldn't put in some extra effort to help a student succeed.

You're basing a lot of your opinion on the assumption that kids come to school ready to learn and healthy. The reality is that parents and home lives come in a wide variety of flavors. Some parents do exactly what you said: dump on teachers with their own expectations on how students should be handled. But others don't get involved at all. Some don't care about their child's life beyond how it affects them. Some are so busy working to make ends meet that they don't have time to be much more than an absent parent. No matter what life the student has, it's still my job to give them a quality education, so of that means giving them a granola bar or calling Joe Suzie, then that's what it takes.

We're basically fighting for the same thing here: better pay, better resources, and support for teachers so that students can get a better education. The difference is that I don't think students should get the short end of the stick for something they can't change (i.e. low pay), whereas you'd rather a teacher not do extra because they aren't getting paid to do extra. But my method reaches the end goal of educating students well, and yours instead basically says, "Reach the goal or don't. I don't really care since I did my part."

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You are right.

But that's a choice each teacher has to have. Because just like everyone else involved, teachers are only human. Each has their own motivation for teaching and doing more than what's needed because it's the right thing to do simply isn't good enough a reason to force them. Not everyone wants to be a hero.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Teachers don't actually have to do all of that though. Their job is to impart their knowledge of the subject they were hired for. Everything else is just extra, an option they should be allowed to refuse.

Hi, I'm a teacher.

You're not instructing non-reactive objects using units of learning that are produced mechanically from blocks of pure fact.

It's an inter-personal job.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

An interpersonal job doesn't require personalized care. It helps and it's recommended, but it's not obligated.

And what's wrong with being a non-creative object for about an hour or so? It helps clear and reorganize the mind.

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And what's wrong with being a non-creative object for about an hour or so?

You come across as an autistic person who masks to such extremes that you lose all contact with being human. If this is the case, please get support.

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Cadeillacreply
lemmy.world

What is your government name so I don't accidentally call you the wrong thing?

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lathreply
lemmy.world

I don't work for the government and neither am I here as an employee, so have fun with that thought for a while and see what you can learn from it.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

As an official, fraternizing individually only creates problems overall.

You appear to be imagining that using a nickname will turn into sleepovers at some point.

Just invent robots to teach children. Then they can be 'objective' in exactly the way you prefer, as you can train them up from the facts as you see them... without you realising that your 'objectivity' is in fact a personal preference.

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without you realising that your ‘objectivity’ is in fact a personal preference.

If it's a personal preference then it's one they aren't allowed to make apparently.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Hi, I'm a teacher.

The names I use are the ones that make the students comfortable. Trans student with parents who don't accept it? Student is more important.

If I change your name in the school system to "Cunty McNonce" - and, obviously, I have access - would it be okay to use that name? After all, that's the record of official documents that the school uses to confirm a name.

What you're actually saying is that the personal desires of parents to control their children are more important than anything else. In human society, there's generally some level of personal desire getting in the way: eliding that is a means to pretend that those who have power are more ethical than they really are.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Good for you, but that is your choice.

If you changed my name illegally, that's how it will be treated.

What I'm saying is that legal names are legal for a reason. If you don't like your legal name, change it. If you can't, well, that's a whole nother problem.

Your imagination is wild.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

What I'm saying is that legal names are legal for a reason. If you don't like your legal name, change it. If you can't, well, that's a whole nother problem.

Can a child do that yet? If no, expecting them to do so denies them freedom of identity and expression. Abusing children used to be 'legal'. People disagreed, even though it was 'legal'. It was made more and more 'illegal'. In Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development, I seem to be at the post-conventional stage (reasoning based on personal ethics) when responding to tasks designed to identify these stages. Where are you in those stages? Your strict adherence to legal records over human expression seems to give a clue.

Your imagination is wild.

Your lack of imagination is boring, and leads you to think and express yourself in a mechanical, anti-human way.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

You're all talk. If you want the laws to change then organize and elect to change them. If you can't do that, why are you even here? All you do is bicker. "Ah! Freedom of expression" You want it and expect it, but don't act to ensure it where it matters, which is legally.

You're complaining the laws are corrupt. Uncorrupt them. Why are you here arguing with me when you could be out there, talking with other teachers, parents, grandparents etc and actually create an environment where my mechanical, anti-human way doesn't actually take precedence to the kindness of your heart?

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

You're complaining the laws are corrupt. Uncorrupt them.

This is pathetic.

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Yes it is. You like being the victim so much, you'd rather suffer in silence than to actually try.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Good for you, but that is your choice.

It's actually policy at my institution. When students have preferred names, they are recorded. Teachers are asked to us them, and if they make the child upset by not using them repeatedly they get in trouble. If the child does not want the parents to know about their name change, they are not told. This protects trans students.

You make a lot of wrong assumptions. Is this your hobby?

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Well in that case, that's the policy of your institution. You didn't mention that in the former post so excuse my reply while lacking that piece of information. (You aren't a very good teacher if you skip stuff like this in class and then expect your students to know it.)

If the teacher is obligated by the institution policy, then they should respect it obviously. It's no longer a matter of preference.

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Well in that case, that's the policy of your institution. You didn't mention that in the former post so excuse my reply while lacking that piece of information. (You aren't a very good teacher if you skip stuff like this in class and then expect your students to know it.)

This is just obnoxious trolling at this point.

If the teacher is obligated by the institution policy, then they should respect it obviously. It's no longer a matter of preference.

You treat employees as contractually-obligated machines. You really have a dim view of human agency.

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And you have a wonderful view of what it is to be human.

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macnielreply
feddit.org

Bigotry doesn't make an exception wether it is showcased in an official capacity/private or personal capacity. As you demonstrated with your comment.

You believe in objective morality, don't you?

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Belief and application are rarely the same. I can say I do and so can anyone else. But when it's time to apply it, well, that's subjective to the individual in question.

Objectively speaking, it's better for a teacher to focus on teaching their subject and ignore all other unrelated issues. It's not their job to cater to other people's needs. It's also not their job to cater to their own personal whims while working. Do the work, then go home and be themselves.

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macnielreply
feddit.org

it’s better for a teacher to focus on teaching their subject and ignore all other unrelated issues. It’s not their job to cater to other people’s needs.

Look up special needs students, and hopefully realise that you are clearly in the wrong.

Belief and application are rarely the same. I can say I do and so can anyone else. But when it’s time to apply it, well, that’s subjective to the individual in question.

so, you are a Prager U """"""""christian"""""""" then? Cool cool.

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lathreply
lemmy.world

Oh. Is now having your nickname/preferred name used a special need?

I did not know that. Guess they should be placed in a specialized class with a trained specialist in charge then.

...

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Oh. Is now having your nickname/preferred name used a special need?

no its not, its common decency. My statement simply showcases that a teacher does not just have to teach their subject and ignore all other unrelated issues SINCE THERE ARE SPECIAL NEEDS STUDENTS.

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Oh. Is now having your nickname/preferred name used a special need?

Yes, it can be related to special needs, and to protected characteristics as defined by the Equality Act (2010).

I did not know that. Guess they should be placed in a specialized class with a trained specialist in charge then.

That's not how inclusion in education works. It wasn't, for me, when I was a student with special needs in the 80s and 90s. It wasn't when I trained as a teacher. It isn't now when I work as a teacher. There are no specialised special needs classes in my (very large) institution. There are no specialised special needs classes in the feeder institutions where students come from. There are no specialised special needs classes in the universities many of these students go to.

At most, there are organised meetings (twice a year, once a term, once a half-term, or very occasionally more often) between those students with recorded special needs and a member of Additional Learning Support. Many students with special needs only get one meeting, and then no more unless there are issues.

You seem to believe in some kind of 'remedial class' environment. Is that because this was your own experience?

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Samvegareply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

Objectively speaking, it's better for a teacher to focus on teaching their subject and ignore all other unrelated issues.

How a student is feeling is a related issue, because that affects learning.

Explain to me how a student can learn while experiencing the respect of not being addressed as their own identity, when they differ from their parents. It's not a value-neutral position to say that parents are more correct than children about the identity of children: there is an assumption there about parents having control over their children's internal mental processes, experiences, resulting personality, and direction of growth.

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Then you should help the child settle their identity officially. Why go through furtive disruptions instead of clearing things out in a straightforward fashion? You're just making trouble for everyone with all the sneaking about.

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un_owenreply
lemmy.world

Hmm, I see you as someone who is called Mr Poopyface, I guess it's alright if I call you that then, Mr Poopyface?

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It's not. The point is: you don't get to decide what you call others. Especially when they've already corrected you and you know better. And it's Miss btw, by your own logic.

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catbumreply
lemmy.world

It took me all of 90 seconds to read through your comment history and confirm you are in some kind of pain, the kind that breeds misplaced anger at the lack of stability in your own identity.

You did, however, ponder one valuable bit of insight at the end of your recent AITA post (15 days ago) regarding your wife quitting her job and her not listening to you. Please follow your instinct here. Please do be open to your wife about going your separate ways.

Real talk, she will be better off without you. You act as if she's holding you back, all the while it sounds like she's been holding you up. It seems you are the one holding both of you back, and projecting this financial and identity instability onto others is illustrative of your own issues.

You don't seem like a legitimate troll. You seem like you're fighting for your own identity and you're projecting your frustrations by asserting other people are deluded in knowing who they are and somehow insane for wanting a modicum of human respect. Yet I think you and many, many others like you, are those truly struggling.

I think you are currently showing a lack of respect to others because, deep down, you don't respect yourself. And that is not okay. Needing and seeking help and direction from others, including mental health professionals, is not a blue-haired liberal thing, it's a human thing. Please consider it.

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Nah, actually i am just trolling

We are who we pretend to be. If you're so good at "pretending" to be a bigoted idiot that no one can tell, what's the difference between that and actually being a bigoted idiot?

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catbumreply
lemmy.world

Aaaaand now I wonder if you (and your friend) are experiencing a wicked case of DID. Please consult your totally real psychologist on that for more info on how to reign in your diverging personalities. (Wouldn't wanna have to get your lawyer involved, you know, like if your online troll personality state starts wreaking legal havoc in real life. Who would be to blame? You?! Or you?!!?!)

Serious question. And making the forgiving assumption your "friend" wasn't just a cover story. This troll business you opened up here, do you you actually believe and stand behind what you profess?

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lemmy.world

You are taking this really seriously, arent you? Are you sure you are all right?

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[Ah yes, a solid B+ troll, using the "are you all right" trope to get a rise out of me. The following would be my "rise."]

Oh for cripes sake, can you not see I was leaning into your trolling mindset with my first bit?!! Keep fuckin moving the goalpost, y'all are good at that.

[Yes, I clearly suspended my disbelief in trying to see what exactly is legitimate under all of what you've said so far. It's a fascinating occupation you've taken on, Professional Troll of Dubious Intent (PTODI), but if even if you actually don't harbor these shitty thoughts against people, you are literally, actually right this moment making the entire platform of discourse shittier. I guess I should step outside my human brain and understand that some purported humans just want to watch the world burn. Sigh... Fuckin PTODIs.]

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Why are you doing this? It's summer, go outside, get yourself a nice cold beverage and relax.

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You can identify as whatever you want, but your right to do that stops dead at my right to address you as i see you.

OK, cool. So you're good with me addressing you as Mr. Baby Rapist then?

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