Well I don't want kids and I'm pretty sure I'm aromantic (not to be confused with asexual). So either way the damage is marginal.

Edit: Okay you've edited your original comment quite a bit. I dunno no horniness, means no sexual desires, means no distractions means more focus on doing the things I like.

This maybe a stupid question, but what sort of therapy?

Because I have been in therapy before. (CBT)

Well in my case, there is this girl I like. I am not much of a flirt and even then I don't really think flirting would work. So I'm just going to try to Attract rather then Chase in that sense.

Just because you’ve been unsuccessful so far doesn’t mean you’re forever alone.

It's bit a of a personal rabbit hole to get into here in Lemmy. But let's just say it's more than just being alone.

Removing your libido won’t keep you from being lonely.

I am not lonely, though. I am quite socially active. I have a ton of hobbies (I dance, I climb, I golf, I skateboard, I also go to the gym ALOT, I am also part of a board of a social club) I just don't want to be attracted to women anymore, basically.

You say you were in therapy for 7 years. What kind? Was it all with the same therapist?

Mostly CBT, but also "regualr" therapy. Three different psychologists.

You say you’ve been unsuccessful in dating. What does that mean?

To but it blankly I am still a virgin. And I feel unlovable. Whether successful or not successful at this point. I feel like I don't want to have any sort of relationship anymore because I feel like it just won't give me any salvation.

Sorta. My psychiatrist has recommended me to try some different medications first. But he's pretty open to the idea.

What you’re really seeking in your heart of hearts is companionship, love, and romantic fulfillment.

No. No, I ain't. I'm aromantic. I don't feel like that towards other people. A relationship feels like a compromise to me. Always has been.

As for the drop in T and its effects. I'll discuss it with my psychiatrist, thanks for the info.

Tinder and night club people.

Alright, I'm going with this.

Does she expect a serious answer?

That's what I'm asking here. Do they generally expect a serious answer or not?

That sounds like a pretty good idea. I don't know what I'm gonna do, but I'm definitely trying this.

How will her knowing I like her make her feel differently?? That doesn't make sense to me. I'm still me, I am not doing anything differently, I am still as "attractive" as I was before telling her. So I don't see how it matters.

Edit: Granted, eventually I'll have to tell her but that's after hanging out a couple of times and she's shown signs of liking me back

Well the guy said he thought it was a little too soon to be talking about total castration, hence he recommended me some other medications first. (To which I have forgotten the names of now)

No, that's incidental in this case. I am depressed because I feel this way. It's not depression that makes me feel this way.

indicates that there is something very weird about you,

Keep your shirt on, English is not my first language. I looked up the antonym it gave me submissive. To submit to someone else's will for instance?

Please help us understand by giving examples

Someone took a bag of chips of mine. At the time I figured fuck it they're a buck. If I was on the alert I would've probably said something.

What does that mean? (Unless you're making a joke I'm not getting.)

Well I told her I'm really hands off when it comes to relationships. And she is fine with that. I didn't tell her I actually just use relationships for sex. (FYI, the reason I do that is because I can only seem to get relationships and never a fling. But I always tell them I am looking for something loose)

Yeah that's pretty much it. But I don't mind pulling my weight in the relationship.

Well the thing is, like I said, if it were up to me I'd have no relationship and just sleep around. But I only ever seem to able to get relationships, never a fling. So I tell the women I date I don't want anything too attached.

I told her I wasn't looking for anything too attached. And she is okay with that. But as far as I'm concerned the relationship side of things is more her thing than it is mine.

Also, don’t be afraid to shoot your shot, OP.

If I may respond to this and no disrespect intended when I say this: I do not agree at all with this sentiment, to just shoot your shot. With all due respect, but if you're not getting signals from her it will only serve to embarrass you.