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failing to do full reps on certain exercises

Hello guys, so now I finally managed to get going and work out consistently (currently I've been doing it for 2 weeks) at home with a barbell currently I noticed that particularly when trying to do lunges I cannot complete the sets not even without the barbell.

Would it ok if I cannot complete the sets or would you suggest me to do something else in order to gain the strength to do them?

As well if you could share some YouTube that teaches how to have an integral work out only with a barbell would be great.

Thanks.

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update on my previous post about breaking up with my possible narcissist partner

Hello everyone,

Firstly I would like to thank everyone for their advice and encouragment during this troubled time it really helped me get out a bit of the hole I'm in and made me feel supported thanks a lot really you're all amazing people.

Now, the update. Yesterday I went to her place to talk about the situation she was sleeping but she let me in and actually fell asleep myself, once we both were awake I asked her right away why she was just shutting down from me and walking away, she didn't want to argue or talk at the moment she wasn't aggressive to be completely honest but she didn't say anything either she was being normal with me in front of her family and all but well myself I'm weary still. I proposed her to go out for dinner this Friday, but I'm not sure if that was a smart idea since I think it could be awkward to have a conversation like that while eating so I was thinking afterwards have something to drink and try to have a civilized conversation about everything.

In anycase I already have all your input in case everything falls apart which must likely that's going to be the outcome of this but at least in my head once I have an answer I'm able to rest since I don't have to think if she wants anything serious with me or not and I can finally have my grievance time in peace.

If it is not much to ask, how would you go thru this conversation without being to soft? Like I think I have to impose myself but I struggle to do so since usually when I feel anger I explode and actually I had to go thru anger management so nowadays I cannot even scream at people when I get frustrated which I think is a good thing but also I don't fight back now in fears to harm people.

Thanks once more everyone.

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dealing with a breakup with a narcissist as an individual with adhd

Hi everyone, I'm currently going thru a breakup with someone that seems to be a narcissist (no diagnosis but their behaviour seems to point that she is) and I think is the first time I dealt with someone like that.

We had a fallout after she had an argument with her family and friends during a party that I attended to at her place, she stormed out of her place completely drunk and left me there in a weird position, her friends where bitter and told me things about her and it matched with things I saw by myself but wasn't sure so I didn't make a big fuss about them and that broke me completely since I'm deeply in love with her.

Her friends and I just stopped talking to her after her rude behavior and actually expected her to apologize to me or give me an explanation but she didn't budge and just kept on partying and not talking at all to me for almost a week and whene she did talk was to tell me that how did I dare to distrust her.

She has been on and off with me and calls me in the middle of the night piss drunk to tell me she loves me and that she misses me and then she'll go cold again, we'll spend a night together and then cold again and that's driving me mad since I already tend to overthink everything or day dream a lot and is literally torture in my brain I cannot take the thoughts out of my head since I'm hyper focusing on that only and is making me feel a lot of pain and solitude.

Have you ever dealt with a situation like this? Are narcissists attracted to ADHD folk? Do you have any ideas or strategies that have worked for your to bring yourself back to a more normal state?

Thanks in advance for your responses

Edit: I wanted to ad as well that she's a transgender woman and I had a crush on her since I was a teenager (she's kinda popular on social media in my country) she actually made me realize that I liked trans girls and somehow we bumped into each other again now that I'm an adult but now I'm having these thoughts that I might not find someone that understands me and she made me feel like an outcast again, I introduced her to my family and made it clear that I fell in love of her goofy moments in privacy and her eyes it was never a sexual thing like really was pure but now I'm totally shattered I've been drinking every weekend in order to catch some sleep and it's scaring me a lot

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