20, trying to figure life out . doing trading, learning dispatching, studying too, its a lot at once. feel like im always in grind mode and forgot how to just enjoy stuff. currently im financially dependent on my parents...

had some bad losses in trading lately, took a short break and now trying to actually fix my risk management before going back in

if you're older and already been through your 20s, what do you wish someone told you back then? like what actually mattered vs what you thought mattered at the time

also anyone here into manifestation/law of attraction, does it actually work for you? not asking to like wish for money lol, more curious how you actually get into a good headspace and stay there day to day

any advice helps, thanks for reading

[like attracting money , travel etc ]

20 , been doing intraday trading for a few months now. Something I've noticed about myself — when I take a loss, I skip meals, stop talking to people, basically shut down for the rest of the day. Tried a few things to snap out of it but nothing sticks long term.

Sometimes I think I should just enjoy life more, but honestly I don't even know what that looks like for me anymore. Also catch myself comparing my progress to others way too much, which doesn't help.

I'm 20, trying to build something real and make good money, but I don't want to burn out or lose myself in the process. For those of you who've been trading (or just grinding at something) for longer — how do you separate your mood from your results? What actually worked for you?

Would genuinely appreciate any advice.

is it easy to become a logistics/trucking dispatcher?

not talking about 911/emergency dispatch — mean the trucking/freight logistics kind. been looking into it as a possible side hustle/career option. anyone here actually done it or know someone who has?

trying to figure out:

do you need any certification or can you just get hired and trained on the job how much does experience in trucking/logistics actually matter to break in is remote dispatching (for trucking companies) a real thing or mostly a scam magnet what's realistic pay like starting out vs after a year or two how stressful is it day to day

not trying to jump into anything blind, just weighing options. any real experiences or warnings welcome.

how to earn lot of money [ is stake a good option if played with disciple or nay other option ]

What are your hobbies? Genuinely trying to find something new for myself.

Right now my free time mostly goes into watching series and checking trades, and I want to add something that actually feels productive or fulfilling instead of just passing time.

Curious what you're into, and honestly, why you got into it in the first place. Doesn't need to be impressive or unique, just real.

Do you ever catch yourself reacting to things the exact way your parents did, even when you don't want to?

I've noticed impatience and snapping at small stuff in myself lately, and it lines up with patterns I grew up around. Knowing where it came from hasn't been enough to actually stop it in the moment.

How did you actually change an inherited reaction pattern, not just understand it, but genuinely respond differently next time?

why are we here on earth ?? [ motive of our lives ] is it happiness or sufferings?

What's your honest advice for a young person struggling with rent, money, and finding a job, still relying on parents financially right now?

Not looking for "just work hard," genuinely curious what actually got you through a phase like this, and how you dealt with the guilt of relying on parents at this age.

I just feel like I'm running behind something, not even sure what exactly, money, stability, proving something to myself, maybe all of it at once. Curious if anyone else has felt that and figured out what they were actually running from, or toward........

is money really very very important , is it above all things , is it right that we can buy happiness with money ???

what is happiness according to you ??

Did any of you grow up in a toxic or unstable home as a kid? How did you actually deal with it, or move past it?

Looking back, home wasn't calm growing up. Constant fighting between my parents, things a kid shouldn't really be exposed to. I don't even fully know whose fault it is, honestly, and part of me hesitates to blame either of them completely, because I've also watched both of them work hard for me despite everything falling apart between them. That contradiction is confusing on its own, seeing people cause you pain and also genuinely try for you at the same time. I've started noticing it in myself now, more impatience than I think I should have, reacting harder to small things than the situation probably calls for. It's like some of that environment got wired into me without me even realizing it until recently.

I'm not asking for sympathy, I'm asking because I know I'm not the only one who's grown up like this, and I'd genuinely like to know how people actually worked through it, not just survived it, but actually became calmer, steadier versions of themselves afterward.

A few things I'm curious about:

Did you notice the effects on yourself right away, or did it take years to even recognize the pattern?

Was there a specific turning point, therapy, a relationship, distance from the situation, or was it more gradual than that?

Does it ever fully go away, or does it just become something you manage better over time?

Genuinely trying to understand this instead of just carrying it forward without realizing it. Appreciate any real experiences you're willing to share.

[[[[Sometimes I catch myself wondering what it would've actually felt like to grow up in a genuinely happy, peaceful family. Hard to even imagine it sometimes, since it's not something I ever really got to experience firsthand._]]]]

what's your biggest fear, not like spiders or heights, the real one

mine's dying without ever actually making it, like looking back one day and feeling like i failed at life overall

curious what everyone else actually carries around ...........

ngl which country is actually the best to retire in? like proper peace, good weather, decent food, not stressed 24/7 kinda vibe

not looking for the "richest" answer, just curious where people actually feel chill and healthy once they're done working.........

Just curious, what do you guys actually do for a living?

Scrolling through comments here, you can tell there's a huge mix of people, some clearly technical, some more creative, some who sound like they've been in the working world for decades, others who feel like students or early in their career.

No particular reason for asking, just genuinely curious what kind of professions make up this community. Feel free to keep it as vague or specific as you're comfortable with.

Drop your profession below, and if you want, one thing about it people usually don't expect.

how to stop negative self talk , really need help want to get rid of thiss ,,,,///

Everyone's talking about "learn a skill" like it's some magic fix. I've tried, and nothing has stuck. What am I doing wrong?

Over the past while I've actually tried: copywriting, logo design, tutoring, SEO, social media management. Not just thought about them, actually tried them. I even reached out to businesses directly for each one, emailed a genuinely large number of people, and maybe 1% ever replied, and even then it was usually just "we don't need this right now" before the conversation closed. And every single one, I quit before it went anywhere.

I don't think it's because these skills don't work, plenty of people clearly make money from all of them. I think something in how I'm approaching this is off, and I want to actually understand what before I pick up something new and repeat the same pattern for the sixth time.

So instead of just asking "what skill should I learn," I want to ask something more specific:

For people who actually stuck with a skill long enough to see results, how long did it take before you saw any real payoff? I have a feeling I've been quitting before the "boring middle part" even ends.

Did you struggle with switching between different skills before one finally clicked, or did you commit hard to one thing from the start?

Is a 1% reply rate on cold outreach actually normal, or is that a sign my pitch, targeting, or approach itself needs fixing before I even think about the skill?

If you were in my position right now, tried five different things with nothing to show for it, what would you actually do differently, a new skill, or the same list with more patience?

I'm not opposed to learning something new, but I'd rather fix whatever's actually broken in my approach than just add a sixth failed attempt to the list...................

What side hustle actually helped you make money during a rough financial phase???

Being honest, I'm going through this right now. I need money, and I'm trying to figure out something realistic I can actually start, not some "make $10k a month" course pitch, just something real that's genuinely worked for regular people.

If you've been through a similar phase, I'd really appreciate hearing:

What did you actually do,and how much time did it realistically take before it started paying off?

Did it need any upfront investment, or could you start with basically nothing?

Would you recommend it to someone in a tight spot right now, or was it more trouble than it was worth?

Not looking for generic lists, genuinely want to hear what worked for real people who've actually been where I am right now. Any advice is appreciated. 😶‍🌫️ >--___^___^#

BE

What song have you played way too many times and still aren't tired of?

Trying to find new music that isn't just algorithm recommendations. Drop yours below.

What's your honest thought on happiness, given how different everyone's life actually is?

Some people have more money than they could spend in ten lifetimes. Some people don't have enough to eat today. Some kids grow up with parents who genuinely love each other and build a calm home. Some kids grow up listening to their parents fight every single day, absorbing all of that tension without ever asking for it. And somewhere in between, most of us are just going through the motions, trying to figure out what we're even chasing anymore.

Here's what's been sitting with me lately.

As kids, we all had this idea: when I grow up, I'll buy this, I'll do that, I'll finally feel like I've made it. There was so much excitement attached to the future.

Then you actually get there, whatever "there" was for you, a job, a certain amount of money, a certain lifestyle, and the excitement is just... gone. You got the thing, and you feel strangely normal. Maybe even a little empty. Like the finish line moved the second you crossed it.

It's like we're slowly becoming more like machines, going through routines, chasing the next milestone out of habit rather than genuine desire, not really feeling much either way.

And I can't help but think AI is making this worse, not better. It's optimizing everything, our feeds, our recommendations, even how we spend our free time, but optimization isn't the same as meaning. We're more efficient, more connected, more informed than any generation before us, and somehow a lot of people feel more disconnected from any real sense of purpose or joy.

So I'm curious what people actually think:

Is this just what adulthood is, and we romanticize childhood excitement more than it deserves?

Is it inequality itself, seeing some people struggle to survive while others have more than they need, that quietly numbs everyone's sense of what "enough" even means?

Is it the home we grew up in, whether it was calm and loving or full of tension we never chose to be part of, quietly shaping how much we're even capable of feeling happy as adults?

Or is it something newer, like constant optimization and technology, that's actually changing how capable we are of feeling excited or content in the first place?

Not looking for a neat answer. Just curious what this community actually thinks, because I don't think I've figured it out myself.

How do you stop your mood from being controlled by your P&L?

I've noticed a pattern in myself over the last 8 months of trading: green day, I feel great, confident, like I've got life figured out. Red day, everything feels heavier, even things unrelated to money.

It's not just about the money itself anymore, it's that I've let a number on a screen decide how my whole day goes, sometimes how I treat people, how I see myself, whether I feel like "I'm doing well in life" or not.

I know logically this isn't healthy. But knowing that hasn't been enough to actually change it.

So I wanted to ask people who've been trading, investing, or even just dealing with unpredictable income for longer than I have:

Did this ever stop being tied to your identity for you, or does it just get more manageable with time?

Did you build any specific habit or rule that separated "how my trades did" from "how my day/mood goes"?

Is there a difference in how people who've been doing this 5+ years relate to losses compared to someone 8 months in, or does everyone struggle with this at some level?

I don't think the fix is "stop caring," because that's not realistic. I think the fix is something more specific that I haven't found yet. Curious what's actually worked for people who've been through this longer than me.