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People who can don't get mad and just go with the flow, how do you do it?

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I've also been through therapy for years, although not currently. IDK whether it's true or not but for me personally I feel as though therapy can deteriorate from a short, sharp, beneficial "intervention" (which is very helpful) into a malaise of relating ones problems to a friendly ear (which is unproductive) ... but I digress.

This sounds to me like one of those problems which is a symptom potentially caused by a myriad of different issues, and as such has no specific "cure". As you've said it's "accumulated stress", which is another way of saying the same thing. I feel like I run into this type of problem a lot: the solution is really easy, I just need to do better at life!

My one suggestion would be to look at therapies for anxiety, since anger and anxiety are commonly symptoms of the same problem. There's two common therapies for this.

Firstly Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) - figuring out why your thoughts follow the patterns they do and as a result, learning how to change those patterns. This is hard work. It's a bit like going to a gym. You need to set aside time for several sessions a week of examining the parts of yourself you've been trying not to think about your entire life. The gold standard for DIY CBT is "When Panic Attacks" by David Burns, alternatively "feeling great" by the same author. He has a podcast also. I know the dirty dog feet was just an off hand example, but to continue that example you might discover that you have a deeply held belief that people who have dirty houses end up sad lonely and unloved, a potential solution might be to tell someone who you feel is happy and well loved how difficult it is to keep a clean house - inevitably they will agree with you and tell you how hard they find keeping up with their chores.

Secondly Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) - accepting that stressors will always be present, understand that they're harmless, fleeting thoughts, and committing to a course of action that is more meaningful than simply "avoiding stress". Author Steven Hayes is the gold standard here but personally I find his stuff too heavy. I quite like "DARE" by Barry McDonagh, basically ACT but more easily digested. This one is more readily applied "in the moment". It takes practice but there's no sitting and pondering one's soul so-to-speak. This is very difficult to explain in a sentence but you might acknowledge, in the moment, that dirty dog feet are infuriating, you feel that feeling, allow it to come. What you'll find (with anxiety at least) is that if you don't resist it but regard it with a welcoming curiosity, it will dissipate fairly quickly and leave you with a kind of energised readiness. "Well that was a thing!". If feeling frustrated is a natural response, and you fight with yourself not to feel that, it creates an incredible tension - you push the feelings away and they just push back harder. You kind of learn to let the frustration come feel the feelings in a healthy way.

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Nuclear energy is more expensive than renewables, CSIRO report finds

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The report explains why they didn't look at large scale nuclear in section 2.4.4. You can download it here, but basically there are two reasons why the CSIRO and Australian Markey Energy Operator felt that large scale nuclear is not appropriate for comparison. Firstly the nature of our network precludes large scale nuclear - state networks are small compared to overseas networks, and if a single reactor powers a significant portion of a network's base load then it's difficult to shut it down for maintenance. Secondly costing reported by other jurisdictions may be inaccurate given government investment, and that capital may have already been recovered.

As regards sequestration I didn't have a thorough look at the report but it does discuss carbon capture and storage. Charts list costs as "CCS".

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'Friends' Star Matthew Perry Dead at 54 After Apparent Drowning

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Oh wow neither did I.

For some reason I thought it was a tiny shallow pool, like for toddlers to play in. Why would anyone even have one of those?!

A lap pool, for doing laps, makes so much more sense. I've lived in a house with a pool and it's just a huge pain in the ass. Being able to bust a couple of laps would be great though. I'd love to have this.

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John Howard says he ‘always had trouble’ with the concept of multiculturalism

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Isn't this just a more polite way of saying we ought to have one homogeneous culture though?

if people want to emigrate to a country, then they adopt the values and practices of that country

"values and practices" is subjective, but most people using this talking point really mean that migrants should behave, sound, and think the same way they do, except maybe possessing an innate ability to make a ripper fried rice.

Accepting this type of statement allows migrants to be accused of forming ghettos, having poor English, basically... just being different.

Multiculturalism (to me) is not about conforming to a common culture, rather we have a culture of embracing other cultures provided that they are not intolerant nor harmful. So basically, a migrant can behave as they wish subject to those provisos.

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"Regardless of what you think of Mr Assange, justice is not being done in this case:" Federal MPs pass motion urging US and UK to allow Julian Assange's return to Australia

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The details and history kind of escape me, I'm no expert on Assange, but I think your perspective is a little skewed.

Personally I think Assange is a power tripping scumbag. He handed the 2016 election to Trump and perhaps I'm small minded and shallow but it's hard to ignore that.

That said, hiding in an embassy is not evidence of guilt, it's an acknowledgement that the US is incapable of giving him a fair trial. He kicked them in the nuts and they're not going to forget.

The suggestion that he should have a trial in Australia is non-sensical. He can't have a trial here because there's nothing to prosecute him for here. Australian courts are concerned with Australian law.

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YouTube Premium family plan price update ($17.99/month -> $32.99/month!)

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I've been using newpipe for android for several years.

It's great. One thing I've learned about these apps though is that they're brittle. Expect them to break, sometimes several times a month. That said, there's never been a case where I've noticed it break but a patch wasn't already released. The thing is, repo's like f-droid often aren't up to date. Much better to get the release from the source.

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John Howard says he ‘always had trouble’ with the concept of multiculturalism

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I've never been to Europe, and I'm not familiar with the difficulties you're having there.

I will say though, you and I have different ideas about the way multiculturalism and immigration ought to work.

New arrivals have no reason to assimilate, since they get everything they need anyway, and instead they live just like they used to. This forms subcultures and does not foster allegiance to overall society.

This sounds a little creepy TBH. What do you mean "since they get everything they need anyway" ? Should the things they need be measured out according to some kind of social credit?

Why is assimilation and integration so important?