Ok, but where? And I don't mean I solely expect to be approached, I'm sexually submissive, not socially if that makes sense.

What community were/are you in? I'm pretty paranoid about where I join for obvious privacy concerns, but yeah. I'm really hoping to find some good places to meet like minded people.

Thanks, that's good advice, and something I struggle with because i know there is a lot of stigma about it.

Well fortunately messing isn't part of my kink, I definitely know that would make things 10x harder.