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Venting about the general lack of support for neurodivergent adults.

Oh definitely. Let's talk about adhd for a second.

So first of all, everyone assumes the only issues it causes is with work and schooling. Once it affects your daily life, That's when allies start to eye you weirdly. Sorry, what do you mean that you can't do laundry right now because of "executive dysfunction"---even kids can do their chores if their parents bug them enough!

Secondly, resources are slim. Books are targeted towards teenagers in school, parents and their unruly kids, parents and their gifted kids...but there sadly isn't as many books on adult ADHD unless it's an organization book!

Next, let's talk about the depression and stress it causes. No one clues into that. Free therapy in my province is targeted towards warped thinking, which is great and all but doesn't help at all when it comes to adhd. I'm not necessarily depressed because I thought of the bad things that are going to happen--I'm depressed because I can't physically bring myself to do something productive right now. It's executive dysfunction, not sadness.

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how’s your week going, Beehaw

Pretty good!

I dusted off my Beehaw account from when I left Twitter and I'm having lots of fun talking to you all in comparison to a lot of sites. I installed Linux and I'm enjoying playing with all the neat new software. Currently tinkering with templates in Zim Wiki while I wait for my potatoes to cook. I also got introduced to a few low-end games I never would've known about normally and I definitely plan on trying some out.

I was wondering if the site was being buggy haha. Saw that my comments took a while to post and had to refresh.

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What's Lemmy reading?

Just got a few books from my local library that I'm excited to start. I'm starting off with "Focused Forward: Navigating the Storms of Adult ADHD" by James M. Ochoa which I picked out because it was the smallest book in the ADHD category, ha.

I also got a book on Linux/Unix, Diabetes, a workbook for Bipolar, a healthy snack book, and an organization book. Not too too sure if I'll be able to finish it all by the time they're due, but its a nice varied selection.

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What's your favorite book(s) of all time?

I'm probably gonna be an odd one out here with a cleaning book, but I really, really like K.C Davis's "How to Keep House While Drowning" book about cleaning your house while mentally unwell and not considering yourself a moral failure for the state your house is in.

I think it's the one that had the most amount of positive benefits to my life. It turns out having a positive influence in the form of a book that tries to encourage you take things one step at a time, a book that even admits it doesn't know everything either---well, it's more beneficial than my real life acquaintances and family who opted for the shame method.

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How do you find books you want to read?

I look at ebook sales and then I click the prettiest covers because there's so many books that I just accept that I don't have the time to click through every description of every book.

However, now that I have a Bookwyrm account it appears that I can also go there for recommendations. Nice.

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need advice regarding sibling

I was in church camp and eventually came out queer and supported by my family even though they're the ones who put me there. I'm pretty sure it was just a decision for cheap daycare. I also remember nothing from Church other than a fear of God caused by the fact that I was a kid and something about an all-knowing being creeped me out.

Basically: Expect questions. Know that your sister will be confused why the teachers and you may have differing opinions. Explain brains are different for everyone, so opinions are different for everyone. Try to emphasize that she is allowed to form her own opinions too and no one, not even you, can take that away from her. But let her ask questions. Let her ask many questions, because if she's asking questions, that means she's questioning things that are being taught to her. And as her big sibling, you may be a stronger source of inspiration than the teachers are at this age.

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Is anyone else beginning to mourn reddit?

Truthfully? Mixed feelings.

I've mainly been a lurker on Reddit on account of the Reddit userbase being...well, rude sometimes. I disliked using it as a user ever since this time I asked a question and had to reply to like, 5 different comments apologizing for the way I phrased things. I wasn't even being offensive. It was a innocent request for books! I just apparently had to specify "mainstream" instead of phrasing it as "likely to be found at a library".

However, I won't lie when I say it has valuable resources that people put a lot of effort into. For example, I really appreciated /r/EOOD and /r/Fantasy. One is a small community dedicated to exercising more to help with depression, and many people are nice there. The other is a community dedicated to fantasy books, and the resources there are immense. Loved it.