IMO up & downvotes both have a purpose. Content can be disagreeable without being rule-breaking. I've certainly found downvotes a helpful indicator in the past, occasionally highlighting a poor formulation that caused one of my comments to be misunderstood.

A potential middle-ground might be disallowing downvotes on post, but permitting them on comments?

Either way, big thanks to you for hosting the site, and hope the donations situation gets resolved!

Sometimes the potential consequences of doing something irl are just... not worth it.

For instance, risky public sex

Fantasy: ooh the thrill of being caught, what'll happen? Such adrenaline, such stakes 😈

Reality: Go to jail for indecent exposure, do not pass go, lose your job and be branded a sex offender in a government registry ☹️

My girlfriend <3

I do, mostly because the anonymity is liberating. Not needing to worry about what folks who know me irl think about one thing or another. Odds are they wouldn't care, but still.

Almost went left, but even just based off the smile, middle is more my vibe.

For me, it started out with plain old imagination and porn videos. It took a tragically long time to discover literotica and audio.

At least for me, written erotica (sometimes with the assistance of AI), comics and audio give a much nicer experience with preference changing depending on mood. Part of that might be because it leaves a lot to the imagination.

Only time I use video porn nowadays is when wanting to just "get it over with quickly".

Partner likes resting her head on my chest, playing with the hair. Never really thought much about it before then but feels rather cozy to have her there and also feels rather nice.

Lemmy's growing slowly and niche communities can take a bit to get started. It can often help if someone posts regularly for a bit to attract people.

As a regular dude I'd also like an answer to this question. Every service I've tried so far ends up making me miserable in the long run, which is why I don't use them anymore.

<Press X to doubt>

Smashing that button rn

Ironically, that makes me inclined to go left.

Love to make her feel good - moaning probably means it's working ;)

Left - those eyes are lookin' straight into my soul

Balls literally start hurting when coming which puts a bit of a damper on things. At that point I gotta give it maybe a day or two.

Cuddling in post-coital bliss. Just holding one another close, smelling her hair. Mmmm

Do you do anything for your own pleasure outside of work and if so, what?

Probably about two months?

From starting to date my first GF until she took my virginity.

Feel free to contribute on here instead and/or come with improvement suggestions :)

I've mostly just been looking out to keep up common sense moderation in the comm since r34 content is a returning interest of mine. Usually keeping iffy content away and enforcing the basic gender tags common across the rest of lemmynsfw.

P.s, since this technically falls under discussion, pretty please tag the post [Meta] as mentioned in the sidebar.

Now this is someone seriously applying rule 34 by invoking the second clause (rule 35)

very restrained on the smuttiness

What we'd do isn't ;)