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Shaved my legs for the first time

Congrats on cracking your egg! Welcome to the family! A few things that I suggest to start out with is to begin wearing panties under your boy mode clothes. Also paint your toenails. Long flowing skirts are amazing must-haves in your new wardrobe, look for "maxi skirts" and pair them with any old T-shirt and a cardigan for an instant easy girly look!

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Fuck dude, I'm sorry for your loss and the shitty aftermath you had to deal with when you were grieving. I hope you and your father have found peace and happiness and that you don't have contact with those vultures at all anymore.

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Doctor T’Ana is a bad match for Shaxs

I agree with you, I think Shaxs can do better. But I also think that maybe Shaxs used to be like Dr. T'Ana and feels some empathy for her. I'll admit I was a bit kooky before I met my spouse, she recognized that my lashing out was a product of my environment and life experience and offered me a different perspective. She only knew that because she used to lash out for the same reasons and did many years of therapeutic work to get her back on track. So when she saw me hurting in the same ways, she offered me the roadmap she used and I'm a lot better for it. Maybe Shaxs feels this same way about Dr. T'Ana. He sees she's struggling and indulges her because he loves her, but is also slowly chipping away at the hurt that they share.

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Literally a scam. You seem like a good person though, which is why it was so easy to scam you. For real, go volunteer.

You're clearly a giver and currently immersed in a world of takers. I suggest you find other givers and spend your time doing useful things instead of talking to strangers online. For real the animal shelters and homeless shelters need people bad. Spend your energy there.

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Should I Be Worried?

Worried about what? It seems clear she and J are having some issues and it's probably better to not get involved. Behind closed doors they clearly have a problem they're working through. What you need now are boundaries for yourself and to think about and talk about your own personal expectations with K.

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How can I (M24) protect myself from terrible relationships

The only way to not repeat this is to learn from it. I'm a big proponent of "attract, don't chase." When you are the absolute best version of yourself, happily doing your own thing and living your best life, people find that attractive. Try to volunteer or go to hobby events/shops, you're going to find people who like what you like and try to find a relationship that is a positive feedback loop. I think you should want to do everything in your power to make your partner happy because their happiness brings you joy and your partner should feel the same about you. Boost each other until you both reach your goals.

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You aren't stupid, you're naive at best, and that's something you can build from. You can't teach someone how to have a good heart. So don't take this as a huge blow (emotionally, financially it's ok to feel like this was a huge blow if you couldn't really afford it) and just take this as a lesson in learning to filter out those who genuinely need help and those who don't. If you really couldn't afford it, yeah file a police report. Not sure if you'll get your money back, but it might stop the scammers from doing it again to some other nice people.

When I was a younger person, I was broke as all hell. But I managed to have an extra $5 that I was going to use for a nice lunch. (The first time I hadn't skipped lunch in ages!) At the gas station, a guy approached me and pulled on the heartstrings. I even said, "this is my last $5." He had absolutely no qualms about ripping out of my hand and driving away in his car that CLEARLY had enough gas in it for him to get away and wasn't completely empty as he had told me minutes before. Lesson learned.

Good people in genuine dire straits, don't personally ask a stranger online for money. That's why places like GoFundMe exist. If you want to make your local community better, walk around with an extra sandwich in your lunch box and give it to a different homeless person everyday. Pretty much never ever give money and only offer food and company.