I guess my issue is that other than ideological reasons (reddit alternatives are good) there's nothing that NSFW Lemmy does better than anywhere else i go.

My niches/kinks/preferences aren't represented or are actively denigrated in the bigger NSFW communities and the smaller more niche ones don't have the activity or quantity of posts to make this place a "must visit" or introduce me to things i haven't seen before

Instead of becomes an app i only remember to check every week or two, compared to something like Mastodon, which i use daily.

then when i try to submit something to a community the Sync app gives me an "this image cannot be uploaded" error with no further explanation and i decide that posting the 5-10 images i found actually isn't worthwhile after all.

I'm really glad this place exists but I'm struggling to participate in it

The anti-OF posters sound exceedingly hyperbolic. I'm certain there's a reasonable way to ensure OF/ManyVids/Fansly models are encouraged to post free content here without it consuming the entire site.

But posters demanding that all OF models be banned entirely sound hella unreasonable.

Go make your own community and ban OF models from it

Eating ass

Sounding

Cock & Ball Torture

Deep throating

Anything that's fun for viewers but less fun for the participants

Femdom, particularly anything with boxing, wrestling, combat. The "struggle" is very very hot to me.

Femdom feels like a thing that is either very very ordinary or very strange depending on your investigation of kink, bdsm, and gender roles

Yellow fills out that bikini better. Easy choice

I think that last part is hella crucial. When one partner starts/tries to hide when they masturbate, it makes things hella weird.

Embarrassing honesty is a part of growing up and establishing trust.

Down, definitely

Far right for suuure

I was trying to put my finger on it but i think you said it best. Everything from the shape to the hairstyle says "too young" so the answer is "no thank you"

I'm really attracted to femininity, so mostly but not exclusively women

Internally? Emotional intelligence, self-awareness, empathy, willingness to try things and be uncomfy at first

Physically? Glasses, big ass and thighs, huge breasts, dark complexion, natural hair, braids/twists

Not into slim/skinny/hard/flat figures or shapes at all.

Oh I'm sorry, i meant specifically "photos and illustrations of the kinds of women i specifically like tend to get downvoted here on NSFW Lemmy and the niche communities aren't active enough"

The corresponding Reddit subreddits are active enough that i don't have have to visit any general purpose subreddits.

IRL I'm happily married. Spouse and i are pretty open minded about porn/hentai/NSFW

Fucking in a boxing ring, MMA cage, or on wrestling no/BJJ mats after "playing around" goes too far. I'd rather lose to a cute girl and get used and abused but I'm more than willing to take the lead instead and fuck her hard. This is only partially related to me currently teaching kickboxing to my wife 😅

Would that be sort of a "for subs by subs" kinda community? it sounds useful. I never visited r/subsanctuary

Bottom!

Curly f'sho

BDSM and specifically BDSM advice or discussions would be great. Not sure if someone's tackled that yet

The nature/hiking sex is one i checked off the list in 2022. We ended up doing it standing, from behind, so she could use a tree for support. It was... good but neither of us has asked to repeat it since. I can only recommend bringing more lube and wipes than you think you'll need

I got a thing for glasses but the girl without them is cuter.

I hope you one day understand the truth of chubby girl supremacy.

Or "live and let live" or the even simpler truth that huge titties are fucking great.

Sure! that makes sense. Are there specific ones you like using or hearing? Or specific ones you don't like?