I have been judged for being into CNC, DDLG and even for enjoying being choked 😭
Sadly this judgement is mostly from fellow women who assume a woman couldn't possibly be into these things by herself and that it has to mean a man forced me to pretend I am into them. I think this is a stupid take that takes away from the autonomy of women.
Also someone legit kink shamed me about DDLG saying that people who are into that are either p*dophiles or enabling p*dophilia. And that with the knowledge/specification that all parties involved are consenting adults, and they even continued insisting on this judgment after I also specified that there are no other inappropriate power dynamics/imbalances at play. That really pissed me off.
I had such a hard time with choking. I'm too afraid I would crush their windpipe, when I was in my 20's. I only really did the choking when she wanted my belt to do it herself. Self choking with a belt is a good way to die.
Now I have control and understand how to safely cut off blood supply and not totally close the airway.
But it's been a decade since I was with a woman last.
Sissy stuff. Taking dildos/prostate toys in my butt, sucking off dildos, wearing panties and ultra fem dresses, humiliation (I like the fantasy of a dominatrix "exposing" me to her friends and all of them joining together to verbally and physically humiliate/degrade me), etc. I'm also into puppy play which a lot of people seem to confuse with being a furry but they're not the same (they probably do overlap a lot though).
I'm not necessarily a tough guy in the outside world but am generally considered to be fairly manly in my day job and my life in general. Basically not like a construction worker or anything but more like a head general contractor or project manager on a construction site. This type of fantasy play I guess is a bit of an escape from my daily reality.
Yep! peeing on each other, in each other, on our faces. Getting downright KINKY! Just wicked red hot wet sex. My last long term girlfriend and I enjoyed it sooooo much.
I have been judged for exploring CNC as well. I get it that it’s not for everyone. I have only actually engaged in CNC with an ex partner I fully trusted. But when I have discussed it with others, some have judged and assumed that boundaries can be pushed and ignored due to my interest in it.
Butt stuff, those harness style underwear and harnesses in general, chokers. (Nothing too bdsm-y, just the style is sexy) That heavy egirl makeup with the winged eyeliner. Filming and taking private pictures.suoer sloppy blowjobs. Fishnets. thigh high socks with the stripes.
We rarely do anything but my wife likes lace underwear as her limit, and hand stuff. Sometimes PiV.
She gives me a lot of shit and judges me for asking for these things, but on the grand scheme of things I feel like I'm not that crazy.
With our sex life, maybe, but she's an incredible woman in every other way, so you take the rough with the smooth. We're both reletively young so things might change as we get old.
I live in hope. Probably futile hope, but we'll see!
It’s probably not hopeless. After 20 years together, we kinda started out where you are and are having more and better sex than before. She probably has hang-ups. Try adding more dirty talk and get the communication going in the heat of the moment rather than before or after. Start as tame as you have to and see where it goes after a while.
Those are just kinks. It's one thing if your wife doesn't want to do them, but it's shitty of her to actively talk down to you for having them. My ex wife was like that and it's a huge part of the reason she's my ex
Yeah, just answering the question, it's what I get judged on! We're a good team, we're just not very sexually compatible unfortunately,and I guess that's why this account exists!
I want to get used by a large dicked trans, males just don't do it for me, but I want to know what it's like to taken by a domineering woman. This is a new thing for me, since Quitting Hard drugs in the 2000s I haven't had any sexual urges until I started taking prescribed meds (not sure which one is causing this) but now I'm a massive sub and I have no idea where that comes from. My wife has told me multiple times through the years that she will never top or go near anal plus she's also super submissive.
Fake cum. I know most people don't like it, and it's not the fake cum itself that I like, but mostly it's the sticky "shlick shlick" sounds I love when it's being played with.
Normal porn is usually cumshot, zoom in, smile, roll credits. Meh.
Smoking cigarettes is what turns me on unfortunately - these days weed would be less judged! I get that smoking cigs is not good for health but I feel the demonization of it is too much, at least in the US
I mean, you could get a cigarette injector with empty cigarettes and fill them with weed (or other smokeables), or roll them. Or is the smell of burning tobacco specifically part of the allure?
It's a great suggestion, for some folks it could work. For me (and yes this is ironic coming from a smoker) the weed smell is unpleasant so unfortunately not. The tobacco smell does get to be part of the allure although if that is the fetish or the addiction or 🤷♂️
Buttholes, but absolutely no scat or farting.
I absolutely love smelling and licking a butthole that is clean, preferably at the end of the day with all the natural pheromones.
And anal sex of course, nothing better than a girl who takes it in the ass.
I have been judged for being into CNC, DDLG and even for enjoying being choked 😭
Sadly this judgement is mostly from fellow women who assume a woman couldn't possibly be into these things by herself and that it has to mean a man forced me to pretend I am into them. I think this is a stupid take that takes away from the autonomy of women.
Also someone legit kink shamed me about DDLG saying that people who are into that are either p*dophiles or enabling p*dophilia. And that with the knowledge/specification that all parties involved are consenting adults, and they even continued insisting on this judgment after I also specified that there are no other inappropriate power dynamics/imbalances at play. That really pissed me off.
What are those acronyms? CNC stands for something very non-sexy in my world.
Are you involved in machining work? I always think that first when I see CNC
That's what everyone thinks of because that's what it is.
😂 I'm not sure how many random people on the street would know about machining acronyms either tho
Hmm, what's more common, machining or rape kinks?
Probably rape kinks, but there's more communication about Computer Numerical Control machining hahaha
Consensual non-consent. Dominant Daddy Little Girl.
Computer numeric control. Quite a turn on for me.
Many people just dont understand certain kinks. Choking makes me have the biggest orgasms.
I had such a hard time with choking. I'm too afraid I would crush their windpipe, when I was in my 20's. I only really did the choking when she wanted my belt to do it herself. Self choking with a belt is a good way to die.
Now I have control and understand how to safely cut off blood supply and not totally close the airway.
But it's been a decade since I was with a woman last.
Don't push the windpipe at all! You should be applying pressure to the blood vessels behind and to the sides of the windpipe.
I couldn't agree more, I'm really interested in that kind of play myself and hope to be able to give it a try someday!
Handholding.
You fucking slut
Thats sickening
Sissy stuff. Taking dildos/prostate toys in my butt, sucking off dildos, wearing panties and ultra fem dresses, humiliation (I like the fantasy of a dominatrix "exposing" me to her friends and all of them joining together to verbally and physically humiliate/degrade me), etc. I'm also into puppy play which a lot of people seem to confuse with being a furry but they're not the same (they probably do overlap a lot though).
I'm not necessarily a tough guy in the outside world but am generally considered to be fairly manly in my day job and my life in general. Basically not like a construction worker or anything but more like a head general contractor or project manager on a construction site. This type of fantasy play I guess is a bit of an escape from my daily reality.
I'm a fan of all things pee. Omorashi is what got me into it, but now I love when a big cock pisses all over me.
Yep! peeing on each other, in each other, on our faces. Getting downright KINKY! Just wicked red hot wet sex. My last long term girlfriend and I enjoyed it sooooo much.
Have you found any active community on lemmy yet? I did not...
Not that I’d call them active, but here are the ones I’ve seen (hopefully I do the link formatting right…)
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CNC (sub) and smooth armpits. I'm gay, so most of the armpit folks are in it for the hairy one. I love em smooth.
I have been judged for exploring CNC as well. I get it that it’s not for everyone. I have only actually engaged in CNC with an ex partner I fully trusted. But when I have discussed it with others, some have judged and assumed that boundaries can be pushed and ignored due to my interest in it.
That really shows the bad character of those people who assume interest in CNC means no boundaries
Yeah for real it's disheartening. And from my experience, the judgement comes from both men and women
Butt stuff, those harness style underwear and harnesses in general, chokers. (Nothing too bdsm-y, just the style is sexy) That heavy egirl makeup with the winged eyeliner. Filming and taking private pictures.suoer sloppy blowjobs. Fishnets. thigh high socks with the stripes.
We rarely do anything but my wife likes lace underwear as her limit, and hand stuff. Sometimes PiV.
She gives me a lot of shit and judges me for asking for these things, but on the grand scheme of things I feel like I'm not that crazy.
Nothing personal against your wife but I think you deserve better
With our sex life, maybe, but she's an incredible woman in every other way, so you take the rough with the smooth. We're both reletively young so things might change as we get old.
I live in hope. Probably futile hope, but we'll see!
If you settle for less than you deserve, you end up with less than you settled for.
😐
It’s probably not hopeless. After 20 years together, we kinda started out where you are and are having more and better sex than before. She probably has hang-ups. Try adding more dirty talk and get the communication going in the heat of the moment rather than before or after. Start as tame as you have to and see where it goes after a while.
Those are just kinks. It's one thing if your wife doesn't want to do them, but it's shitty of her to actively talk down to you for having them. My ex wife was like that and it's a huge part of the reason she's my ex
Yeah, just answering the question, it's what I get judged on! We're a good team, we're just not very sexually compatible unfortunately,and I guess that's why this account exists!
Femdom, particularly anything with boxing, wrestling, combat. The "struggle" is very very hot to me.
Femdom feels like a thing that is either very very ordinary or very strange depending on your investigation of kink, bdsm, and gender roles
I want to get used by a large dicked trans, males just don't do it for me, but I want to know what it's like to taken by a domineering woman. This is a new thing for me, since Quitting Hard drugs in the 2000s I haven't had any sexual urges until I started taking prescribed meds (not sure which one is causing this) but now I'm a massive sub and I have no idea where that comes from. My wife has told me multiple times through the years that she will never top or go near anal plus she's also super submissive.
Maybe hire a trans dominatrix. Could be a lot of fun.
Anal
Fake cum. I know most people don't like it, and it's not the fake cum itself that I like, but mostly it's the sticky "shlick shlick" sounds I love when it's being played with.
Normal porn is usually cumshot, zoom in, smile, roll credits. Meh.
Being super cuddly/handsy. I'm super affectionate, and I've had a couple of partners call me a perv because of it, which causes me to shut down 😅
Men.
Is it a kink to you because you're underage?
Smoking. Still legal at least, but very judged
Weed or cigarettes?
Smoking cigarettes is what turns me on unfortunately - these days weed would be less judged! I get that smoking cigs is not good for health but I feel the demonization of it is too much, at least in the US
Thats valid. I think in europe it is more normalized
The one woman IRL who I've met who was not bothered by it was German, maybe that makes a difference
Makes sense!
I mean, you could get a cigarette injector with empty cigarettes and fill them with weed (or other smokeables), or roll them. Or is the smell of burning tobacco specifically part of the allure?
It's a great suggestion, for some folks it could work. For me (and yes this is ironic coming from a smoker) the weed smell is unpleasant so unfortunately not. The tobacco smell does get to be part of the allure although if that is the fetish or the addiction or 🤷♂️
Financial Domination
Buttholes, but absolutely no scat or farting. I absolutely love smelling and licking a butthole that is clean, preferably at the end of the day with all the natural pheromones. And anal sex of course, nothing better than a girl who takes it in the ass.
Cuckolding and ballbusting (and just being a submissive man in general). At best they are met with confusion, more typically disgust.
You can create one yourself. I helped mod r/Femdom_sounding for a few years.
Ohh I had to Google it and while I am not here to kink shame, the thought of sticking things in my urethra makes me so damn uncomfortable ahhhh