Yep, never was able to understand what I should be studying for exams. Always was learning the wrong things and then would be like where did that question come from? Then id try to just make stuff up to answer.

Got to college and it was even worse. They threw stuff on there from lectures that was not in the text book and of course I wasn't paying attention or wasn't even there. 🙄

of course the classes I was fascinated with I didn't have trouble because I could almost recite the material after fixating on it. Wish I could have done that for all my classes. Maybe I'd have a degree right now. would have been nice to know about ADHD back then. Oh well. Such is life.

I am proud of myself! Haven't touch reddit since the 11th! I am free! Ahahahahaha! Ahem. For real though It feels good to break the habit. Course I replaced one addiction. With another by landing over here. Oh well. That is how it goes I suppose.

All the freaking time. Like my brain is like "hey! I'm going to talk! I like talking!" And then suddenly turns on itself and is all "what where you thinking dumbass!? You are just going to make an idiot of yourself again" So then I delete my comment and scroll on. Trying to be better on lemmy so here is my comment.

I think there are a lot of computer illiterate people I most generations but there seems to be an overlap of late gen x/early millennial thst kind of had to learn how computers and the internet worked if they wanted to use them as tech wasn't as easy to use. Plus anyone older than that who used computers where more often considered nerds.

These days more and more people don't even have a computer and just do everything through their phones.

Welcome! I moved to lemmy the Sunday before the blackout and haven't looked back. I did go back finally on June 30 and deleted my account. There may not be as much content now but that will come in time as we all hopefully try and contribute. I was mostly a lurker on reddit myself, only started commenting more within the past year so will try to be better here. I am quite enjoying my time here and I hope you do as well.

I'm personally done with reddit but I'm sure others appreciate it. I have been wanting to find a new platform for awhile and it took the blackout to make thst happen. I will be here on lemmy moving forward.

Thanks for posting this. Definatly resonates. Makes me sad to think of how many women have lived most of their lives struggling more than they should be because it was thought it just wasn't a thing women had. Barely anybody does studies or research on women,we are just to complicated with our hormones they say. But that is unacceptable. It's getting better slowly, but we still have a long way to go.

I wasnt diagnosed until this year at 44. It had come up as a suspicion when I was doing a search a few years prior to why I was having certain issues but I didn't take it serious. Like many I didn't understand what adhd actually was, just thought it was the stereotypical view most people have. Then a therapist I was seeing for depression this year suggested I get tested. It wasn't easy, first try was very dismissive and rude, I almost just gave up then, the second time went much better, they actually let me talk and got a proper history from me. I am finally getting help for all my problems, adhd included.

I just want to encourage any women out there that are struggling and think maybe this might be a possibility to at least try to get tested. Don't suffer in silence. We need to speak up louder when the world won't listen. I wish you all the best in your journey wherever you are on this path.

So I heard bad things too about the reddit adhd sub but haven't seen any problems here. I'm not diagnosed but working on trying to get assessed but everyone so far seems supportive. For me I'm just looking for answers and having these communities with or without diagnosis has been helpful.

Reading posts that we can all identify with and getting advice and support should be what these groups should be about. Its been helpful at least to me. We have a hard enough time as it is. Hope you stick around and feel comfortable posting. Welcome.

Haha! I had someone tell me their name a few weeks ago. Kinda sounded like coffee so his name is now coffee. Can't for the life of me remember his actual name and I've asked numerous times. I usually just hope that I don't get in a situation where I need to know their name. Fun times. At least we can laugh about it.

From a Canadian living in America, Happy Canada Day!

Thank you for sharing your story! I have known i did not want kids since I was 14. I am 44 now and I don't regret it at all. My mom left me with my sister when she was a baby and I hated it. I didn't hate my sister I just was not and am still not comfortable with babies.I am the opposite as I do not and never did get that oxytocin feeling from babies. I am okay with toddlers and am much better with older kids but babies are a no go for me.

Either way, I can barely look after myself, I don't need to bring another being into this world to suffer along side me. I respect and am happy for the people in my life that have started families but also confident and happy with my choice not too.

I am glad that people are becoming more accepting of peoples choices in this matter as I was really getting tired of the oh you will change your mind when you are older speech. I'm older now, still haven't changed my mind.

Enjoy you pets! They need loving homes too!

Just found out about this site and happy to be here. Time to delete reddit off my phone!

At 22 you still have most of your life to live. Be glad you found out now and not at 44. Diagnosed this summer and it's good to know, but at the same time all those years of flailing kind of make me sad. All I can do though is move on from here and I hope you can do the same.

Used weed for the past 20ish years to make my damned brain shut up and for sleep issues. I quit about 4 months ago after the realization that I might have adhd. Wanted to see if things got better after stopping. They really didn't. I had no clue that this could be the source of my issues until recently so now I'm over here waiting for an appointment. Self medication and drug/alcohol use is apparently really common with undiagnosed adhd. But damned do I miss it. The first couple weeks where rough, and i do feel like I was having some withdrawal effects from quitting despite people saying it's not addictive. It was literally giving me easy dopamine so your comment makes alot of sense.

I do this so much and drive my husband nuts. I even do it with phone calls I know are coming in at a certain time. I try to schedule things earlier but if not I sit there the whole day and be moody and useless. Fun times. 😆

I was going to play some video games yesterday but instead watched subs shut down all day while exploring lemmy. I need help.

Omfg! I just about died seeing this. My husband was co concerned!

Just wanted to jump in here and say thanks for setting this up. This community is helpful for so many of us in accepting and understanding this part of our lives. May we all thrive in our new home here.

I don't do a lot of commenting but I just wanted to say thank you for putting your foot down on this. It is incredibly disheartening to keep hearing stuff like that. It discourages people from sharing and learning. It dismisses people's lived experiences and troubles.

Personally I started to have suspicions about a year ago and it wasn't due to these memes. It was due to real struggles I am having. I hit rock bottom and just got fed up with my crap amd was finally done running from my problems. I never self disgnosed but i atumbled upon an rlarticle o. Adhd when i was trying tonfogute out why inwas so much fail and it resonated so i started reading and then found these communities which I did relate too way to much. And now as of about a month ago I have a diagnosis. The memes did help encourage me to seek help but they where not the sole reason.

Anyways, if someone relates and it encourages them to seek help I see that as a win even if it turns out they don't have adhd. And even though many people frown on it "self diagnosis" is a first step for many in seeking an official diagnosis. I really don't understand this mentality of people dismissing ADHD or gatekeeping it. It's not like people just want to have ADHD. People are here because they either have it, a loved one has it or they may have suspicions.

I just felt like I wanted to say something because this stuff has really been bothering me. Thabk you for trying to keep this a safe space for us all. Much respect.

If I'm not really into what I'm reading the words are just words and I dont really absorb what is being said, if I am interested in what I'm reading however its the opposite and I don't even see words, just knowledge or if its a story I disappear into another world. It's one or the other and I can't force it. I think I must hit some kind of hyperfocus mode when I am able because usually when this happens it's hard to pull myself out of what I'm reading. I need to figure out how to turn that mode on manually. 😆