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Autistic Literal Speech vs. NT seeking hidden meaning

Instagram reel transcript: "So you know how autistic people just talk and we literally mean like exactly what we say?"

"So like I realized that when I'm talking to a neurotypical person, even when I'm saying exactly what I'm saying, they're looking for like, the meeting underneath it, which is nothing."

"So the other day at work...I had a feedback session and one of the things they told me was that my communication wasn't clear... And their example was I asked 'What is so-and-so's job?' And she said, 'I knew exactly what you meant. I knew that you meant, 'She's not pulling her weight. Why is she on the team? Why haven't you fired her yet?"

"And I was like, hold up. I asked about her job was because I didn't know what her job was and I wanted you to tell me what her job was. And she was like, 'Oh. Well, that wasn't clear and you should really give more context when you ask a question.' And I was like, 'Okay..?? so...'I don't know what her job is...What is.. her.. job?"

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Thoughts on why small talk is so uniquely painful

Image text: @agnieszkasshoes: "Part of what makes small talk so utterly debilitating for many of us who are neurodivergent is that having to smile and lie in answer to questions like, "how are you?" is exhausting to do even once, and society makes us do it countless times a day."

@LuckyHarmsGG: "It's not just the lie, it's the energy it takes to suppress the impulse to answer honestly, analyze whether the other person wants the truth, realize they almost certainly don't, and then have to make the DECISION to lie, every single time. Over and over. Decision fatigue is real"

@agnieszkasshoes: "Yes! The constant calculations are utterly exhausting - and all under the pressure of knowing that if you get it "wrong" you will be judged for it!"

My addition: For me, in addition to this, more specifically it's the energy to pull up that info and analyze how I am. Like I don't know the answer to that question and that's why it's so annoying. Now I need to analyze my day, decide what parts mean what to me and weigh the average basically, and then decide if that's appropriate to share/if the person really wants to hear the truth of that, then pull up my files of pre-prepared phrases for the question that fits most closely with the truth since not answering truthfully is close to impossible for me.

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What is it like to be Neurotypical

I've had this question in my brain for weeks and I don't know where to put it. I guess I chose here because maybe someone else has had this same question and found answers. Maybe it's a stupid question actually.

But what is it like to be Neurotypical?

I am not confident I have known a single Neurotypical person, at least not well. They are apparently the vast majority of people, but I think everyone I've ever been close to was ND. As a late diagnosed AuDHD person, I find myself now analyzing every human I interact with trying to figure out how they are different than me, or how they are similar. I feel like I see the ghost of Neurodivergence in everyone and can't recognize neurotypicality when I see it.

What are the signs and symptoms of neurotypicality?

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adhd·ADHD memesbyMadgePickles

Happy Hopeful: I found an awesome Primary Care Physician and he prescribed me Guanfacine!

I'm feeling really excited and hopeful and nervous. I found an awesome doctor who is not part of some huge corporate medical conglomerate, is LGBTIQ+ safe and is relatively knowledgeable and accepting of Neurodivergence! I could cry. Only an hour away from me (lolsob) but is open to telehealth if a physical exam is not necessary.

When I asked if he was familiar with Guanfacine he said yes all casually(!). I forgot to pick it up on my way home so I'm going to wait and take it tonight. I'm nervous but I've been trying to get this for months now so I'm just really hopeful it can help me.

For those unfamiliar, Guanfacine was originally developed in the 80s as a blood pressure medication but is approved by the FDA to supplement stimulant medication in support of ADHD. It was found to help with anxiety, RSD, irritability/anger and insomnia. Even inattention and impulsivity. Common side effects are sleepiness/fatigue, headaches, dry mouth, but generally get better as you get used to the medication.

It will take several weeks to fully build up and feel the full effects, so I'll edit this post with the results in the coming weeks.

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adhd·ADHD memesbyMadgePickles

Got my insurance quote for my diagnostic assessment

I'm paying for the low deductible insurance at my company (higher cost, supposed to be better benefits). I made an appointment for diagnostic assessment at the beginning of the year, their next available appointment was SEPTEMBER 30. They called me yesterday with the estimated cost to me after insurance (I mean nice that they do that but you'll see why...) It's going to cost me $800.

Yeah ok. Guess I'll just remain self-diagnosed.

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Got my insurance quote for my diagnostic assessment

I'm paying for the low deductible insurance at my company (higher cost, supposed to be better benefits). I made an appointment for diagnostic assessment at the beginning of the year, their next available appointment was SEPTEMBER 30. They called me yesterday with the estimated cost to me after insurance (I mean nice that they do that but you'll see why...) It's going to cost me $800.

Yeah ok. Guess I'll just remain self-diagnosed.

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