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Campbell's Soup Co. admits to dumping waste into an Ohio river, violating law 5,400 times

“Campbell’s admission that it committed these violations will speed this case toward a trial that will decide what steps the company must take to curb its pollution and how large a civil penalty should be imposed,”

1.5 times their gross annual profit average over the timeframe, per infraction, ought to do it. Oh. And jail time for anyone who knew and didn't report it, for aiding and abetting a conspiracy to commit the crime.

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Megathread for Reddit Blackouts and News - Week 1

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LJ is the GOAT for sure, I remember loading the redditsync test beta when I had the original HTC with a trackball (it's lived in the same spot on every device ever since then to this day). I hope he does focus on Lemmy - I'd pay for his efforts all over again. Still, despite the minor inconveniences I'm finding adopting this new set of servers and building out my personalized feeds I'm finding the Jerboa app a similar enough reading experience that it's not jarring.

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how did you and your partner change after having a baby?

We're almost to our daughter's 9th month of life. We're both overtired and feeling overworked, with precious little of the time we used to spend on hobbies or couple-time. That said, while there's been a shift towards an expectation culture in the house (vs an ask culture) we haven't had the sort of challenges listed in that first paragraph.

Some things probably working for us:

  • We've been together for over a decade and in our home for 9 years

  • Our communication style is productive even during arguments ("I feel" statements are much more positive than "you" statements)

  • We're majority wfh so we have the capacity to buffer each others' needs as parents throughout the day, rather than leaving everything to one person or having additional financial stresses with childcare

Some things definitely working for us:

  • Calling each other out for awesome parenting, because very few others will and it's amazing to feel that validation

  • Proactively taking something off of each other's plates, whether that's cleaning or laundry, dishes or bottles, whatever task is getting done is one that doesn't have to be done later

  • Knowing about spoon theory and being sensitive to how much bandwidth each other has left. It's way harder to recharge from past depleted, so being flexible and recognizing when I or my partner are reaching that point and stepping in or voicing a need for support goes a long way for both of us

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

I mean, we're both sleep deprived so I'm sure there's stupid coming out of my mouth too. I think it's much healthier to laugh or work to improve the condition causing stress than it is to feed a negative cycle. If either of us are escalating we missed a chance to bolster each other.

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Gratitude. I feel incredibly fortunate to have a partner who puts in the effort and has put in the effort to help build the communication style that's worked so well for us.

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?

It really helps to have a relationship built on respect, and knowing enough about yourselves to approach challenges constructively. Build a good foundation with each other, learn to communicate positively, and do your best.

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Honeycrisp! my new "farm", and keeping clean and busy. (first lemmy post)

Congratulations getting clean and finding a new passion! It's definitely worth checking in with your extension office to see if there are any plant sales that the state nursery does, and to get information about gardening events in your area.

I'm a big proponent of planting lots of species fairly densely in perennial gardens, so a fruit tree might have a few berry bushes planted around it along with some tall herbaceous individuals and runners all around and between them all. When you do move things out of their pots, try to correct any circling or girdling root issues. Treesaregood.org has some really great resources for maintaining your trees as well.

Think about what you'd like in the areas long term, and what you can do in the short term to move those spaces towards your goals. One thing we did early in was get a giant printout of our property and move scale pieces of paper to represent different things like annual gardens, a greenhouse, orchard/food forest space, a chicken coop, and the like. Obviously those can be whatever aspects you'd like to have where you are. Once you know what the longest-term areas and buildings are, what can you do to grow things while prepping those spaces for their long term? Can you use grow bags or temporary raised beds where your bushes will go later, just to get rid of the grass underneath so your new berry patch is easier to establish? Can you set up a small composting system in between the gardens and house so you can make use of scraps from the kitchen and the gardens without needing to make extra trips?

Play around with ideas on paper with your partner, discuss what might be an issue and might be beneficial, and try a small scale experiment to test the placement before going whole hog. Having those plants in pots seems like a good opportunity to try out a few different designs before digging them in and practice some iterative designing.

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Illinois passes law to outlaw book bans

I don't personally care for the penalty that's imposed, as removing access to libraries inherently affects less affluent socioeconomic groups much more harshly. Political action towards banning a book from a library should result in all libraries receiving the book in question to be stored accessibly in the appropriate book section. Like a weaponized Streisand effect in the pursuit of greater literacy and the protection of the ideal that knowledge is a human right.

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Is anybody else experiencing lag?

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Y'all are doing a great job! If you decide to do a "health report" of the servers after things quiet a bit I think it would be an interesting discussion and good way for the community to think about any steps that should be addressed before July 1st, especially with better information based on the usage that's occurring.

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Is anybody else experiencing lag?

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Hah I was thinking relative to the spike that is the blackouts and the frontpage crashing but I can see your perspective on this. Fwiw I am hoping that Beehaw can continue to build itself into a nice space for even more folks who'd like to join us all and contribute.

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Meyer lemon tree dying - help!

The light looks underpowered for the plant's needs. Take a look here at the "lighting for indoor trees" section and compare those specs to the light you're using. I've seen a number of inexpensive "grow lights" that don't produce the necessary spectrum or lumens, so be sure to take note of the manufacturer specifications if you decide to replace your lights

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Any native plant enthusiasts out there?

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I think clover can be a good addition when a property is severely lacking in flowering plants, but would encourage you to broaden even further. Where we are, Viola spp., Prunella vulgaris, and Fragaria virginiana are also used to help fill in the green space for our pup to play fetch in while providing forage for our local pollinators.

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Any native plant enthusiasts out there?

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That's awesome! Our town does a tax exemption if you're growing food a la a "homestead" exemption. If you're able and willing, the admins just added "Betterment and Praxis" as a community and details of your city's program may help others to bring similar to where they live.

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Community from Lemmy not visible

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😂 let's call it "fun", us figuring out all these quirks together. I'm not sure if it's a matter of other instances that Beehaw users have already connected to, making indexing what's on that instance faster over here, or if it's something totally different. I've had the most luck populating my subscriptions by using the site's search tool with "![community]@[server]"; I've also been playing with Jerboa's search tool but currently get timeout errors or no results whereas the search from the site will display a result for me (this isn't every time but there is a noticeable difference). Part of me thinks some of these hiccups are from the unpredictability of exodus traffic and its impact on the various servers.