I’ll never be visiting the USA ever again.

I’m trans. I’m not risking going to a country where a third of the population actively wants me dead and the other two thirds don’t seem to care either way. That country’s rotten to the core.

All my life I’ve had strong crushes on a certain type of woman. Lanky, shy, nerdy, a bit goth. Guess what kind of woman I’m turning out to be!

I always ended up dating curvaceous, bubbly women but the attraction to the nerd was ever present for decades before I realised I was trans.

I guess that powerful attraction was my subconscious trying to drag me towards my true self in its own clumsy way.

I can live with that.

Mid 40s and slowly transitioning in the UK.

There are people here but it’s definitely a lot quieter than Reddit. Over here you have to prod a bit. Make your own posts for any questions you have and people tend to come scurrying out from the shadows. 😁

I started to transition at the age of 44. Wife, no kids (fortunately), and a semi-public career.

I held most of the fears that you do about passing, still have my doubts, but after 10 months of hrt, passing is much less of a concern.

Hormones have been the greatest antidepressant. Seeing my body slowly shift along with my emotions has been the greatest confirmation that I’m doing the right thing for myself. I actually feel like I want to live now. I want to keep going.

As far you should go. Who knows? That’s entirely up to every individual. Some people find peace in the mere realisation that they are trans and make no changes at all. Others need to socially and medically transition as quickly and completely as possible before they’re happy.

There are as many ways to transition as there are trans people. Try exploring a little bit with your presentation and see how that makes you feel. Just feel it out step by step and see what feels right for you. At this stage I might suggest not even thinking about it as transitioning to female but more about figuring out who you are as an individual.

Personally, I got on estrogen as quickly as possible. Months before I came out to friends and family (my wife knew from the start). 10 months later and I’m pretty much still boymoding but in women’s jeans and T-shirts.

My look is becoming rather androgynous though. I keep getting “the squint” as people try to get a read on me. 😆

Best thing to do is find a therapist who specialises in gender issues. Mine was invaluable in the early months.

Earthworm Jim deserves a mention. Remember when games were funny?

Got my name change done, so that was pretty cool.

Wait until you start looking for clothes 😆

Funny thing was, I was so scared of not passing that it took quite a few sessions in therapy to find the confidence to just ‘try’ hormones.

As the weeks passed and changes started I became more and more comfortable with transitioning. I remember a few weeks in there was a moment as if a switch was flicked in my brain and life went from black and white to colour. I was walking in the evening and started crying at how beautiful the sunset through the trees looked. I’d never experienced emotions like it!

Hmm… not really. I’m in the UK so I just had to get a couple of my friends to sign my deed poll. We had a cup of tea and some cake that my wife had baked for the occasion. It was a very relaxed affair.

I live in the uk so I diy. I can get approximately 18 months worth of hormones and injection supplies for £100.

Go for it. There are other trans groups as well that are more active. 🙂

I find it’s great for getting rid of my arse crack mohican. Can’t let it anywhere near the happy sack though. Burns like hell.

I’ve bookmarked that little beauty for when I have spare $10!

Yes! Same.

Honestly, the existence of solottrpgs is a bit of a revelation for me. I’ve been interested in ttrpgs for ages but I don’t have a consistent schedule. Not being able to commit to a session led to me never exploring it further.

Now I might be able to try it out without the risk of letting down a bunch of people.

That’s fantastic. Thank you so much for letting me know.