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Feeling like I lost my dignity after anal rape

I’m with the other commenters. You can regain those feelings of security and dignity. Therapy can help. Sometimes it takes time to find the right therapist, so pay attention to how you feel with the person. Feeling a better connection will mean more effective work often. Don’t hesitate to be choosy.

You know the thoughts and feelings are not rational it seems, so it just remains to find out why/how you are hooked onto them.

If you live in the US you might be able to use the website www.psychologytoday.com to find a therapist. There are probably similar sites in other countries. If payment is a barrier, look for a therapist who says they have a ‘sliding scale’, ask them how it works.

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Sanders: Democratic Party ‘has abandoned working class people’

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I’m in social work and this is huge. Trying to sign people up for these programs feels so invasive. I regularly apologize for the invasion of privacy and the implied judgement of these means-tested forms.

This is the legacy of the Clintons and those that followed them giving credit to the idea that you have to prove you’re deserving. Not only do means-tested programs have a negative psychological impact, they’re stupidly inefficient. They require lots of outside labor to make them even marginally effective.

The people who need them often barely have time/energy to take care of themselves, so you end up needing this whole extra layer of professionals to help them through the barrier. They all need grant it state funding of their own. All that money could be more efficiently distributed if the gates were gone, or even designed to be useable by the people who need them, in the circumstances they’re in.

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I’m too lazy/busy to answer your for myself, but I’d like to know if they tested to see if the location near family was causative of these attitudes. That’s how the little article reads but it doesn’t say anything about controlling for all the existing stuff that contributes to geographic areas of conservatism.

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Megathread: Charlie Kirk Shot at Utah Valley University Event

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I would always spell it ‘jilted’. I think it’s one of those very obscure English pronunciation things based on letter relationships in the many languages of which English is composed. For backup I’ll suggest the same thing is happening in ‘jink’ and ‘junk’. Whereas a different sound comes from ‘guilt’ and ‘gate’.

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