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ADHD throughout history

ADHD likey helped us in the wild , but hinders us in a society that needs to eek out every bit of cognitive ability to be harnessed by a very rigid system that is very opinionated about how we can contribute. Back then there was probably less incentive to deny your natural affinities instead of something more lucrative. As an ADHD'r I see something familiar in the journals of Davinci, but also in the eyes of the gold rush 49ers.

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Tell me about something that is an instant turn on to you

Just repeatedly saying "relax" and/or "It's okay". As a big clumsy guy I have so much anxiety about getting carried away and hurting someone or making them uncomfortable. I like when she is the instigator. Also when she starts bargaining for sexual gain. I don't like it when porn narratives have a quid pro quo where the girl has to give up sex in order to get some help or whatever that shouldn't require a sexual barrier. But I do like it when that gender dynamic is reversed and she sexually motivated for her own gratification.

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Is it normal for ADHD people to find it hard to cum because you think about laundry?

Keep in mind that stimulants are going to interact with your libido in perhaps unintuitive ways. Like a lot of my experience as an ADHD'er this means a more exponential curve where a normal person would be linear. Meaning I take a while to warm up to a situation but I end up having more fun by the end compared to a normal person. Stimulants seem to add more bumps and valleys to this curve in my experience. Also a lot of adhd'rs end up on SSRI medication as well which can dull sex drive. I have found that THC works to counteract these effects

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I guess my marriage is history

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The ideal situation shouldn't be that you are made to cope in such a way that you operate as a normal person. The ideal should be that you have learned something about yourself that can allow you and your partner to organize your lives more effectively with less friction.

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How do you handle overeating caused by boredom and innatentiveness?

Ready to eat quick food that is relatively healthy. Bananas, carrots, celery, rice cakes, chewing gum, water. Short circuit the junk snacks with fruits and veggies that are more easily accessed or at least as easy. I also had premade meals delivered. Make it to where it's a hassle to get access to unhealthy food. Hard to go through the trouble to get the junk food when the healthy stuff is readily available.