Miisha is gone again :(
Edit 2: @[email protected] now!
Edit 3: not again...
Edit 4: oh no, now @[email protected] has been wiped
I'm sorry... I think it's me who triggered this by worrying about her so much (I won't why but it's not life-threatening) I messaged her on Lemmy (she's not online on Matrix), making her open a chat which we last used...
::: spoiler CW: self-harm
...when she had suicidal thoughts and as the police suggested I pretended to want to come so I could make them do a wellness check... ultimately did make her less willing to die but not nice of me
At least nobody (not even the police, who didn't ask for her username) but me (who she accidentally sent her name to) knows her real name in connection with the Lemmy and Matrix accounts, so she technically wasn't doxxed; the police didn't tell me the address they found in their database of course.
By the way, the police here is generally nice, if incompetent at times, and would use Miisha's legal (female) name. It's not like I sent a SWAT team.
:::
Edit: Miisha insists this was not why she deleted her account. It's clear she was already in distress* so I'd say I wasn't the only factor but given the timing, it was probably the last straw
* Edit: this is the situation in question
So yeah, @[email protected] saw a sad chat, didn't want to see it ever again and went the way of @[email protected] :( at least her posts and comments are still visible
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I wanna die wanna die wanns die wanna die wanna die wanna die
Police again. Great.
I would have been quite upset at the potential of being doxxed that way. I think she had asked you to stop worrying after her as well.
Well. I hope she feels comfortable coming back under a different account.
To avoid duplicates: this has been discussed in another thread:
Last comment: https://sh.itjust.works/comment/27946363
Parent comment, home instance: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/22601252
Poor girl. I hope she's doing fine...
She just confirmed she's fine. The troubles* she or someone she cares about is having are not as bad as it seemed when she first described them.
* Edit: this is the situation in question
One doesn't have to doomscroll to realize that she shares a lot of joy, as in, makes many members of the community happy. I'm grateful for her contributions.
Thank you, too, for your concerns about her.
Me too she's wonderful
Wishing her all the best and hope we get to witness her a third time
This isn't because of you. This has nothing to do with what you did, even tho it was mean.
It's because of me. My pretentious support of women's rights while spewing blatant misogyny, erasing the experiences of non-trans gender-nonconforming people, spreading right-wing propaganda, absolutely annoying people who just want clean and readable feeds, basically forcing my obnoxious personality into every nook and cranny of this place. It's all on me.
So sorry, but it's better this way. Being overdramatic is just my style so just writing this is proof of my extreme arrogance. I enjoyed my time here. Thanks you all.
Stay silly. o7
Everyone enjoys you here, Miisha. I'm glad this trouble in your life right now* is not as serious as I thought and I hope you'll be back doing what folks loved you for. You don't need to post that often either: do what's comfortable and sustainable.
* Edit: this is the situation in question
Hi Miisha,
You are loved here. Its ok, you have done nothing wrong. Its ok. Its ok. Its ok.
NOOOOOOOO
Nah but for real (just for your general fund of information) I’ve enjoyed all your posts; your memes bang, and I hope you’re doing alright. Truly, if people on Lemmy wanted something sanitized, then they should’ve stayed in the padded, corporate white walls of Reddit, and if someone doesn’t like your content, then they can damn well block you. It’s barely even an inconvenience.
It isn’t obnoxious for you to live your truth, nor to post about it. It isn’t arrogant to be known, nor to be missed, which you will be.
Hey, love, I barely know you, but I wanted to let you know that my impressions of you have been nothing but positive.
Now stop bein so mean to our friend (you) ❤️
come back if/when you are ready, but if it isn't good for your mental health, please prioritize and take care of yourself.
Hey fuck off.That's not what Miisha was doing.
I will. Sorry Velma. You were honestly great and super kind to me. Sorry for ruining it like I always do...
If it wasn't clear, this is me. This is my old account. Sorry for being me
Oh babes! Goodness gracious, no, don't be sorry.
You didn't ruin anything. I wish you'd stick around.
Wait, wait, wait....maybe I misunderstood your comment. It read like you were making fun of Miisha there. What's up with this?
This is miisha's other account
Her self-deprecating talk really had me thinking it was someone actually making fun of and being relieved she was gone.
I saw the correction from her, but thank you so much for letting me know.
I don't understand anything that is happening :(
Hey miisha, you wouldn't know me but I've appreciated your posts and comments. Stay with us here please.
Miisha, we love you we care about you. Its a relief to hear you're doing all right. I love your posts, and your self assessment is very off base. It may have been a little too much all at once, but we love having you here.
Given the state of the world, I get very worried when trans people disappear without explanation. You don't have to stay here if this community is not best for you, but if you leave please at least leave a note saying you're fine. I don't want to have to worry about you but I can't help it.
Love, you're in no way what you describe here, not to me and likely not to many others here.
While I would gladly go to sleep to never wake up again, I enjoy interacting with you and your posts.
Sis, you're loved, you can get to your lovely otter for ears, hugs and paws.
Haters gonna hate tbh. Any time you put yourself out there. I enjoyed your manic posting spree. People burn accounts for worse reasons though so o7
Miisha I dont know you, but, through seeing your interactions with others and your amazing meme dump. I even stalked your page for more memes. I promise, you are being too hard on yourself babes. We all love you here.
As someone currently learning more about herself, seeing your posts has been nothing but sunshine these last few days! The world is full of haters, I'm so sorry people are pushing you to think that you've been doing something wrong.
Woah wtf? Sis you okay?
I got no vibes of right wing propaganda (unless I missed something??). You’re just, for lack of a way to put it, blazingly, unapologetically heterosexual lol.
Just bc most Lemmy posters lean LGB, doesn’t mean you sharing your POV is an offense :( from what I’ve seen you’ve been nothing but super sweet and refreshingly candid. You’re not obligated to stay here ofc but I do hope you find some joy whatever you decide. Please don’t feel apologetic for being you! /gen /pos
She's only been hateful towards herself, never anyone else. I think she's in dire need of several IRL friends who shower her with affirming words so that she internalizes them, and shield her from potential hate from outside.
The internet can be a crappy place, and you gotta take care of you. All I ever saw was somebody trying to work on being the best self they could be. Hope you get there. We're cheering for you.
Hey I know we don't know each other but from everything I've seen from your posts I think you're wonderful and are being too harsh on yourself. Transfems are regularly pressured into silencing themselves and to make themselves smaller for other people's comfort. I hope things get better for you and that you can experience more moments of joy like you brought to us with your presence.
Girl, I love you and love your contribution to this community.
Just know we all love you Miisha.
I hope you can come back when you're feeling up to it, if not, thanks for all the posts girl :)
Some of the last comments I heard from her were concerning, so I think you were right to try and reach out. I worry about her. Given what I've heard so far, I don't think you should blame yourself for her deleting her account once again.
Miisha take care of yourself, be kind to yourself. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Oh no :( I hope she's ok. But she has her bf fortuntely.
I hope she comes back
I don't understand everything …
Miisha if you see this message, feel free to reach out, I'm here. Love you sis.
I'm so sad she was in crisis, she's such a beautiful person and the world is brighter with her in it.
Yeah, I think I did the right thing though, Czech police is fine... but still, it was such distress to her that getting reminded of it got her to delete the account.
It's always the right thing to be cautious I think, I'm sure most of us that have been in crisis know you don't think clearly and something terrible could happen. I'm glad the police aren't evil over there like they are here.
Yeah from a provider of inpatient care, it sucks. It'll keep you alive if your other option is death buuut...
Since you do know her name / where she is here's my recs:
~3x T-shirts
~3x Shorts / pants that will stay up without a drawstring
A sweater without strings or a hood
Warm fuzzy slippers with a soft but grippy bottom.
books - Make sure they're paperbacks bound with glue, not spiral or staples:
If she normally wears wigs get her a bouffant bonnet with an elastic band / no ties.
Will add anything else I think of.
Ngl, I've been to a psych ward for lesser problems, and it was a rather uncomfortable but quite effective way to resolve the pressing issues, but there are several more or less legitimate reasons she doesn't want to go, or would use her free will to leave. Caring for her BF with a vertebrae fracture, for example...
Anyway, if you want help with a list...
BTW "crayons" in Europe usually refers to colored pencils, allowed in the low-security department I stayed at. There are other options that don't get dangerously sharp: wax crayons (eww), color-core-in-thin-plastic-coating (once made by Progresso, not sure about modern alternatives), or Koh-i-noor art set with hexagonal translucent plastic shells and all-plastic advancing mechanism.
Again indeed