IMHO a middle name feels very much like a last name to me, in that the gender doesn’t really matter to most people. I’ve met plenty of cis people with a gendered middle name that doesn’t match their gender.
Granted it matters more in some cultures than others, and I’m absolutely not trying to tell you how to feel about it. I’m just letting you know that if you stuck with it, it wouldnt be that outside the norm.
Well, that was me, my username has always been tanisnikana, cause Tanis Nikana is the name I had at birth. Eventually I decided changing it is too hard. Just kept it.
Parents were white Americans on an Air Force base in rural Japan. They gave me an Irish boy’s name that would be reasonably smooth in katakana. I transitioned to female at 28, kept it, pronunciation and spelling (タニス) and all. A lot of people think my last name is Japanese too, but it isn’t. I’m not sure where it came from. I learned English when I moved to America when I was 11. Most people don’t know I can speak Japanese from looking at me.
Yeah, fairly well, but it stunted when I was eleven, cause I had to learn English. Even now at 41, I’m actively studying both languages. I have a trip to Tokyo in January, and I’m dreading getting the old 日本語上手 from people who look at me and think I can’t speak.
Generous of you to assume I even read katakana. Hiragana? Anyway deepl translates it as "proficient in Japanese" from Chinese, interestingly. But maybe that's just them trying to tell them apart.
So I read that people asking you if you understand them in a language you might not understand?
Good thing I'm cis because the mail I use for everything is literally "namesurname".
And fun fact: in Italy, your "fiscal code" (which is like a social security number) is computed from name, sex, place of birth, and time of birth, so when you change name (or assigned sex), that changes as well. I think it's opt-in and you could keep your dead name and assigned sex on it... But...
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My Kurdish birth-name is a boys' name in Turkish and a girls' name is Kurdish.
Except my genius self still used their explicitly male middle-name for all online accounts.
IMHO a middle name feels very much like a last name to me, in that the gender doesn’t really matter to most people. I’ve met plenty of cis people with a gendered middle name that doesn’t match their gender.
Granted it matters more in some cultures than others, and I’m absolutely not trying to tell you how to feel about it. I’m just letting you know that if you stuck with it, it wouldnt be that outside the norm.
Aww thank you, I feel better now :3
Pissman2020 was an S tier username, but it's not for me anymore
what about Pisscreature2026?
Well, that was me, my username has always been tanisnikana, cause Tanis Nikana is the name I had at birth. Eventually I decided changing it is too hard. Just kept it.
From the perspective of an international audience, the name sounds fairly unisex. Is it actually gendered in your own language?
Parents were white Americans on an Air Force base in rural Japan. They gave me an Irish boy’s name that would be reasonably smooth in katakana. I transitioned to female at 28, kept it, pronunciation and spelling (タニス) and all. A lot of people think my last name is Japanese too, but it isn’t. I’m not sure where it came from. I learned English when I moved to America when I was 11. Most people don’t know I can speak Japanese from looking at me.
And given that you grew up with Japanese you probably speak it quite well, to the surprise of most Japanese.
Yeah, fairly well, but it stunted when I was eleven, cause I had to learn English. Even now at 41, I’m actively studying both languages. I have a trip to Tokyo in January, and I’m dreading getting the old 日本語上手 from people who look at me and think I can’t speak.
Generous of you to assume I even read katakana. Hiragana? Anyway deepl translates it as "proficient in Japanese" from Chinese, interestingly. But maybe that's just them trying to tell them apart.
So I read that people asking you if you understand them in a language you might not understand?
日本語上手 is often said to non-Japanese people with a bit of sarcasm, sadly.
You could let them believe you don't understand and later let them know you actually do when it stings.
Thank god discord you can change your display name and even username. I would have had to make a new account.
unfortunately, it's also discord
Good thing I'm cis because the mail I use for everything is literally "namesurname".
And fun fact: in Italy, your "fiscal code" (which is like a social security number) is computed from name, sex, place of birth, and time of birth, so when you change name (or assigned sex), that changes as well. I think it's opt-in and you could keep your dead name and assigned sex on it... But...
German pension insurance number does that as well. It has gender in it, but only first letter of the name.
exactly why my nickname was flitzy :3
I chose this username as a kid and… uh… it kinda worked out.