I have no interest in seeing stranger's genitals
This is not a puritanical issue. I have no problem with porn in its place in life.
I have no desire to control anyone else's body, to shame or judge anyone for sharing themselves online or elsewhere.
Even if I feel there are unanswered questions that our society has not really tackled yet with the speed of change the Internet created, I'm still broadly ambivalent about porn.
As someone with a background in studying historical social attitudes especially around gender, sex and equality we've taken a step forwards I believe, but with more to do.
But I just don't have any interest in seeing stranger's genitals. Genitals can be a lot of fun of course, I have the superpower of enjoying whatever I find in a partner's pants.
I just don't think the fun part is looking at them. When I see a lady spreading her legs in a pose of "check this out" I'm left cold. Yes. Very nice. Gonna keep scrolling.
If I am seeking out porn I'd much prefer something with dignity, make it erotic over explicit.
I think finding an unannounced vulva in my Lemmy feed is a little like an unsolicited dick pic, except it's not aimed at me.
The photos where she's spreading her labia make even less sense to me. Yes, it's a hole. I know how they work. Unless you're hiding something up there that's not the interesting part, and if you are that's not arrousing, just entertaining!
I'm working on the assumption that these things are popular just because of the prevalence. Be funny to find out that this is a normal perspective and those people are sharing their cocks and fannies for a niche audience.
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This is not an unpopular opinion.
I like it when i seek it out, it's annoying seeing porn on my all feed, even if it turns me on, sometimes because it turns me on.
If there's a post with optional NSFW, like how anxious misha does with her posts, I like that best, as I can choose if I'm in the mood to read that
When it shows up in your social media feed, it is unsolicited. Lemmy doesn't allow you to enable NSFW without getting porn the way Reddit does. It's one of the things the fediverse still needs to figure out.
Do you mean: * [comma] the same way reddit does
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It's not unpopular to say an unsolicited or unexpected explicit pic in social media feed is unwelcome. A lot of people would agree. I've spent ages setting up my Lemmy app so I don't see explicit content when browsing c/all. A better way to filter certain content out of my personal feed would be very much appreciated.
Here's something I hate even more than an unexpected asshole close-up: the constant politics in everything. I want to enjoy dumb memes. I don't need to see your ideological flag waving specific to your country. Please give me better content filters for all types of content.
same here. i'd like to write a lengthy comment rn but i lack the energy. short version: it's complicated. there's a lot of communication and signals that hide behind the visible surface. and often that is actually very important.
Different people get turned on by different things. Sexuality is quite a subjective experience.
I get the urge to vomit at the sight of a vagina. But a butthole (on a person lacking a vagina) turns me on, even out of context. The sight of a dick out of context however, is just meh/mildly annoying. I'm gay. I'm not a pure top. Go figure.
Getting the urge to vomit at the sight of any healthy human body part isn't something to be proud of. As someone who's spent years in gay relationships, I find this particular flavor of misogyny especially disgusting.
There are quite a few I see and think “Damn, I’m not your gynecologist.” Not sexy to me at all. I just keep scrolling and let people live their lives.
My ex girlfriend was a model who did rated R modeling, she took quite a few risque photographs and ended up in a handful of different magazines for sexy lingerie and things like that.
Some of these women are so beautiful to me that just getting to see their unclothed body or partially clothed body is a wonderful thing.
But I would say in 9 out of 10 photos it is completely obvious that the model is not even slightly turned on.
She's there for her paycheck, and my mental awareness of the story that's happening behind the photograph, the three to twelve people off camera watching, adjusting lighting, doing all of the work to make the photo look as attractive as it possibly can, turns it from being something that I would say is sexy to something that looks clinical and sterile.
Add into that getting to see somebody's insides when they are likely not even slightly aroused is an absolute vibe killer for me.
That’s some good insight. Based on photo quality and messy backgrounds, I’d say quite a few on here are amateur or semi-pro at best.