I've seen it come up before actually. I'm not 100% on the details because it's been a while, but iirc they got into a crash and it scared them a lot, like "confronting my mortality" type shit so they started like genuinely questioning their life and like what they would even want in a romantic partner and eventually realized they were Ace.
I discovered I was nonbinary through a much more roundabout way personally. I had a gender crisis in high school, but I only knew about the full FTM and MTF kinds of trans. So since the idea of being a girl distressed me just as much as the reality of being a guy I figured that I wasn't trans I just hated "traditional masculinity" until like almost 20 years later when my now wife went "That sounds nonbinary to me tbh" and I had some googling to do.
I did however go through a very similar progression to figure out I was Ace albeit without the car crash though. Good old "Straight is the Default Right Guys?" then "Huh .. I don't actually feel any different about men and women, do I? Must be Bi lol" into "Yeah dumbass, you don't feel any different because you do like both men and women the same amount... fucking 0" to finally "Okay, upon further review you are open to reciprocating affection from basically anybody as long as you are attached to them enough emotionally."
I was sold on watching that movie based on the sole premise that James Spader is in it. I was looking forward to seeing him. I saw much more of him than I was initially anticipating...
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Officer I have no idea, I was stopped waiting for the green light and the next thing I know this guy was ramming into me again and again
I've seen it come up before actually. I'm not 100% on the details because it's been a while, but iirc they got into a crash and it scared them a lot, like "confronting my mortality" type shit so they started like genuinely questioning their life and like what they would even want in a romantic partner and eventually realized they were Ace.
To be entirely fair, then, this happened to me. It's how I discovered being nonbinary.
I discovered I was nonbinary through a much more roundabout way personally. I had a gender crisis in high school, but I only knew about the full FTM and MTF kinds of trans. So since the idea of being a girl distressed me just as much as the reality of being a guy I figured that I wasn't trans I just hated "traditional masculinity" until like almost 20 years later when my now wife went "That sounds nonbinary to me tbh" and I had some googling to do.
I did however go through a very similar progression to figure out I was Ace albeit without the car crash though. Good old "Straight is the Default Right Guys?" then "Huh .. I don't actually feel any different about men and women, do I? Must be Bi lol" into "Yeah dumbass, you don't feel any different because you do like both men and women the same amount... fucking 0" to finally "Okay, upon further review you are open to reciprocating affection from basically anybody as long as you are attached to them enough emotionally."
Simplest answer is a near disaster made them realize they've been closeted and denying their attraction
Fun answer is they realized they wished someone would backend them like that irl
all the video thumbnails from this channel could be posted in this community
this is my favorite
holy shit, you weren't kidding
Crash (1996)
I was sold on watching that movie based on the sole premise that James Spader is in it. I was looking forward to seeing him. I saw much more of him than I was initially anticipating...
Video titles that I aspire to embody:
Was it some sort of J.G. Ballard's Crash situation?
iirc the crash made them start questioning a bunch of shit about their life and made them realize they were Ace.