instead of asking, "what tasks l have for the day ?" , is it better to ask, "What do l feel like doing now ?"
@nostupidquestions instead of asking, "what tasks l have for the day ?" , is it better to ask, "What do l feel like doing now ?"
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You and me both, brother.
Then rephrase to "I HAVE to do something, what do I feel like doing?"
I mean, the answer is still nothing, but at least I'll feel more compelled to choose.
I just need to make a chore dart board...
As someone with ADHD, no absolutely not lol. However I do it all of the time anyway
No, it's better to have awareness of both. What needs to be done, how long it takes, and what dependencies exist. I feel like taking a nap, but I have work and house chores. So I'll take care of some small things that aren't too taxing while I drink coffee and regain some energy.
If I have the motivation to do the task it doesn't matter how I ask myself, I will do it.
Likewise if I have no motivation.
@Nester meaning of the second sentence ?
If I have no motivation to do a task, no matter how I talk to myself I probably won't do it
No, this is a bad idea. 90% of life is getting through the things you don't want to do so you can get to the things you do. Also you might want to cut back on the edibles.
@GreenBeard I agree with your concluding sentence.
Another thing, say "I get to". "I get to do laundry!" "I get to go to sleep soon!"
It does help
Some of column A, and some of column B. You are going to have tasks which need to get done, but you don't really want to do. Do I want to wash the dishes? Honestly, no. It's not something I enjoy doing. Do I need to wash the dishes? Yes, if I don't we get ants in the kitchen, the dishes start to smell and we run out of clean dishes. There will be tasks which ate less time dependent and I can do something I feel like doing first. Maybe the chores I need to get done around the house are done for the day and I can spend a bit of time playing a video game.
Life isn't all playtime and roses. Sometimes:
@sylver_dragon thanks for that wonderful answer :)))
All my family members in my house have chronic illnesses, so any given day I may be taking them to scheduled appointments, the ER, or massaging my wife’s legs as she has severe neuropathy that causes her intense pain but my massage helps temporarily alleviate it. I’m also the sole working person in the family and the only one who can drive(until next month when my youngest gets his license!) most days I don’t get to pick my schedule, I might have all of 1 hour not consumed by the needs of the family on any given day and I must always be ready for my plans to be destroyed by an emergent event. I wish I could ask the question you pose.
@TheRagingGeek thank you for sharing your perspective.
Can confirm, if you have that prerogative it sure as hell is!
@LovableSidekick don't understand.
I would like to live life like that but life makes me do the task list.
Emotionally I agree but my employer would certainly say otherwise,
It totally depends if you are working for yourself or somebody else.
@melsaskca well, l never ask for anyone else.
That is unintentionally how ADHD brains work. It results in executive dysfunction
@Witchfire what's ADHD brain ?
For me it’s wait tell my wife tells me what I’m going to do today!
@Astronut an interesting perspective which I wouldn't understand as l've got no such person in my life.
You get you one of them and you won’t have to think at all anymore. They’ll do all the thinking for you!
@Astronut and you're an automaton ??
Nah! Just your unaverage sumbitch that knows his wife is much more wiser and motivated enough to keep all things running smoothly. Robot I’m not. Do I know how to keep the cogs turning? Yes!
@Astronut do you seriously consider yourself un average ??
In many, many ways but that’s a whole book! I’m just saying that I am a good hard working ( though retired now) dude, but I don’t come close to my wife and her drive!
@Astronut the drive of a wife ??