Spyke
lemmy.world

The inability to process their raw emotions.

When an adult hears disappointing news, they say ok, and think about how they can get a better outcome next time.

A child starts yelling and crying and hitting.

Tell a kid that there's a pizza party later, and they'll want a PIZZA PARTY RIGHT NOW!

Adults are able to wait until later without bouncing off the walls or whining for it to happen now.

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futurology.today

What about autistic adults who have interests that aren’t necessarily appropriate for their age? Some people consider it childish to be interested in teletubbies, picture books or duplos.

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I don't think it's childish to like things made for children, I think it's childish to shame people for liking things made for children. I'm in my 30s and have watched several Disney Jr shows all the way through. They're enjoyable as long as you go in with realistic expectations.

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Raireply
lemmy.dbzer0.com

Yes, it is appropriate to deem something made for children “childish”

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They both refer to behaviors or attributes associated with children, but "childish" has a generally negative connotation and "childlike" has a generally positive connotation. e.g. "childish behavior" is usually something the author judges inappropriate, where "childlike wonder" is usually rendered as a positive (if often infantilizing) attribute. Similar definitions, but quite different in implication.

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piefed.world

Most people's definition: anything fun and silly because apparently adults aren't supposed to have fun or something

Mine: acting like someone who hasn't learned basic knowledge or developed empathy

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NABDadreply
lemmy.world

I would describe the first one as childlike.

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piefed.world

Same, but a lot of people treat them as the same thing and only in the negative way.

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Behaving in an emotionally disregulated manner, similar to how a child who has not developed as a person would do

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Instant gratification at long-term expense

Does not include necessary things like food

Nor acts to build or sustain relationships, like making your kid happy

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ttrpg.network

Poor emotional regulation. Poor long term planning. Disregarding facts for emotions.

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bingo.

the definition of childhood, emotional immaturity etc, is the failure to recognize the world beyond your immediate emotions

growing up is realizing the world exists beyond your immediate needs and feelings.

and it's terrifying when adults lack that ability.

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Owl
mander.xyz

It's childish if someone bitter tells you it is

So everything is childish

Enjoy life, people

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You're confusing childish with child-like. Childish always has negative connotations.

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lemmy.world

I think people use that word to mean immature. Childish implies that a behavior is age-inappropriate, but also implies that the behavior would be appropriate for a child, which is often not true. Immature is a better word to use when someone is doing behaviors that indicate their brain development hasn't caught up with their life situation.

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It depends on the age of the child and if they can reasonably be expected to know better

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To me if it's done purely for the attention of others rather than intrinsically motivated it's childish. A general lack of responsibility is also childish. Tamer stuff like trinket collections, lewd jokes, cartoons and whatnot in my opinion is enjoyable independently of age. If anything judging those things as childish could be seen as childish. Who's more obsessed with seeming all grown up than kids?

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piefed.social

In an adult, you mean?

A child is in the process of learning to behave, so I will always grant them a pass on not being able to listen and not being able to control their emotions/reaction. Not so much with any adult person, at least not with anyone who is also demanding to be considered an adult and treated like one. Being an adult is great, but it has a cost which is to stop behaving like a child ;)

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I can only think of negative emotions where the feeler can't handle them in a controlled way.
E.g. getting angry and screaming and/or hitting things.
For an adult, avoiding childish behaviour when angry would be cursing and at the most, raising ones voice.

This however does not apply to emergencies and such. There will always be room for angry screaming if the situation demands it.

Being a martyr is another example. Having something go against you and proclaiming you are a victim is childish. Grow up and own whatever happened.

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It's caused by the speaker not liking what another person is doing, but being unable to articulate a real argument against the behavior. So, they call it "childish" as a way to express that dislike in a socially acceptable fashion.

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