I haven't read this study, but I've heard most people tend to be their happiest after their kids move out, and near retirement. You have more time to do the things you want, have more 'extra' cash than before, and are still in decent health. Obviously this is on average and varies by person.
Good news! America is about to rejoin the rest of the world in having multigenerational households, because we can't afford to all have our own places for much longer. This has been coming for a while. If you have a home large enough to support that, this is probably a good thing. In fact if that becomes the norm (again) it would probably support future development of the country in good ways, having a higher population within a given area and having a significant percentage of that population be both children and grandparents incentivises walkable communities with accessible shops. It could go a long way towards decreasing car dependence.
But that's all long term. In the meantime we're all broke as hell so get ready to possibly live in the same house with your grandkids too.
Fuck that. Starting tomorrow, I'm drinking even more. I don't wanna live to my 40s if it's gonna get even worse. Got almost 3 years to completely destroy myself and I'm sure as hell gonna try.
See, for me - I crashed in that time, burnout, divorce, financial problems.
I'm rebuilding my life now step by step, and I'm rebuilding it in a way I don't get into overload too much anymore.
I learned to offset stressful times by time off, for example, and 4 out of 5 weekends I relax. (And, yes I do allow myself to cheat, but I'm aware I go into "credit" energy-wise. So in total I take care my "energy account" stays positive and my life is so much better for it)
I loved my late forties, and I love being 50. A lot is hard for me right now but the good things are good and I'm grateful for feeling like I fit in with my friends and at work.
Seems like a very good crossover of having teenagers as a parent, senior responsibilities at work, and the realization that you ARE getting old, and you can't even hold your liquor the way you used to drown it all out (not that you should manage your anxiety with alcohol anyway).
I legitimately hated Witcher 3 as a game hears guns being cocked over her hot take Witcher 2 was better, and even I didn't think that was anything special.... dunno if that helps or if it made it worse.... anyway
But The Witcher was peak Television... until it wasn't and Henry Cavil just kinda gave up and left over it.
Then what? Continue peaking, or does happiness return?
I haven't read this study, but I've heard most people tend to be their happiest after their kids move out, and near retirement. You have more time to do the things you want, have more 'extra' cash than before, and are still in decent health. Obviously this is on average and varies by person.
People have kids that can move out? And they have money for retirement? I'm guessing this isn't in America...?
My kids are still young, so it might change, but I hope they stay with with me forever.
I love them so much and I will be sad when they will leave home.
Good news! America is about to rejoin the rest of the world in having multigenerational households, because we can't afford to all have our own places for much longer. This has been coming for a while. If you have a home large enough to support that, this is probably a good thing. In fact if that becomes the norm (again) it would probably support future development of the country in good ways, having a higher population within a given area and having a significant percentage of that population be both children and grandparents incentivises walkable communities with accessible shops. It could go a long way towards decreasing car dependence.
But that's all long term. In the meantime we're all broke as hell so get ready to possibly live in the same house with your grandkids too.
Yes most people have this experience... Which is why I said on average.
Maybe don't have kids in the first place if they make you unhappy.
Besides, if the kid had a say in it I doubt they would consent if they knew what kinda future they were heading into.
Well, not having kids is still a blasphemous concept for most of the world unfortunately
Heres one thing ive found very impactful for my own happiness - stop giving a fuck what other people think/expect.
That said, im only 33. Sounds like the worst is yet to come lol
You’re telling me I have 22 years to get WORSE???
Fuck that. Starting tomorrow, I'm drinking even more. I don't wanna live to my 40s if it's gonna get even worse. Got almost 3 years to completely destroy myself and I'm sure as hell gonna try.
I'm ahead of the curve then. I've been peak miserable since 16.
48, can confirm.
Only thing I outperform my age bracket in
Some people call the forties middle age when the truth is most hit middle age in their thirties.
And when I do peak, you’ll know. Because I’m gonna peak so hard that everybody in Philadelphia’s gonna feel it.
You're not alone, just remember that. Shit is rough right now but exhaust your resources before exhausting yourself.
54 kinda sucks.
Can confirm
Goddamn, I hope it doesn't get worse that it is right now.
It got better, that time was peak responsibility.
Sometimes it gets better, not promising it will....but it might.
Being 55, I agree.
So, did it get better afterwards or just plateaued?
Same age, but shit's just gotten worse every year for a good decade or so for me.
See, for me - I crashed in that time, burnout, divorce, financial problems.
I'm rebuilding my life now step by step, and I'm rebuilding it in a way I don't get into overload too much anymore.
I learned to offset stressful times by time off, for example, and 4 out of 5 weekends I relax. (And, yes I do allow myself to cheat, but I'm aware I go into "credit" energy-wise. So in total I take care my "energy account" stays positive and my life is so much better for it)
44, must have peaked early.
I loved my late forties, and I love being 50. A lot is hard for me right now but the good things are good and I'm grateful for feeling like I fit in with my friends and at work.
Seems like a very good crossover of having teenagers as a parent, senior responsibilities at work, and the realization that you ARE getting old, and you can't even hold your liquor the way you used to drown it all out (not that you should manage your anxiety with alcohol anyway).
I legitimately hated Witcher 3 as a game hears guns being cocked over her hot take Witcher 2 was better, and even I didn't think that was anything special.... dunno if that helps or if it made it worse.... anyway
But The Witcher was peak Television... until it wasn't and Henry Cavil just kinda gave up and left over it.
Lol. All you yung'ns who think you've hit peak miserableness.
You sweet, summer children. It gets worse.
Is that a crest I see before me?