Spyke

The only right answer is:

"I mean she's not my top pick of your friends for a threesome, but if you can't talk Ashley into it then yeah I guess she's fine."

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lemmy.world

The honest one. And if that doesn't go down well, get the hell out of there. Just being asked is already a massive red flag and I doubt things would be lasting much longer from my side of things.

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sh.itjust.works

Yeah, I don't think being asked is a problem in the context of conversation but if it's a trap kinda question then you need to be talking about her insecurity not her hot friends

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Actually you just need to be giving completely honest answers. If she can just handle them without issue then she doesn’t have much insecurity, just curiosity.

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Seriously. My wife asks me if random people are objectively attractive or hot or whatever all the time, it's basically just conversation fluff. It doesn't matter how I answer because she isn't jealous or anything, again, just conversation fluff.

Well, sometimes it matters if I say, "no that person is really weird looking" and she's like, "whaaaat why?". But then it's just funny.

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That's when you throw in "I mean I can see why you'd think so if you like that sort of thing".

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lemmy.ca

I'd say not to waste your time on girls who play these kinds of games. That's a weird question to ask your S.O. no matter how you swing it.

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lemmy.world

Not always My gf is bi and will actively send me pictures of models of characters calling them hot and asking if I think they are It's pretty nice to have a gf that you can actively call people hot too

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I'm bi and every relationship I've had was like this. Drooling over people and characters together is just something I like to do in relationships. It's a fun bonding activity. Plus it's weirdly good for my self confidence for somebody to be drooling over somebody else who even I know is hot as fuck but they still clearly want to be with me more.

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Stalinwolfreply
lemmy.ca

I suppose I didn't consider swinging it from that angle.

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You could swing it into a reflex angle by considering that such a question is quite normal in polyamory (not throuples triads specifically). I tend to date women who are bi or pan, and we'll regularly bring up people we find attractive. Hell, I had a partner go up to a bartender to give her number to her once while we were out on a date. It made me smile to see her shoot her shot like that!

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lemmy.world

My wife asked me if I thought an actress on television was pretty, I simply told her they don't put ugly people on tv

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Also safe AF 👍.

From my experince, any answer that doesn't directly confirm or deny is a safe answer.

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"Thank GOD, I was hoping I wasn't the only one who noticed! I've been dying over here trying not to say anything."

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"You don't actually think I'm gonna walk into that trap, do ya?"

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lemmy.world

“She seems like she’s conventionally attractive, but subjectively, she’s not my type.”

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Good 👍. A lot of long complicated words in there! Leaves room for interpritation!

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“She hasn’t mentioned anything. Hey Ashley is the temperature in here ok for you?”

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lemmy.world

Really, we’re doing this now? Posting fucking screenshots of fucking Reddit? Fuck off

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Dawnreply
lemmy.blahaj.zone

would you react the same way if this was a twitter screenshot?

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I can never keep track of all of her friend's names anyway, so I wouldn't know who she was talking about.

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Well, would you look at the time? I'm late for my... walking ten miles in one direction appointment!

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