Getting wrapped in a blanket, sitting in front of the PC with a bowl of Nachos with Cheese and playing Factorio while watching or listening to true crime videos/podcasts.
Honestly my nails are so thin and brittle they break if I look at them too hard and painting them myself never stays on for more than a day. If you have strong nails get a gel manicure and if your nails are like mine I get gel with acrylic nails and fill them in every 3 weeks.
When I have enough saved up, I go to a friend of mine that's an artist and make a request, especially if I've made a new character recently. It feels like I get to have my imagination put into visible, concrete form.
I've never had one, but I've been considering getting a sports massage. Do you have a specific type of massage that you like? What do you look for in a masseur/clinic?
You'll have to try different things to find what you like! I get a lot of deep tissue and therapeutic work done.
I also am a massage therapist, so I'd be happy to answer any questions!
Hmm, I guess my main question is what I should know before booking a massage and what red flags to look out for? I also recall reading somewhere that you have to get massages regularly to get the full benefit of them, like weekly/monthly, is that true?
I'm not a fan of a place that will book you same day. Also avoid sketchy looking places, if you're looking for a reputable massage, not sex work. Also red flags are someone who doesn't listen to your concerns, someone who promises they can fix everything, and (for me) a generic place where they won't tailor things to your needs.
As far as benefits go, there can be a benefit from going a single time! Depends what you're looking for. If you have ongoing issues that's your like to work on, regular massage is great!
Finding the right massage therapist is like finding the right therapist (if you haven't done that either, there's a bit of a feeling things out process to find someone you really connect with and can do some good work with).
I highly recommend basically anything from Sally's Baking Addiction. I've never had one of her recipes fail, and they've always come out absolutely delicious to the delight of my family and friends. I also like her site because she actually covers a lot of details about what's important to pay attention to in each recipe, which substitutions work & which don't, qualitative as well as quantitative criteria for each step, and both metric and US customary units for ingredients.
Recent award-winners include her Schwarzwälder Kirschtorte, Seriously Fudgy Brownies, Maple Pecan Tassies, Gingerbread Cookies, Very Peanut Butter Cookies, and multiple cheesecakes based on her classic recipe.
I also recently made Claire Saffitz's chocolate layer cake that was featured in NYT Cooking.
Ever heard of chocolate covered espresso beans? Most better candy shops have them, as well as some coffee shops. Think peanut M&Ms except with espresso beans instead of peanuts.
Oh man I am treating myself with white nectarines rn!
Found a neat trick, the house is freezing so I didn't want to bite into a cold nectarine so I threw it in the oven at the lowest setting for like 10 mins and it came out SO JUICY AND SWEET!
Often it's on technical subjects, but not always. Most recently I read an academic paper on a new method for accelerating the execution engines of dynamic programming languages. The new copy-and-patch technique allows such an engine to generate more optimal code very quickly and without manual programming of machine specific hand tuning that is often not economically viable.
Speaking more recently, I enjoyed reading a paper and this article about the paper. "What Is It Like to Be a Bat?" concerning the mind-body problem.
Lately it's been beans and toast? Weird, but I look forward to it. Can't eat tooo many beans ofc, for social reasons, so that's why it feels like a treat
Therapy can help. I also had suicidal thought and after a year and change of weekly sessions life is a lot more enjoyable. Won't pretend to know the mental health system in your area, but it's something worth pursing. You deserve happiness just as much as anyone else.
You literally do. A relationship something from 3 decades ago is not a life sentance to pain. Flogging yourself about whatever happened helps no one, especially not her.
I care for you. I know how hard it is to get started. But I feel you wouldn't have left a comment like that unless you needed someone to tell you it's okay to be better. It's okay to work on it. You deserve better then to lock yourself in a prison of misery.
I’d agree but it was my fault. I broke up with her in an impulsive ADHD spaz.
And then I didn’t try hard enough to get her back. I felt maybe if I respected her boundaries she’d allow me back in her life but it never happened. I should’ve tried harder to communicate.
So nope! It’s all self-hatred from here on down. Plus the turtles.
Oh sweetie, we all do silly things in our youth we regret. Thats part of life and growing older. This is absoutly nothing to ruminate over. I really think you can improve your day to day by working on your mental health. Self-hatred is easy, but its miserable and serves no one.
Very kind of you but the fact remains for me that the shadow of this relationship follows me everywhere and I can’t let it go or forgive myself for destroying it. No counselling will help. It is what it is.
I understand that our lives are brief and pointless. The only magic is what we create in our own heads, sometimes dangerously. I don’t claim to be special or demand the universe unwind back 30 years to fix it. She’s moved on. I haven’t. It’s pathetic on my part, but there it is. TBH I’d rather we had kept going and destroyed each other, or she cheated on me or pretty much anything else except what actually happened.
I feel defeated when good people here say they feel like this. There's so much I'd offer to fix this feeling people have. I really wish you the best if not actively able to help in some way.
Friday morning breakfast. Lately I've been making fancy pancakes. Last time was apple cinnamon pancakes with real maple syrup and a honey-vanilla compound butter. It was divine.
Every now and then our Lidl (in Germany) has a French Week. The Muffins they sell are amazing. They are filled to the brim with chocolate cream and the amount of sugar in these things will hit your brain like a truck.
Incredibly unhealthy. But I don’t care. They are like sweet crack.
Hey for a store bought brand Ghirardelli is pretty good, its my go-to sweet when I'm on keto.
Honestly it's a lot better than 70% of the 'artisanal' supremely overpriced coarse ground hippy dippy small batch chocolates that are apparently all the rage with foodies.
This would generally very quickly stop being a casual conversation saying stuff like that, there's no point to it. Most of us get it, we're not here to be reminded.
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A lemmy after my own heart. 8pm bedtime just hits different
Getting wrapped in a blanket, sitting in front of the PC with a bowl of Nachos with Cheese and playing Factorio while watching or listening to true crime videos/podcasts.
The factory must grow
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Turning my phone off and playing computer games all night.
Same but with books for me
Getting my nails done!
I love painting my nails too, but I can never keep it looking nice for more than 3 days 😔 any tips?
Honestly my nails are so thin and brittle they break if I look at them too hard and painting them myself never stays on for more than a day. If you have strong nails get a gel manicure and if your nails are like mine I get gel with acrylic nails and fill them in every 3 weeks.
I buy a can of rice pudding, eat it out of the tin
And lick it clean.
mood
Simple pleasures
Commissioning artwork.
When I have enough saved up, I go to a friend of mine that's an artist and make a request, especially if I've made a new character recently. It feels like I get to have my imagination put into visible, concrete form.
Patron of the arts 🫡
Spending time here.
Yeah actually this is it for me
I feel ya, I enjoy talking to cool folks online. What are your favorite spots on Lemmy for good conversation?
This community and the two ask lemmy subsections. For everything else, it depends on the circumstances.
I looked at my long list of chores and it was just too sunny outside.
I went fishing instead. Didn't catch a thing and it was great.
Waiting for sun in my area 😔 Lately, on days we get sun, I've enjoyed lying down in a sunny patch on the floor and watching the clouds. Pure serenity
Getting a monthly massage
I've never had one, but I've been considering getting a sports massage. Do you have a specific type of massage that you like? What do you look for in a masseur/clinic?
You'll have to try different things to find what you like! I get a lot of deep tissue and therapeutic work done.
I also am a massage therapist, so I'd be happy to answer any questions!
Thanks, I will look those up!
Hmm, I guess my main question is what I should know before booking a massage and what red flags to look out for? I also recall reading somewhere that you have to get massages regularly to get the full benefit of them, like weekly/monthly, is that true?
I'm not a fan of a place that will book you same day. Also avoid sketchy looking places, if you're looking for a reputable massage, not sex work. Also red flags are someone who doesn't listen to your concerns, someone who promises they can fix everything, and (for me) a generic place where they won't tailor things to your needs. As far as benefits go, there can be a benefit from going a single time! Depends what you're looking for. If you have ongoing issues that's your like to work on, regular massage is great!
Finding the right massage therapist is like finding the right therapist (if you haven't done that either, there's a bit of a feeling things out process to find someone you really connect with and can do some good work with).
Tyvm for the detailed reply!
On a big desserts kick right now. Just made a Black Forest gateau. Better than getting drunk.
Recommend me recipes? My problem is that I enjoy the baking more than the eating though haha
I highly recommend basically anything from Sally's Baking Addiction. I've never had one of her recipes fail, and they've always come out absolutely delicious to the delight of my family and friends. I also like her site because she actually covers a lot of details about what's important to pay attention to in each recipe, which substitutions work & which don't, qualitative as well as quantitative criteria for each step, and both metric and US customary units for ingredients.
Recent award-winners include her Schwarzwälder Kirschtorte, Seriously Fudgy Brownies, Maple Pecan Tassies, Gingerbread Cookies, Very Peanut Butter Cookies, and multiple cheesecakes based on her classic recipe.
I also recently made Claire Saffitz's chocolate layer cake that was featured in NYT Cooking.
Thanks for the detailed response! Saved it, will pick something to try when I next go to the grocery store
Many many packs of nori and a few beers.
Crunching away like a goofball
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Crunchy foods are fun
The coconut waters that have the additional pineapple flavor.
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Pork belly miso ramen or an opera cream latte!
First time hearing about opera cream, sounds fancy
It's SO fancy!
Ever heard of chocolate covered espresso beans? Most better candy shops have them, as well as some coffee shops. Think peanut M&Ms except with espresso beans instead of peanuts.
Delicious but you spend the same amount of time it to takes to eat them trying to get all the bean fragments out of your teeth
Yeah, I prefer chocolate covered nuts over these
Fruits
Fruits!
Oh man I am treating myself with white nectarines rn!
Found a neat trick, the house is freezing so I didn't want to bite into a cold nectarine so I threw it in the oven at the lowest setting for like 10 mins and it came out SO JUICY AND SWEET!
Like roast apples I guess.
Fruit rules!
I went through a chocolate period and that was fun. At this point, uh, buying liquor. Not even the expensive stuff now though.
I want to say be careful but I don't want to sound patronizing. Alcoholism scares me
Alcoholism isn’t required for drinking liquor. It’s optional.
Fair enough
Cooking like 3 different meals for the whole week.
Are you me? I love doing this, there's something so primally satisfying about knowing your meals for the week are sorted
What should i eat for dinner? Sike it's already done. So good.
Make something nice for dinner, open a nice bottle of wine, leave the dishes until the morning, have a wank, and watch a favourite film on TV.
Sounds like a perfect weekday evening
Cuddle up with tea and a good article driving deep into a fascinating subject.
This sounds fantastic. What are some good articles you've read?
Often it's on technical subjects, but not always. Most recently I read an academic paper on a new method for accelerating the execution engines of dynamic programming languages. The new copy-and-patch technique allows such an engine to generate more optimal code very quickly and without manual programming of machine specific hand tuning that is often not economically viable.
Speaking more recently, I enjoyed reading a paper and this article about the paper. "What Is It Like to Be a Bat?" concerning the mind-body problem.
I enjoy that "learned something new" feeling.
Lately it's been beans and toast? Weird, but I look forward to it. Can't eat tooo many beans ofc, for social reasons, so that's why it feels like a treat
Eat more fiber man, you won't have that problem
Kit-kats and a jerk session. 2 for before and 2 for after
Chocolate is definitely different with that spicy jerk sauce aftertaste.
A decent steak. Cooking it is as rewarding as eating it.
Epsom salt bath with bath oils and some of that jazz lettuce while watching Star Trek
Fancy baths are awesome
Therapy can help. I also had suicidal thought and after a year and change of weekly sessions life is a lot more enjoyable. Won't pretend to know the mental health system in your area, but it's something worth pursing. You deserve happiness just as much as anyone else.
Thanks. It’s a nice thought but I honestly don’t deserve happiness. I thought I was ok for a day or so, but actually not.
You literally do. A relationship something from 3 decades ago is not a life sentance to pain. Flogging yourself about whatever happened helps no one, especially not her.
I care for you. I know how hard it is to get started. But I feel you wouldn't have left a comment like that unless you needed someone to tell you it's okay to be better. It's okay to work on it. You deserve better then to lock yourself in a prison of misery.
I’d agree but it was my fault. I broke up with her in an impulsive ADHD spaz. And then I didn’t try hard enough to get her back. I felt maybe if I respected her boundaries she’d allow me back in her life but it never happened. I should’ve tried harder to communicate.
So nope! It’s all self-hatred from here on down. Plus the turtles.
Oh sweetie, we all do silly things in our youth we regret. Thats part of life and growing older. This is absoutly nothing to ruminate over. I really think you can improve your day to day by working on your mental health. Self-hatred is easy, but its miserable and serves no one.
You and your turtles deserve better!
Very kind of you but the fact remains for me that the shadow of this relationship follows me everywhere and I can’t let it go or forgive myself for destroying it. No counselling will help. It is what it is.
I understand that our lives are brief and pointless. The only magic is what we create in our own heads, sometimes dangerously. I don’t claim to be special or demand the universe unwind back 30 years to fix it. She’s moved on. I haven’t. It’s pathetic on my part, but there it is. TBH I’d rather we had kept going and destroyed each other, or she cheated on me or pretty much anything else except what actually happened.
Bah.
Unless you're stomping on kittens, you deserve happiness.
As a mod, I must say... bro nooooooo :(
I feel defeated when good people here say they feel like this. There's so much I'd offer to fix this feeling people have. I really wish you the best if not actively able to help in some way.
Uh, yeah thanks. C’est la vie.
I bake myself stuff with expensive butter. Kerrygold or Cabot Farms.
ohmyglob croissants made with premium butter are better than money to me.
My mouth is watering just reading this
A hot bath. Or if I need extra, a night at the local Kabuki-style bath house.
I love taking baths when I'm sore! Too lazy to take them otherwise. Do you have any special bath time rituals or anything you do to make it more fun?
It's easier some times than others. If I'm engrossed in a book it makes a great pairing.
My partner also takes baths for relaxing a lot and he will put a computer on a chair and watch TV while soaking.
Friday morning breakfast. Lately I've been making fancy pancakes. Last time was apple cinnamon pancakes with real maple syrup and a honey-vanilla compound butter. It was divine.
Yummy!
Going to Lidl to see what new continental sweet foods they've got that day on the middle aisle.
Every now and then our Lidl (in Germany) has a French Week. The Muffins they sell are amazing. They are filled to the brim with chocolate cream and the amount of sugar in these things will hit your brain like a truck.
Incredibly unhealthy. But I don’t care. They are like sweet crack.
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Two glasses of wine, three cats, and a night of giggling at the TV with my husband.
Comments like this make me wish I had a cat lol
Strangulation
Stay safe, friend
What is your fancy dark chocolate?
Just Ghirardelli haha
Hey for a store bought brand Ghirardelli is pretty good, its my go-to sweet when I'm on keto.
Honestly it's a lot better than 70% of the 'artisanal' supremely overpriced coarse ground hippy dippy small batch chocolates that are apparently all the rage with foodies.
This would generally very quickly stop being a casual conversation saying stuff like that, there's no point to it. Most of us get it, we're not here to be reminded.
You didn't answer the question or have interest in pursuing a conversation about the topic at hand.