I knew this post wouldn't be a very "positive" one. But man that's messed up. I think I understand now.

Fuck you very much, ChatGPT.

I get that it's not my responsibility to make her happy. But isn't there like a soft way of telling her I'm letting this ship sail on without me?

Have you ever experienced sexual attraction?

Yeah, like a ton actually. Sorry I forgot to mention I do in fact develop feelings for people.

Edit: I added it to the description now

Not exactly answering the question here but I am wondering about whether or not this counts as inceldom.

So here's the deal with me. I am an ugly person who is only attracted to attractive women. I have tried dating women who were, for a lack of better term, "looks-matched". But even though we actually connected really well I just couldn't develop any romantic feelings for them because of their looks.

Now this has left me in a situation where I am certain I will never get a girlfriend. My beauty standards are just too high. But I do not blame women for this. It's perfectly reasonable for attractive people to want attractive partners. Hell, that's pretty much my standard as well when it comes to dating (except I'm not physically attractive). So whadaya gonna do?

Do you have to be friends first before you flirt? (I feel like a damn toddler or alien, asking these questions. 😅)

Okay, clearly you're at the end of your rope here. And I thank you for sticking around for as long as you could.

Ask out your crushes instead of trying to force a crush on someone you’re not attracted to.

So you just, ask them out? Do you need to behave any differently as you would with a friend?

Flirting is just friendly chatting.

Wait, so how is that different with friends??

and my AI formaliser helped me to be more passionate

It actually very much did the opposite. Because now there is no actual passion behind it. None, whatsoever.

If I’m interpreting what you’re saying correctly, ‘get serious’ was just used to mean ‘the sexy time is about to happen’ , no?

Yeah, this is 100% what I meant, when sexy time is about to happen. It would be pretty bad if the relationship got serious and then tell them you're just in it for the sex. 😅

This particular response shows more human emotion that your formaliser ever could (at least as of now).

Not sure if you’re serious - but thank you, if you are.

I honestly am, I appreciate well written English.

If you’re ‘reserved’ and plan on telling them before you have sex with them, ok - I can acknowledge that that isn’t cowardly.

Yes, I do always tell them before hand. But usually I wait for that until things start to get serious. However I'll probably have to tell her sooner rather than later.

Edit: What I mean by 'get serious', is the initial sign of her showing sexual interest back.

It's as Jax put it. I didn't phrase it very clearly. I meant I usually tell them I don't want anything serious when I feel like they show romantic/sexual interest in me.

Why not just use Tinder for hookups?

Can you have a guess?

Okay I probably should've mentioned this. I most certainly do and can develop feelings for people but I just don't know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

Edit: Okay it's edited into the description now.

I'm good at talking to people. I basically talk with whomever, whensoever I feel like it. So yes I actually have people in my life I don't even like but they like me back.

Sorta, I don't really care that much for the relationship part. I mean, if I like the girl and she wants to make it official I'll play ball, ya know.

but then what is your actual challenge here?

I don't know, that's a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

So you mean like a woman beats (or like really harasses) a man and in order to keep her at ease he relents? (English is not my first language)

You open this post saying you like her, you carry on showing us your concerns, but at the end you’re in just for sex- this is confusing.

I mean, she is nice and normally I'd strike up a conversation when I see her (but I'm going to stop doing that). But just because I'm only interested in having sex with her doesn't mean I only view her in an object sort of way. I'm not saying you were implying this specifically, btw. But I hope this helps clear it up a little.

If I were in your shoes, I’d encourage her to get professional help, and I’d run away.

I am probably going to do this.