this is what I believe is going to happen: survival of the richest.

Sure, we are pushing for renewable energies and some countries are even pushing for net zero emissions, but stats don't lie and we are still warming the world much faster than before ww2 (see picture) and most politicians seem to enjoy burying their heads in the sand, because its what their voters want. Where I live politicians talk about carbon sequestering and hydrogen cars, for example, but its always for an interview, with no follow up whatsoever.

picture:

I'm not claiming authoritarian countries are better just for being authoritarian, they also need growth not to risk social unrest and their elites also want to get rich.

Oil dependency seems not to be anywhere near of being reduced and in some countries like the US and I'm assuming the oil producing countries there is simply no political will, because their budget depends on it. For maga gas means identity.

Some countries are heading in the right direction, more EVs are being produced and pushing for net zero, but it's a very slow transition that won't save the planet and I'm not even sure these countries represent most of the human population.

We are simply too many and too greedy: everyone wants to consume.

It is completely unrealistic to expect humans not to be greedy, or to subscribe to left leaning philosophies of human love, human rights, the right to a home or distribution of wealth. In the end we all are monkeys, more now than ever, given how the far right has become so mainstream. It is simply what people want.

So the rich ones, the one who can afford air conditioning, not to rent, an electric vehicle and to relocate to areas where global warming is mitigated will do that, whereas most of the rest will have to bear the brunt of falling social services, even hotter heatwaves, poorer air and drier parks, and surviving instead of living.

If you feel I'm wrong, kindly prove it to me.

I workout every day on a sports field next to a university campus, a place I always considered safe because people actually leave their stuff on the stands and workout on the field. It's expected you respect other's belongings.

Today I left my gloves on the first stand and proceeded to stretch on the field. A woman came by, placed her bike next to the gloves, covered the gloves with her jacket and started running.

I witnessed it all and said nothing because she didn't take the gloves, "just" covered them.

I ended my routine and thought about asking her to move her jacket so I could recover my gloves but she was training on the other side of the field, so I simply lifted her jacket, recovered my gloves and left.

I now believe she thought she could get em for free and nobody would notice.

I don't know if I'm being paranoid. Does this look like an opportunist thief to you?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/41087503

I can understand buying shoes online if you're looking for a specific model and brand you already tried and fits.

This is not my case: I'm looking for stiletto heels online because where I live there are no sizes that match my feet or heels are too short.

Online there are several stiletto makers, most of them China based, meaning that if I don't like the shoes or they don't fit, I have to pay the return shipping costs, which are most likely higher than the purchase price.

most sellers include a sizing chart, but this means nothing: I've bought shoes according to their charts and sometimes they're off, meaning to make it make sense I'd have to buy several sizes to see which one fits and return the ones that don't.

Overall seems to be a losing proposition, but where I am I find no high heels that fit me.

Has any of you ever done something like this?

I can understand buying shoes online if you're looking for a specific model and brand you already tried and fits.

This is not my case: I'm looking for stiletto heels online because where I live there are no sizes that match my feet or heels are too short.

Online there are several stiletto makers, most of them China based, meaning that if I don't like the shoes or they don't fit, I have to pay the return shipping costs, which are most likely higher than the purchase price.

most sellers include a sizing chart, but this means nothing: I've bought shoes according to their charts and sometimes they're off, meaning to make it make sense I'd have to buy several sizes to see which one fits and return the ones that don't.

Overall seems to be a losing proposition, but where I am I find no high heels that fit me.

Has any of you ever done something like this?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/39972861

compare these 2 high heeled sandals:

the ankle strap on the white model seems like a good choice: it's low enough for the feet to slide in and wont touch the leg, meaning nothing constrains the ankle's rotation.

the red model seems like an odd choice: won't it make it ankle rotation more cumbersome? It would be more logical to attach the ankle strap to the foot and not the leg. Or am I missing something?

It also looks strange, having an ankle strap so high. Why would the designer attach the strap right at the end of the slingback and not in the middle, like in the white model?

compare these 2 high heeled sandals:

the ankle strap on the white model seems like a good choice: it's low enough for the feet to slide in and wont touch the leg, meaning nothing constrains the ankle's rotation.

the red model seems like an odd choice: won't it make it ankle rotation more cumbersome? It would be more logical to attach the ankle strap to the foot and not the leg. Or am I missing something?

It also looks strange, having an ankle strap so high. Why would the designer attach the strap right at the end of the slingback and not in the middle, like in the white model?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/39916326

my regular shoe size is US 11 (10.5 in, 26.7 cm), so I'd be buying a US 10.5 (10.3 in, 26.2 cm).

A coworker I know does this sometimes. She says its ok with heeled sandals and slingbacks, but not ok with pumps, because sandals and slingbacks are open.

What's your experience? I really like that model and size 11 is sold out.

my regular shoe size is US 11 (10.5 in, 26.7 cm), so I'd be buying a US 10.5 (10.3 in, 26.2 cm).

A coworker I know does this sometimes. She says its ok with heeled sandals and slingbacks, but not ok with pumps, because sandals and slingbacks are open.

What's your experience? I really like that model and size 11 is sold out.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/38799262

Let me explain what I mean:

radical acceptance: ever think about how your coworkers are morons, your elderly parents have declined beyond recognition and actively work against you and seem to live to ruin every single one of your days, your boss is an insufferable, exploitative ass, your uncle has lung cancer but keeps smoking a pack a day, your teenager daughter is doing drugs because is trendy, just like you did when you were her age? You cannot change how any of those actors in your life behave, people are free to do whatever they want, even to do stupid crap like that. Trying to change any of those actors is futile and guarantees your mental health decreases overtime and they resent you for caring about them. The better but not ideal solution? Radical acceptance. They are what they are, don’t try to change them, accept them how they are. Let them fail.

This was suggested to me while talking about relatives with dementia and other mental illnesses, but I don’t know if I’m stretching the definition too much.

Spineless conformist: if there are things I cannot control nor change, like climate change, lack of a public healthcare system in America, fptp, maga… why even try? I’d be both radical accepting reality while being a spineless conformist.

Where’s do you draw the line?

Let me explain what I mean:

radical acceptance: ever think about how your coworkers are morons, your elderly parents have declined beyond recognition and actively work against you and seem to live to ruin every single one of your days, your boss is an insufferable, exploitative ass, your uncle has lung cancer but keeps smoking a pack a day, your teenager daughter is doing drugs because is trendy, just like you did when you were her age? You cannot change how any of those actors in your life behave, people are free to do whatever they want, even to do stupid crap like that. Trying to change any of those actors is futile and guarantees your mental health decreases overtime and they resent you for caring about them. The better but not ideal solution? Radical acceptance. They are what they are, don’t try to change them, accept them how they are. Let them fail.

This was suggested to me while talking about relatives with dementia and other mental illnesses, but I don’t know if I’m stretching the definition too much.

Spineless conformist: if there are things I cannot control nor change, like climate change, lack of a public healthcare system in America, fptp, maga… why even try? I’d be both radical accepting reality while being a spineless conformist.

Where’s do you draw the line?

I remember my childhood mostly as a happy, oblivious one, affordable food, the usual disagreements between liberals and republicans, but nothing unhinged (say taxes, migrants or abortion). At least it looks reasonable today.

Now it's like everything is unhinged: politics seem to be based on purely emotional reactions and the other side is hell bent on destroying the country: texas starts heavily gerrymandering to secure 5 extra republican seats at the next midterms? california starts lobbying for doing exactly the same and dismantling an independent redistricting commission texas never had.

When I was younger it seemed politics were more rational and cruelty never seemed to be the point of doing nothing. Now we execute people with nitrogen gas, meaning a conscious person has to breathe something he knows its going to kill him during 4 minutes. This is somehow not cruel and unusual. And nobody bats an eye.

I still don't get how populists can be so popular now, they simplify complex issues most people without a degree in the matter, cannot grasp. This includes me.

I'm now 35 and wonder if I'm already talking like an old person who misses his young days so hard. I see that in people in their 60s and hoped never to become one of them, but here I am. To a younger person I may look like one of those old guys who lives to rant.

Am I going to feel even more detached and depressed with each passing day?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/37060682

my only motivation to be there is to earn money and my 401k. So many of my coworkers and management feel offended by this statement.

I'm union. Union lawyer thinks this is a management strategy to try to manipulate me.

Cue BS answer for any c-suite that tries making me feel insecure over this:

well, I'm a terrible liar, that's why I'm asking you :D

the unfriendly party might be easy: I'm always friendly and direct because I want to work. maybe that?

my only motivation to be there is to earn money and my 401k. So many of my coworkers and management feel offended by this statement.

I'm union. Union lawyer thinks this is a management strategy to try to manipulate me.

Cue BS answer for any c-suite that tries making me feel insecure over this:

well, I'm a terrible liar, that's why I'm asking you :D

the unfriendly party might be easy: I'm always friendly and direct because I want to work. maybe that?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/36655278

I was expecting lemmy to sort posts by upvotes but this is not the case: I often find a post with 70 upvotes further down the thread than a post with 20 upvotes.

what decides what goes up and what down?

I was expecting lemmy to sort posts by upvotes but this is not the case: I often find a post with 70 upvotes further down the thread than a post with 20 upvotes.

what decides what goes up and what down?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/35965987

this is a coworker.

to me a clear no, this person jokes about it and smiles. I can share her frustration with stupid job tasks, demanding clients, or having to get up too early, commute... I find her genuine and full of energy, I like working with her, she's sincere. I like that in people, she likes to help.

However, other 2 female colleagues have the opposite point of view: there is something that troubles her because she constantly jokes about death, killing herself due to some clients, waking up early...

We all agree she is so full of energy, my colleagues say she jokes about it constantly. I hear her joking about once or twice a day.

Am I being naive?

this is a coworker.

to me a clear no, this person jokes about it and smiles. I can share her frustration with stupid job tasks, demanding clients, or having to get up too early, commute... I find her genuine and full of energy, I like working with her, she's sincere. I like that in people, she likes to help.

However, other 2 female colleagues have the opposite point of view: there is something that troubles her because she constantly jokes about death, killing herself due to some clients, waking up early...

We all agree she is so full of energy, my colleagues say she jokes about it constantly. I hear her joking about once or twice a day.

Am I being naive?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/33065306

I don't know what to think about it:

On one hand she looked ridiculous, wearing expensive make up and clothes, dyed hair, polished nails... the whole nine yards. She was together with a man who I thought was her husband, turns out was her son who was with her to make sure she doesn't wander off. She was slow giving answers and wanted to walk away, but her son always told her not to and to wait for the ambulance.

On the other hand, who am I to judge that woman if it makes her happy to dress like that? in 5 years or less she might not even remember her name. Who cares what she looks like? let her live like she wants.

this got me thinking, because on a previous post about aging another member of lemmy wrote never to act your age and to remain curious about anything, never to think that my way or my generation's way of doing things is the only right one as a way to avoid being a judgemental, sad and angry old person and to avoid dementia. Ain't this woman doing exactly this, not acting her age?

Still, to me looks like a complete waste of a life not to act your age to pretend being 40 years younger than you are. I would hate myself if all I can think about when I'm 80 is how to have sex with somebody 60 years my junior.

Is my future going to be that, to dress to look younger to try and get some attention from the opposite sex?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/30568522

I've heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it's like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends...

I couldn't survive such a radical personality change.

Does this phase eventually runs its course?

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?

I've heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it's like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends...

I couldn't survive such a radical personality change.

Does this phase eventually runs its course?

How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?

How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?

Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?