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People who dated a jerk/abusive person. How it started? How they convinced you to date them? How long it took them to mask off?

She messaged me first on Hinge, the mask was off pretty quick but I overlooked/excused the red flags. Astrology and Instagram wellness type that went to college in Los Angeles, by date 5 she had told me "lying comes naturally to us pisces" twice, and that she didn't have a positive relationship with psychology growing up until starting her psych PhD due to her having dissociative identity disorder & dad also being a therapist. However the motivation for the PhD was to charge therapy clients more money.

She ended things after a few months saying "I'm not feeling the way I want to feel", "our energies are too similar", and that she'd "fondly remember me" during the breakup phone call. Turns out she was insulting me on twitter the whole time about my perceived income, said her therapist called me a beta male, and that "these dudes never buy me flowers and act sooooo surprised when I break up with them".

Also used to have blowjobs in her twitter handle & dudes were tweeting at her saying thank you for the starbang, but that was more weird/trashy than shitty or abusive.

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Scientists Use AI to Prove People Can Be Talked Out of Conspiracy Theories

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With the inherent biases present in any LLM training model, the issue of hallucinations that you've brought up, alongside the cost of running an LLM at scale being prohibitive to anyone besides private-state partnerships, do you think that will allay conspiracists' valid concerns about the centralization of information access, a la the reduction in quality google search results over the past decade and a half?

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I seriously hate that lots of men believe "women like to be abused". It's also troubling that people tolerate this type of thinking so casually. (more in the post)

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I'm still in a pretty dark place 10 months after getting dumped by someone I was really fond of, who was tweeting stuff about me like "equinox [an expensive gym] is a hella good deal, maybe there I'll find a man who actually has an income" & "my therapist called the guy I'm seeing a beta male" for the entire time we were together. A few days after the breakup she tweeted "these dudes never buy me flowers and act sooo surprised when I break up with them".

She's the type who posted ass on instagram and studied in LA, identifies as a feminist and a socialist; I recognize this is an individual behaving in a stereotypical way instead of it being a hard rule for all women. I do also feel sympathetic for her dissociative identity disorder (think I saw a different ego state when she told me she liked me after crying during sex—apparently b/c she "didn't deserve such a nice guy" but tweeted I was a beta 6 hours earlier) and that doesn't excuse these actions/sense of entitlement.

Naturally, how I was informed that we were no longer together was that "you're wonderful it's not you, I'm not feeling the way I want to feel, we're just too similar" and that I'd "be remembered fondly"... I make almost twice her psychology PhD tuition & gifted my dead cat's toys for her adopted kitten. So yeah, an individual occurrence but it really reinforced some stereotypes I'm trying to dispel. Of course I recognize if I was more financially ostentatious & she stuck around longer, issues would have manifested somehow else.

Anyways sorry for whingeing, I'm still self-flagellating over consciously overlooking red flags like being told "lying comes naturally to us pisces" twice, "I'm getting my PhD to charge my clients more", and "I just want to be rich to feed my family the healthiest foods".

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Weird dark mode text behavior on Android 15

Similar issue with contacts who don't have a picture associated with their info card/page/profile. Stock Android (GOS in my case) sometimes displays the contact's first & last name initials in a circle (i.e. on the favorites page the phone app) in a color that is nearly identical to the circle's background color.